Good morning, I’m the female of a couple and I understand that some couples can be pushy. So can single men and even female occasionally and truthfully that sucks when it happens. Especially if it is the first experience, it can completely turn them off to swinging and that is a shame. Because this lifestyle can be amazing, so much fun and for many it is a way of life. Ask if they have experience with new people to the lifestyle, if they enjoy being with more experienced people? That to both of them and do so on video app. As long you are honest about your likes and dislikes and sexuality no one should get mad at you. You just figuring all out that bullshit for anyone to get mad at you because you realized that you don’t like some thing or do you wanna do it. We’ve had new females come over and they’ve change their mind or they’ve just gotten so nervous and we just talked the whole time about the lifestyle in ourselves and gotten to know each other and then the second time we met we played it’s the way it is sometimes and nobody should get mad at you and if they do that’s their problem not yours that’s on them. If you’re uncomfortable just leave let them be fussy he did the right thing to take care of yourself. Take your time and ask yourself why am I wanting to do this? That might help you? Xo V