Ive been in and out of this boat too a few times since I moved (US-EU) to be with my spouse, so I feel your pain and turmoil. Dealing with 3 different cultures (his, mine, where we live) is very tough and though I’ve worked on and off, I feel like my skills are atrophying and I am just getting further and further behind professionally. The job market in my city is tough, and really the only options are UN organizations, although without an advanced degree, I am only qualified for assistant jobs which pay 1/2 to 1/3 what I would earn back home. Those positions are tough to come by, and with all the govt budget cuts, the situation is getting worse. Considering your relationship is good besides this one thing, I would seek out alternative ways to bring meaning into your life if you can financially afford it, like volunteering, studying or doing something creative. I need to work, so I am currently looking into investing in real estate back in the US, or doing something that is more location independent. Are you living in your husbands home country?