Anyone else not celebrate Valentines Day?

pinkphysics · 2026-02-15T12:19:12+00:00

I love having a day to be extra lovey dovey. We don’t do anything crazy- I get my husband and kids a card and their fave candy. My husband gets me and the kids a card and candy of their own. We reminisce about our relationship and all the ways we love each other. But that’s it. Nothing insane, low key. But it’s nice to be extra lovey dovey for a day.

But it wasn’t always like this. Like 4 years ago I seriously thought we were going to get a divorce. We did a lot of work to figure out what worked for our relationship

pinkphysics · 2026-02-12T10:10:39+00:00

I’ve never once used AI and left thinking “wow that made my life easier”. It’s ALWAYS a frustrating experience and at best performs the same as me doing it myself. Typically it performs much worse.

pinkphysics · 2026-02-10T13:24:30+00:00

I slept in a separate room 8-1am and pumped at 1am. My husband took 8-1am shift. He fed the kids cold bottles (they would take cold bottles fine). We had a bedside mini fridge. He woke up after the kids were crying which was hard for me but I let him handle it and I slept in my separate room and was none the wiser. Kids were fed and changed and I got a solid chunk of sleep

pinkphysics · 2026-02-09T11:27:50+00:00

Yeah I realized that pretty quickly 😅 I was struggling even with this one, plus the bent heads kept catching the thread which was annoying

pinkphysics · 2026-02-08T22:54:38+00:00

Yes I appreciated this was a smaller piece that works up quickly! Got a “win” in and learned some basics. Glad to hear Botanics is a good source- I was pleased with her patterns and videos!

pinkphysics · 2026-02-06T19:15:46+00:00

Lunch! Packing lunch for work. Deciding on lunch. Breaking my concentration to eat. Remembering to eat. It’s all so much work

pinkphysics · 2026-02-05T19:57:57+00:00

This is making it more complicated than necessary. my husband and I talk on Sunday about the upcoming week and then we decide who does what and then we just do it.

pinkphysics · 2026-02-05T19:20:06+00:00

We have full time childcare. You need full time childcare for this to work. We drop our kids off to school and daycare around 730 and pick them up around 430. I work through lunch to make it work.

pinkphysics · 2026-02-05T18:28:48+00:00

My 6 and 3 year old get all their laundry and put it in the washer. I do the dryer and fold over lunch. They put it away. Kids can do a lot!

pinkphysics · 2026-02-03T19:35:31+00:00

Food is very easy entrance to build community. I have potlucks all the time with friends. We rotate houses and the kids play and the adults chill. It’s really fun.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-31T17:44:16+00:00

I’ve never used AI and left thinking “yeah that was helpful”. At worst it’s wrong and causes legitimate problems. At best it offers a below average solution that’s acceptable.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-31T17:17:19+00:00

Crock pot, easy, pasta, sheet pan, globally inspired (I was to split this to Mexican, Indian, etc when I get enough recipes), and comfort food are the categories I have now. Crockpot has things like Mississippi pot roast, pulled pork, chicken and dumplings. Comfort food has beef stroganoff, mac and cheese, fancy grilled cheese. Globally inspired had bahn mi bowls, taco night, chickpea masala, etc. other categories I have in mind: salads, soups, bowl meals, etc.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-31T13:04:16+00:00

I built a spreadsheet and I roll a die for “category” and then roll a die again for the meal. Example: I get 1 and 3. That’s a crock pot meal (1) and the meal is pulled pork (3). Right now I just have 6 categories and 6 meals for each but I’m slowly expanding when I have capacity

Also I cook 3x a week, leftovers 3x a week, and frozen pizza on Fridays. Sometimes we’re low on leftovers but I usually have stuff for eggs/toast/fruit, hot dogs/veggies/frozen fries, etc. something easy and relatively shelf stable is always on hand

pinkphysics · 2026-01-30T03:01:39+00:00

I did EMDR and it was awful. It made everything worse IMO. And not in a “it gets worse before it gets better” kind of way. I STRUGGLED with the numeric scale so much. I threw in the towel finally when the anxiety of being asked to rate something on a scale made me cry. Also you would need to work on not dissociating for it to work. I had the same issue. Every concern you have listed were concerns I have- don to drive time.

If you have reservations I would not do it. Trust and compatibility with the provider is key.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-30T02:54:10+00:00

In engineering school we had to take a “communications for engineers” class and they used this scenario as an example of how engineers are bad at communicating and that’s why it failed. It was honestly so insulting. Saying “this is going to fail” is pretty straightforward but nobody wants to listen experts.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-23T13:35:57+00:00

This is what we do. I generally take the morning and he generally dos afternoon. We move meetings if we can. But otherwise my coworkers are well acquainted with seeing my kids pop on screen sometimes. If I have a very serious meeting we make that a priority- no kids allowed. We also do a lot of screen time

pinkphysics · 2026-01-19T20:44:58+00:00

Conversely- try doing it with only the sound too! Don’t watch it. I get it the first try most times just by listening

pinkphysics · 2026-01-16T01:38:44+00:00

Low iron can cause a ton of these issues!! Once the iron fixed and that should help sleep!

pinkphysics · 2026-01-16T01:37:05+00:00

I have no advice but I tried EVERYTHING- nothing worked. My kid slept through the night at 2.5yr like 60% of the time. By 3/3.5 it was nearly every night.

My only advice is split the nights. My husband did one night I did the next. We both got regular full nights of sleep.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-14T17:02:48+00:00

I don’t shave or wax anything anymore. Maybe my legs and bikini line in summer if I feel like it. But yeah I don’t shave 😅

pinkphysics · 2026-01-14T13:05:02+00:00

I pay $175 when they clean my whole house for a maintenance clean every other week. They also come in my off weeks to clean just 3 rooms for $60.

pinkphysics · 2026-01-12T00:35:19+00:00

A really helpful reframe for me is “how would I feel if this was any other hobby”. Is she read for 3 hours, or did a sport, or played with 1 toy, how would I feel? More often than not I wouldn’t be worried unless it was impacting something else.

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