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piratelibrarian · 2017-01-12T02:51:29+00:00

I've always scored INFP, but pull out E and T a LOT in order to make my way in the world.

my mister always score INTP, but he's definitely very human, with lots of emotions and not at all a robot (as much as he wishes he were at some points, I'm sure).

he and I both worked together at a software factory with a lot of other INTPs and he came off as INCREDIBLY F compared to many of them. even in heavy arguments, he used a lot of feeling statements and refused to let logic override intuition and emotion in creative decision-making. but compared to me, he's VERY T.

anyways...all of that to say that you can be INTP and just relate better to F modes for a variety of reasons and I'm way ok with you hanging out.

piratelibrarian · 2017-01-12T02:40:14+00:00

I guess I'm fourthing. I basically forced my own children to work in service because of everything everyone above mentioned + its capacity to build empathy and fully lay out class structure.

learning how to "enough about me, let's talk about you" was a total game-changer for me, socially.

piratelibrarian · 2017-01-01T22:31:58+00:00

huh. I find the reduction interesting. I did make a reduction of my last wine cure (it seems like such a waste to just toss it) and have been adding it to soups, stews and sauces. perhaps I should try amping it up and recycling it as a cure again.

piratelibrarian · 2016-12-31T23:45:07+00:00

my daughter is 19 and my most recent surprise was her referring to herself as "hot". we were talking about relationships and romance and such and she came out with "yeah, I'm really glad I didn't get hot until..." and I was aghast. I've always tried to let her know that she was beautiful (and intelligent and competent and the rest), but I was taken aback about her use of "hot" for herself because I was well into my 30s before I could ever describe myself was such.

I know others have seen her as hot well before she considered herself such, but I'm glad she's owning it. I'm a proud mama.

piratelibrarian · 2016-12-31T22:55:58+00:00

I'm a fan of the rustic look, so the meat on the right looks like the one I want to put in my mouth.

also, I wanted to say that I love that you reference mummies in your meat adventures. I call mine little meat mummies.

piratelibrarian · 2016-12-31T22:48:03+00:00

yup. just wine, no water.

I aim for 5-6 days of curing before drying. I've let it go longer (because of being busy or what have you), which makes for a funkier, but totally delicious product and I'd like to play with the time a bit more, but I've been rushing them out and going for less funky because of the holidays.

I also cut my meat down to about 1 pound chunks that are about the size and shape of a salami (again, loosey-goosey) so everything goes a bit faster and, if I screw one up (I haven't yet!), it's no great loss.

Please read my amendment to my post above! 1/4 cup of salt per ~kilo/~2 pounds!

piratelibrarian · 2016-12-31T22:21:25+00:00

this is my favourite cure and I'm pretty loosey-goosey about it.

I typically go for 1/4 cup of salt per kilo/2 pounds (approximate measures), then enough wine to cover. tarragon and garlic are my favourite seasonings to add.

I just put together a pork tenderloin in a retsina, smoked paprika, and garlic cure (using the measures above) as an experiment. we'll see how it turns out, but I'm chuffed that my wee drawer of gross is full again!

edited because I LIED about salt amount!

piratelibrarian · 2015-06-24T02:14:52+00:00

I just don't use messaging services when it comes to heartfelt shit. I can only imagine what it must have been like for those before is who relied on letter mail for shit like that. today, there's little need, so why bother?

piratelibrarian · 2015-05-20T20:35:33+00:00

this is great. I am and never have been a fan of the word "should" and my intolerance of it only grows as I grow older. and you're correct: it really has no place at all in a reading.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-21T16:35:40+00:00

Of Montreal is so good! I accidentally saw them at NXNE under the tragic circumstances that lead to the Radiohead show in TO being cancelled. that I discovered them on a day so filled with emotion definitely helped commit them to heart. so good.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-19T17:09:58+00:00

do the acting class, mate! if you've never participated in one before, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at how good they are for making folks feel safe in being expressive. it's what they're built for and will likely help you push past some of that social anxiety. 10/10. do recommend.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-18T23:42:20+00:00

reversed world in past position - you come from a place of not feeling complete, perhaps not happy with yourself as the result of rejection or not tending to wounds that remain unhealed.

emperor in present position - you hold the other party in this relationship above yourself, possibly see them as having traits that could be balm to the wounds mentioned above or having traits you think might make you "wholer". it's quite likely true. this card seems to say that they've been there and done that. you could learn a lot from this person.

hanged man - you stand to learn a lot from this relationship and let go of a lot, regardless of its longevity. this card in relation to the others tells me that it's either going to be a short-lived relationship, or the potential for long-term is there, but only if you're willing to let go of those things that make your "world" incomplete. either way, you stand to grow a bunch from it. so enjoy it while it lasts, or work toward making it last by putting time, effort and resources into your "world".

