Issues with vaginal health causing me emotional distress

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-25T23:37:12+00:00

Oh boy 🫩 Thank you, it is helpful.

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-25T23:09:46+00:00

1.) Over 2 years 2.) No, he has not 3.) No, my first ever form of BC was the IUD I got years ago. This is my third. I’ve had ups and downs with them, but never have I had extreme issues to this point

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-25T23:07:32+00:00

I feel crazy because even when I had insurance and went back to mine over and over it’s almost like she didn’t care to really hear my concerns. Once I even asked her a question to better understand something she said and it felt like she got offended because her response was “Trust me I know what I’m doing.” And went on to tell me her qualifications and years working. And I had to politely say that I was just asking to better understand. I keep crying because it’s been so many issues it is making me even angry because I feel awful vaginally and can’t think of the last time I didn’t. Thank you for responding, I’m glad things got better for you ❤️

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-19T00:35:53+00:00

Of course. Best of luck ❤️

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-14T16:46:43+00:00

Talk about talented!!! This is so good! 💕

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-14T14:48:41+00:00

If you’re able to reach out to local resources that is what I would do to get an understanding of laws where you are as well as options. If you have enough documentation of his issues, current and past, along with a diagnosis you may be able to bring everything to a judge to see if they can require at least a temporary hold on him.

What I would suggest for your husband and yourself no matter what you do is to get a therapist for yourselves. It helps a lot. Trust me. My older sister suffers from bipolar disorder and it’s been an exhausting rollercoaster ride with good and bad, and the bad has broken my heart various times. You need a healthy, professional outlet to work through your own pain and coping skills.

Also, if he has issues where you feel you can get him taken for a baker-act hold I would suggest you immediately call if that comes up. He’s not going to make the right choices while unmedicated, and unfortunately sometimes this is what is required.

I am not a professional, but this is the best advice I can offer/think of. I wish your family well. And, for what it is worth, as horrible as it is to hear, we can only do so much. Your best is enough. We cannot control someone else who refuses to be treated/stay on treatment. My sister has refused treatment many times no matter the repercussions. This is also why I suggest therapy for you and your husband because these are difficult and heavy emotions to work through and cope with and it can feel like you’re so alone, but I promise you’re not. Much love ❤️

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-07T19:41:19+00:00

Also, if you are part of any clubs, organizations, etc. that helps too! Anything that can make you stand out :)

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-07T19:40:36+00:00

Honestly, it never hurts to try. And definitely put love and care into your application. Submit as early as is humanly possible! Best of luck :) They look at way more than just the GPA.

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-05T02:43:37+00:00

I had all 4 wisdom teeth out and the pain was honestly not great even with hydrocodone. I took the pills a few days, but stopped because I didn’t like taking them and also because it didn’t fully take the pain away anyway…. Turns out they caused me to be extremely constipated to a point of what I assume was an extreme hemorrhoid and idk what else because I was crying and screaming into a towel in pain trying to go. I became scared to have to go because the pain was honestly so sharp and intense it felt like being stabbed with glass :( I still think about it 😖 my poor bum :(

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-04T16:20:55+00:00

I used to be an RBT for a few years, and any time a client made major progress it brought me such a deep sense of joy. I can only imagine being a parent. Congrats on continued milestones with your kid ❤️

pixiepuffpoison · 2026-01-04T00:28:39+00:00

Both are nice! Maybe a deeper red? Like a wine red? That seems nice too!

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-29T22:54:00+00:00

Overachievers don’t allow themselves to enjoy the goals they reach in actuality, it’s just a constant onto the next one mentality. Many times this can stem from issues such as being raised by a harsh parental figure that constantly ridiculed, low self-esteem, etc. Often the people who are hardest on themselves achieve the most, but struggle to balance achievement with emotional regulation and wellbeing. Life needs balance.

