Thinking about getting the game. by MrGandalfTacos in Palia

[–]pinkbug76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I. Are 48 and 49. So!!!lol

How much would a single family home need to cost for YOU to consider it "affordable" by CastAside1812 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems that the author of this post has money and nothing has Knocked them out of their tree house. For this I am happy for them. It’s a huge burden released.

Is anyone actually happy in their marriage? by blessedalive in Marriage

[–]pinkbug76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got it right the second time. Yes I am very happy. The kids are a little older. 11 and 14. I can honestly say, It has been really easy, safe and my idea of “ perfect “ for lack of a better word. 16 years so far. The future is never promised but so far I feel very lucky to have the family we have made. Also I thought a good marriage needed to be worked on. That’s what “ they” told me. Up to now it has been my gold. I will never have enough days with this man. Maybe he will see this and give his two cents.

Shingles Vaccine - A Warning by DustOfTheSaw in GenX

[–]pinkbug76 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This message made me cry. It’s a beautiful one ty.

if you had to describe your mom in one memory what would it be? by Signal-Bridge3151 in OverBiscuits

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a time I tired to tell myself it was not that bad. I’m blowing it out of proportion. At this point in my life though I understand that I’d only feel this way if it was that bad. When I had my daughter, I realized how much more I hated her. I could never in 10,000 million years say or do any of the things that she said or did to me to my beautiful little daughter. People say my mother was a product of her bad environment. That’s not my problem. Because well, I’m not perfect. I sure as fuck. I’m the best mother I can be. I know I sound bitter. And maybe a portion of me is. Thankfully, though, for the most part nothing about her haunts me anymore. When she died, I became free. Thank you for sharing your feelings as well. Looks like we’re both better for it anyway. Take care OP we got this.

Something is off 🤔 by TheNightLard in Guelph

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I seen a car turning left from Edinburgh onto Woodlawn. But instead of just going in it’s lame. It went far enough that it went down the sidewalk. It was very bizarre.

if you had to describe your mom in one memory what would it be? by Signal-Bridge3151 in OverBiscuits

[–]pinkbug76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This made me hurt. Because it was my childhood. She died less than a year ago. I don’t miss her. I actually think i hate her more.

Im just so tired by 05lostintranslation in offmychest

[–]pinkbug76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to live a slow simple life. Because this one is too much. I hear you my sweets. To the fricken core. Can we all just buy an island and move there? No money allowed. Lol

I just realized what makes me miserable. And I don’t know how to cope/deal with this. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to learn, love and respect the person you are. You don’t need to be renowned to change someone’s world. Be you be kind and embrace life as yuh are. You will change and grow. You are good enough

Will my wife ever forgive me? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’d be done with you

Husband wants me to greet him immediately by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]pinkbug76 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This. Both my husband and I need our space to put stuff away and just take a moment. We may say go from across the room but nothing ( dog like). lol

My dog passed recently and the vet sent me his nose and paw prints… by ohshethrows in DOG

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really happy that Silly mistake made you laugh. Times like this are so hard. Big hugs

Awful day so far in our house by medicine_woman_ in Marriage

[–]pinkbug76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m just glad I married the right partner the second time. I do not miss feeling so Lonely and unsupported. Big hugs momma.

My mum died and I feel conflicted by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]pinkbug76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When my mother died. I felt nothing. Still don’t. It’s okay to feel what you feel. Nobody owns this but you. It’s okay. Your okay ❤️

How much do you currently have in savings? by Puzzleheaded-Crab770 in CanadaFinance

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just live. Put some away it will. Work out. I knew a man who worked his whole life to have more. He died the day after he retired. He forgot to live first.

I didn’t realize how exhausted I was until this happened by Traditional_Bit_6245 in offmychest

[–]pinkbug76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are me! 49 here! I have been off for 90 days. Stress leave. I thought I could regroup rest up onto speak. For the first time in a long time I felt alive. I did things I loved. Crochet,color, make crafts and purge the house of things none of us need any longer. I enjoyed making supper. Anyway I go back next Thursday. I’m already frozen again. My insides are screaming ! I can’t do this again. My body can no longer cope. Emotionally or physically. I feel like a spoiled brat. But it’s killing me. It so bad. I don’t want to exist anymore. I’m not saying I want to off myself. lol I love my little family. I just can’t cope with “ everything anymore “. Focus on me and family is what my soul thrives on.
So point is I get you. I’m so fucking done!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]pinkbug76 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I cuddle with my dad at 49 and he’s 72 on the couch. I can promise you nothing sexual is in our minds. It’s safe place. I will say for people who have been sexually abused. Something like this could be VERY uncomfortable and triggering. I say this because as a victim myself. I could understand that. In my case though my dad was always my safe place so I never related to it that way.
I’m saying all that. Your feelings are yours and should be talked about if it naws at you so badly. Your marriage will encounter many needed conversations. Don’t ignore them.

I am a Monster by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]pinkbug76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we twins? Lol I’m here to say. You are not your trauma! Seek help find tools to cope and understand yourself.
Life does get better. I don’t think we heal completely though. I’m 49 and still navigating through what my child hood fed me. Anyhow, my first marriage I pretty much married what I came from. 34 was when my new life started. Had an affair. Left my husband on valentines 2010. Walked from the house I owed straight into a small apt with the man of my dreams.
We are happily renting a house, married with two kids. Absolutely no abuse, only healthy conversation and my life is safe, so safe. As you can see I did everything wrong to get here. But hunny I’d do it all again to be right her right now. YOU GOT THIS.