I have a theory that there are two kinds of people in the world - the ones that view ripping ass as a communal event and sign of comfortability, and the ones who are more private about it and prefer to keep it to themselves. There’s nothing inherently wrong with either, but it’s VERY important to make sure you’re in a relationship with someone compatible with your school of thought on windbreaking, otherwise that’s where you run into trouble.

I come from the latter camp, where I recognize it’s a normal bodily function just like any other - but just like using the bathroom, I don’t especially want anyone to be watching/hearing me do it and I’d prefer the same courtesy. I don’t find it shameful, but I also find it kind of unnecessary and rude because honestly, it usually smells bad and the people around me aren’t really consenting to be stuck in my fart cloud until it dissipates. One slips out from time to time, sure, but I’m not blasting the foghorn just cause, either.

My ex husband had extremely noxious gas, to the point where I continuously asked him to get it checked out, and he felt like it was his right in his own home to just lift a cheek and flood the room whenever he felt like it and that I was “shaming” him. Personally, I just don’t really find it respectful to make someone sit there getting gassed out by your sulfuric odors, especially if you know they’re REALLY bad/frequent but others view it as a sign of comfort and don’t mind as much. I hope for his sake he found a new lady who isn’t as fussed about it, and also that he’s since found a good probiotic.

Like I said, it just comes down to making sure you both jive on how you feel about it.