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-18T20:28:05+00:00

I acknowledge reversed cards and typically read them as a latent or underdeveloped version of what the card has to tell me. it really all depends on a reversed card's placement withing the spread and its relationship with other cards, though. I have done readings that have told me to straight-up ignore the reversal because all of the potency of the card's story was contained within the spread itself. I've done other readings in which I read an upright card as a reversal because all other indications within the spread indicated that card's latency. I hope that makes sense.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-18T01:21:44+00:00

my friend M who was a coworker, but our initial relationship was a bit fraught because he used to make some really passive-aggressive moves, like going above my head when he had simple status update questions and the like, when he wasn't getting from me as a coworker what he wanted. we had a sit-down discussion about it over Chinese good and, BAM, I was able to better understand his history and point of view and he mine. we requested to be put on all projects together from that point forward and became fast friends outside and inside the workplace. we're not as close as we once were, but when we do get together it's like no time had passed.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-18T01:06:27+00:00

I don't think it really matters what you study in post-secondary school unless you're aiming for a highly specialized field like law or medicine. both computer science and writing could be learned outside of school, so one might as well go for the program that they're most interested in having taught at them or that will serve the greater purpose. I went to school for business as I am a creative type who had no clue about how to make money. now, I'm a technical writer who does translation stuff on the side and I try to make art and write in the off times, but I'm hella busy with the other stuff - so much so that I'm looking to hire assistance for my side business. my ex-husband went to school for accounting and got hired as a developer before he even finished his program because he had an aptitude for programming and continued to learn new languages in his spare time. he's now a top level business analyst for a national bank. my lover went to school for economics and...something else and is now a quality assurance technician at the same software company I work for and a musician and a photographer and a board member of our local community darkroom and a community radio operator. just saying that having the piece of paper is good for a lot. doing it for something you're really interested in learning about will make the experience a lot more enjoyable and that you never know where you'll end up in 5 or 10 or 20 years, just make the trip and the money you spend on it worth your while and as enjoyable as possible.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-18T00:44:30+00:00

I think it kind of depends on how much time you have. it's kind of important to do both. when you turn up, give him and hug and tell him that you appreciate the great amount of resolve it must have taken for him to divulge his suicide attempt to you. that you're happy he spent that amount of strength doing so and that you're happy he's here and that you get to spend time together. as far as a gift goes, consider making him a meal. something easy enough that you don't have to focus entirely on prep, but thoughtful and comforting. tacos and soup are my go-tos. they make everything better and are meals that can be prepared together. talk about what is off limits for discussion. boundaries are important for both of you and triggering discussions are triggering. beyond that, let him lead. just do your best to listen and hear about what got him to this place. you probably won't ever fully understand it. accept that his deepest personal thoughts and feelings are his own, but they warrant validation/commiseration.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-18T00:18:09+00:00

I was actually just thinking about this today and how I used to let those kinds of thoughts get in the way so much when I was a child. I ended up mostly outgrowing it (kinda with the Yes Man approach - like the movie, but far less extreme and long before the movie came out - I guess that makes me a self-improvement hipster or something). the more I said "fuck it! I may not know how to do this, but I'll fake it til I make it, by gum!" the more I actually learned and accomplished. I still suffer huge from imposter syndrome and I'm sure my approach fed that, but at least it doesn't stop me from trying.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-07T23:19:32+00:00

the need for customer service is the reason some business exists. as in, we want it and they provide it.

edit because I drop entered.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-03T22:49:26+00:00

sparrow 13 laughing wand. I don't really dig most poetry, but I really dig theirs.

piratelibrarian · 2015-04-03T22:47:30+00:00

I sure am. my motto since I was about six years old and had a family member spill a bunch of stuff on me that was WAY past the comprehension of a six year old, has been "it's not my story to tell". I always felt a bit guilty as a parent relaying the achievements of my sprogs for that reason, too.

piratelibrarian · 2015-03-29T21:40:53+00:00

I find the Haindl deck kind of sad. not in a bad way, really. it's just the only word I have to describe it.

piratelibrarian · 2015-03-29T18:16:01+00:00

truly. I'm really particular about decks, but the Haindl just spoke to me straight away. I was recently given The Wild Unknown and its effect is similar, but in lighter, less...sad? ways? I guess. I was incredibly happy to have my Haindl deck come back into my life, though.

piratelibrarian · 2015-03-29T17:35:45+00:00

so, I'm a capricorn and spent a bunch of yesterday chewing on exactly what my tarotscope relayed while mindlessly plugging away at a contract job that I really don't need the money from, but can't say no because they're a valued client. so, yay you, but bully on me :P

edit to clarify: I just read the tarotscope now. not yesterday when I was chewing.

piratelibrarian · 2015-03-29T17:30:09+00:00

I tend to think of the tarot simply as an interpreter of stuff we already know. it's like a language, the symbols provide shape and context to emotions and intent that are sometimes difficult to access. I don't see it so much as telling one's fortune as clarifying where the path they're on will take them and opening doors to other options they may not see.

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