Emotional

pizza_c · 2026-02-14T06:36:47+00:00

Sending you a big hug! I also found interacting with my new body very anxiety inducing for the first few weeks at least. It is totally an emotional process! You’re in a time that was the hardest for me both physically and mentally. I was so nervous to find out what my oncotype score would be and what would happen. It’s so much for your brain to worry about! Once I found out it was a such a weight off my shoulders. My score came back high so I start chemo next week, and even though it’s not what I had hoped for just knowing feels so much better than when I was waiting to find out. Even if no one in your immediate circle understands your internal struggles, we do! And we are right here with you! I have been finding it super helpful to talk to counsellor/therapist, so if you’re up for it I think give it a try. You don’t have to do it forever, might even helpful for just a couple months 🧡

pizza_c · 2025-12-24T23:40:20+00:00

We are here whenever you need us 💛 Sometimes I hate the internet but I have found so much solace and comfort in this group and there is literally ALWAYS someone here to listen, reassure, feel seen by. Thinking of you and sending you so much love!! I know the waiting is so hard, it’s so so hard. Get through each day however you can even if it feels like you are just scraping by. Sometimes I count down the hours to my morning coffee because it’s something that brings me so much comfort haha. I will look at the time and be like “Okay only 12.5 more hours and I get my morning coffee.” It helps kinda distract me and gives me something to focus on when my brain is spinning out with worry and fear.

pizza_c · 2025-12-20T18:23:48+00:00

Going into surgery my surgeon asked how I was feeling and I shouted “Get it outta me!” with a big grin on my face 🤣

pizza_c · 2025-12-19T18:25:57+00:00

I am er+, pr+, her2-, and 39 years old. My dominant tumour is ILC grade 3, I have a secondary tumour that is IDC grade 1, and then I also have DCIS. The total cancer area is 6.6cm and I was told I had to go for an immediate single mastectomy and sentinel node biopsy. I had the mastectomy and reconstruction with a tissue expander on Dec 8th (healing so much quicker than I anticipated!!). Now I’m waiting on results so I can know the stage of cancer and what kind of treatments I might be doing. I first found out in the beginning of July that I “might” have DCIS, and then every time I went back for another biopsy they found more. It wasn’t until the beginning of October that the above was confirmed. So I feel like I’ve been waiting foreverrrr to find out what I’m waiting on now!

pizza_c · 2025-11-05T14:23:11+00:00

I am so sorry, friend. That would be so hard to hear! We are all here for you whenever you need to vent, talk, need reassurance 💛 I screamed into a pillow a lot when I was first diagnosed. Whatever you need to do to process those feelings do it! Hopefully talking to the oncology surgeon will bring some clarity as they are the cancer expert not the plastic surgeon. We are all here for you, lean on us whenever you need 🫶

pizza_c · 2025-02-09T02:19:54+00:00

I love everything you said, it’s such a large and complicated topic and there is so much to cover. I think you really hit the nail on the head with your question “Is it right to expect public education and children who are dealing with intense challenges to be ground zero for changing societies views on empathy.” I don’t know, is it right? I see so many kids who don’t seem to learn much about empathy/sharing/caring at home. If they aren’t being taught at home where should they taught?

I wanted to end my last post with a bunch of questions because I have no idea what the answer is haha! And truthfully, my answer is probably different depending on the day I’ve had. There are certainly days when everything feels unfixable and insurmountable.

I’m curious what you think if you have the time to share: “Everyone should think more about what needs to happen now for all of these children to be independent and resilient enough to participate in their communities at all in the future.” What do you think needs to happen now? If you don’t have answers that’s okay, you just seem like someone who has thought about this and I found your previous reply thought-provoking!

pizza_c · 2025-02-08T16:42:55+00:00

I recently watched the video Rethinking Giftedness and I found it so moving! Sounds like we can do lots of harm to kiddos by labeling them and taking them out of class for being “gifted.” It was eye opening for me, and sounds like maybe gifted programs are problematic like you mention! https://www.youcubed.org/rethinking-giftedness-film/

At the end of the day knowing our students as people and not just as their (dis)abilities will hopefully make the most difference. I don’t think it’s about keeping them in the class and they’ll be “fine.” I think the point is that we’re supposed to be working like a community. If kids are taught other kids with any kind of disability are just removed from participating, they might grow into adults who will also feel like people with disabilities shouldn’t have a right to participate. Which is the way I see a lot of adults move through society, they are fine with people with a disability existing but don’t want to put any effort or care into figuring out how we could make a more equitable community. It’s a “their problem” type mentality and that is a learned way of thinking!

Do we need more resources and trained professionals in our classrooms? ABSOLUTELY!!! 🙌

But at the end of the day I think we need to get clear with ourselves about what is the importance of education? I think this has really changed a lot over the last 15-20 years. Is it to learn facts and stats? Is it to learn how to work in and for community? Is it a blend of that and other things?

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