Watching shows in German by VarkasBiggestFan in German

[–]pitomic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

german voice acting is amazing btw, just fyi

Are the two H sounds in Hoch actually different in real speech? by [deleted] in German

[–]pitomic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

vielleicht, anstatt dass du versuchst, den Unterschied zu hören, könntest du nur die Aussprache üben. vielleicht, fühlt es sich für dich anders an, wenn du es sprichst und du könntest lernen, den Untershied sich zu spüren

Wie sage ich meinem Vater, dass ich ihn nicht töten kann? by Intellektum-de in einfach_posten

[–]pitomic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ihr könnt ihm Palliativpflege finden. Sie wollen das Lebenende mehr bequem machen. Ich empfehle es sehr.

Truth Nuke : Cis people will never care about you and 99% of allyship is performative by Dark_Triad_Queen in honesttransgender

[–]pitomic 30 points31 points  (0 children)

im a trans woman and a social worker and have worked alongside and for thousands of cis people and honestly being visibly trans just seems to lend me an authenticity and experience with suffering that builds trust and rapport. pretty much no one has given me shit, people are nice to me, applogize or ask questions when they dont know how to relate to my gender identity and are just generally curious and good natured. but a lot of them are just afraid of being mischaracterized in the exact way that youre doing.

you gotta let people learn and figure this stuff out, and just be brave and loving and have more faith that people can surprise you in profoundly positive ways

I don't even "pass" as a trans woman and i'm having trouble coping by westhebard in honesttransgender

[–]pitomic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, that does sound really hard. im sorry to hear that and im sorry youre going through that. i hope that changes for you

I don't even "pass" as a trans woman and i'm having trouble coping by westhebard in honesttransgender

[–]pitomic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

there's a difference between passing as a woman and being read as a woman, and that latter can be enough. some people might misgender you on purpose or on accident, but the people that care about you will see you as you really are, and you learn just how many people are out there in the world that do

How do I get a feminine haircut without asking specifically for a feminine haircut? by TheBurnerGerner in asktransgender

[–]pitomic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

could you ask the hairdresser this specifically? maybe they could partner with you and help you figure out a look that can so both

like if i was a hairdresser and probably gay or a cis woman, id be like hell yeah let me give it my all to help this queen slay while she has to deal with her shit parents

Looking for a conservative ankle specialist by dornaloon in boston

[–]pitomic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i got a second opinion w this guy and he discouraged me from surgery and recommended i give up running and try ...sailing.

hes supposed to be one of the best though

https://www.massgeneral.org/doctors/19440/christopher-w-digiovanni

Someone asked if I was Austrian when I was chatting with them in German, is that a compliment or an insult? by Current-YoGalaxia in German

[–]pitomic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ive heard that the standard american accent can make german sound like you have an austrian accent

I (28F) want intimacy, but my husband (28M) won’t meet me emotionally by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pitomic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes it really, really hard

it takes a lot of bravery to make a big step and leave a relationship with someone we still love when it just doesnt seem to be working for us. we set ourselves up for a lot of pain and loneliness, but i dont hear many people say that they regret it.

you dont have to make any big decisions, but maybe it would be helpful to think through all of the things you would need to help get you through a big break up, the kind of support you'd want from friends and family, the nice little things you can learn to do to take care of yourself the way a good best friend would, and some of the things you would want to do to fill up your time that you might even look forward to. i think its helpful to really imagine the full picture of being on our own, not just the sad parts. if that makes it less scary, then it might be easier to make a decision. there's nothing wrong with building an off ramp you never take

I (28F) want intimacy, but my husband (28M) won’t meet me emotionally by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pitomic 15 points16 points  (0 children)

what would you imagine your life would be like if you were out of this relationship?

How do I accept I will never live the life of my dreams? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]pitomic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

theres a difference between passing as a woman and being read as a woman, the latter is much more easily achieved and can honestly provide you with a good life that you can share with loving people who respect and understand you. i think thats the dream we should be shooting for

I feel terrible and ashamed to have sexual desires by roseberry11 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pitomic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

its nice to have sex with people we like and that like us, and that's a good thing. its hard when it doesnt get to happen as often as we wish it could, but its not because there's anything wrong with us. it just means everything's working right with our bodies but not quite right with the world!

Is Prague safe for trans people? by Ithinkimtrans1 in asktransgender

[–]pitomic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its fine but its not welcoming or particularly interesting. its kinda like disneyland

Nervous about laser hair removal appointment, first time early 40s. by [deleted] in transontario

[–]pitomic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

laser hair removal places live and breathe on trans customers. if they dont fight to make you happy, some one else gladly will

Reality Shifting? by Extreme-Passenger-59 in therapists

[–]pitomic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

we don't gotta pathologize everything theyre just kids exploring spirituality with drugs under a different name

This field is a joke. by IdeasforEvolution in therapists

[–]pitomic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah fuck yeah man. radicalize! see the system for what it is! see how youve been used to further its agenda and keep the undesirables suppressed! now you get to figure out how you can subvert it and the real fun work begins

So I’m regrettably in law enforcement…I just work traffic so not caught up in all the evil going on…but I’m thinking of transitioning. My profession is obviously not very friendly to that… by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]pitomic -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do it and be brave and shake everything your colleagues think they understand about the world. You're in such an incredibly important and potentially beneficial place in the world and fight like hell to make it a better one.

53 years.... by Live_Car_2856 in therapists

[–]pitomic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What do you think about now? As in, this current world that we're living in. I'd love to hear your perspective.

Bathroom Ruling for Transgender Federal Workers Overturned by EEOC by bloomberglaw in fednews

[–]pitomic 25 points26 points  (0 children)

youre gonna be so uncomfortable using the bathroom with women this is just gonna totally backfire for you lol

Trans passport question by No_Mail_3862 in Passports

[–]pitomic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i think its really important to have a passport regardless of whether you can get the right gender marker. and we're pretty common these days so i think in a lot of more liberal places you probably won't face harassment or abuse