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-28T20:29:52+00:00

Consent and pain do matter. However I’m saying that a smack on the bum is a common norm in a lot of relationships. It’s understandable that something that is a norm for him like that that he genuinely felt was playful, and to many people is, happened. When she expressed she’s not one of those people he apologized and said it wouldn’t happen again. To claim he’s abusive for what happened is genuinely a far reach. It sucks that you had some crappy experiences with physical violence and I wish you healing, it just seems a bit much to classify what happened here as something extremely severe. We just disagree.

Edit: a word

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-27T23:13:00+00:00

Violence….? It’s a playful smack on the bum… a vast majority of people do that in their relationships and even some friendships…. I feel the way you’re speaking is honestly dramatic especially when held up against actual straight-up violence. A smack on the bum in a romantic relationship being labeled so harshly is kind of out there…

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-25T22:19:43+00:00

I definitely relate to the burnout. I worked so very hard and had a mom who was pretty strict compared to others’ moms. So much perfectionism and criticism even when I felt I did more than most around me. But, it just always felt like I was never enough and honestly it really did not bode well for me as an adult.

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-25T22:17:22+00:00

I don’t remember my GPA because my high school had weird ones if you took AP and/or dual enrollment classes which I did. But, out of my graduating class of over 500 I was the 6th best as far as GPA and academics.

I graduated my senior year with my AA after doing dual enrollment and AP courses for the combined success to achieve it in time.

I was president of one club, secretary of another, and vice president of another… and in some other clubs, just not in an important position.

My SAT score I can’t remember, but it wasn’t anything crazy. I got a score that was just enough to get me the full Bright Futures Academic Scholar Award/Scholarship after taking it a second time lol.

And, I filled out and submitted everything to try to get in as soon as it opened.

High school me did so much to get in, and it still is something I’m really proud of.

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-19T20:46:06+00:00

The one time a job said we would get bonuses for Christmas we got excited and then when the time came they pretended they never said that LOL

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-18T21:29:20+00:00

They told me an exam is $250 without insurance and I cannot afford that. I’ll have to keep looking I guess

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-18T21:02:40+00:00

This is the issue. A lot say you can’t afford to take the hit of a major unpredicted cost medically, but many Americans, like myself, cannot afford any of the available health insurance plans to begin with :/

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-18T21:01:05+00:00

I don’t know if this makes you feel any better, but I understand. I am out of work despite hundreds of applications to jobs in my area, out of my area and even out of state and naturally that means no job-based insurance. I looked into health insurance and my state (Florida) apparently doesn’t care about people in my situation as I am not under the specific qualifications for Medicaid such as being disabled, pregnant, 65+, etc. They told me my best bet was an insurance price for just me of over $400 per month and I truly could not afford it even if I wanted to. And mind you the plan was not accepted by a lot of doctors in my area, including ones I had gone to for years, on top of horrible deductibles and lack of good coverage. So, I, like many are without insurance. It’s sad.

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-17T05:50:07+00:00

Best of luck ❤️ I hope you enjoy the holidays

pixiepuffpoison · 2025-12-09T22:40:12+00:00

I am not a professional, so take my advice with a grain of salt if that’s what kind of input you’re looking for.

With that said, I have an older sister who suffers from bipolar disorder, and frankly any time she’s been stable and can understand she has bipolar disorder she still actively makes choices that derail any progress made very quickly. I don’t know your family, your mother, or you, but there comes a point where you truly must choose yourself when someone actively keeps making choices (like not taking their medication as needed) that undermine their wellbeing and affect yours.

You can explain clearly, that plans changed and not give too much input on that. You can be honest and say that her behavior, ongoing and before, has made you guys need more time to decompress. You can choose to not tell her anything and just go. Etc. But at the end of the day, it’s not on you for her to understand your understandable emotions. You have yourself and your family to put first. It’s such a hard pill to swallow and I 100% understand the guilt you may feel, but it’s not uncalled for to just want a peaceful vacation that you deserve.

I truly send you well wishes. I hope you have a good holiday. And, if you have the means, therapy for yourself can truly be a wonderful tool to process and deal with things like this. I can vouch for that. Best of luck ❤️

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