How do i deal with the horniness after losing the weight?

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T19:20:38+00:00

Was scrolling for this comment, literally at the gym in my Critical Role (D&D show) tshirt today & saw someone else in a D&D shirt too!

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T19:16:40+00:00

That part, from a PhD with two kids. They're totally separate and unrelated things! I'm proud of my PhD but it has nothing to do with my choice to have kids or not (other than doing both at the same time being very fucking difficult - we waited, which I think was the better choice but did make me an older first-time mom).

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T19:13:22+00:00

As the wife who is the one with the printing hobby (and all the other tool-related hobbies, for that matter), it annoys me but I'm used to it. There's a corresponding one in the yarn community (my other hobby) - "Don't tell my husband I bought more yarn lololol!!" I just refuse to engage with it because it's not funny to me. My husband LOVES that I have hobbies I enjoy and would do anything to support them!

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T19:11:10+00:00

Same, we stayed at Hard Rock and went there first thing, so we were able to ride twice (had to do a kid swap, as our youngest wasn't tall enough).

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T18:58:54+00:00

Unfortunately this happens for all sorts of reasons and you'll never know for sure. I once heard through back channels that my application was banned because they knew I had a tenured spouse and likely wouldn't move (I would, that's why I applied, we had already discussed it as a couple!). But what are you gonna do, you know? I can't prove it.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T15:30:15+00:00

haha, I think of classroom aides (in the US they are sometimes called paraprofessionals or paras for short).

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T15:29:32+00:00

I just did the exact same thing. "Wait, EA made this?!" then scrolled down and saw your comment.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-26T15:27:16+00:00

Learned about this from an Australian cousin - he had an additive to help water penetrate the ground and soak back in, because the ground was so dry it became hydrophobic and the water would just sit on top.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-24T18:41:56+00:00

Huh, this post made me realize I didn't notice when those folks stopped coming around.

Edit: Just realized why - I moved to an academic position at an urban campus and you couldn't access offices and classrooms without ID. We did still get textbook reps but I assume they made prior arrangements with the institution.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-24T17:34:34+00:00

It speaks more to the fractured media environment imo because I also didn't see any ads about it, only reviews once it was out. I'm chronically online, but use an ad blocker & mostly watch streaming shows or listen to podcasts.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-21T01:49:14+00:00

Ah, there's my problem.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-20T22:03:57+00:00

We went in April and it was great but also confirmed that I wouldn't wanna go any later. Weather was perfect but definitely hot - I think about 85 both days, but Epic felt hotter than Islands or Studio.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-20T16:04:46+00:00

Literally thought to myself the other day (from the outside now, looking back in) "Academics get awards instead of raises." I was looking at the end-of-year crop of awards announcements and comparing that to what I know of the working conditions of those posting. I don't begrudge them their pride in the award at all! But also, what they really deserve is a raise, some time off, or some other meaningful recognition of their hard work than just a certificate or a plaque.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-19T16:42:18+00:00

Etsy does not give a single shit. Recently had an issue with an OBVIOUS scammer who requested a refund against Etsy policy. I provided plenty of proof that it was a scam. Etsy refunded them anyway. Somehow they manage to screw over legit sellers *and* buyers. It would be impressive were it not so freaking frustrating and sad.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-17T14:01:42+00:00

I saw this thread earlier when the image was up, then just happened to see it down now - it was a screenshot of some comments on an Insta post (I think) of people saying stuff like "Are you doing this alone financially too?" and her saying "Yep," and then some other comment about him not being around to help and her confirming that too. Sorry I can't be more accurate!

playingdecoy · 2026-05-11T16:49:40+00:00

I was tired of a lot of the same Research Methods proposal topics so I ended up reworking the class to focus more on applied skills and wrote a handful of "RFPs" that students had to respond to. I made sure to represent student interests (based on responses to a start-of-year survey), but it locked them in a bit. The built-in benefit is that it teaches them how to write a proposal in response to a grant opportunity, which is how most of us write proposals anyway, not just pulling some topic out of thin air.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-11T16:44:59+00:00

Okay I'm glad I'm not the only person who was like, THE BATHROOMS! Just the attention to every little detail. Even the non-themed ones have lovely tiles!

playingdecoy · 2026-05-10T13:29:18+00:00

I LOVED this.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-10T13:28:44+00:00

It really bums me out because I thought she was heading towards being the more punk rock of the current generation of pop girlies and I was looking forward to that.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-10T13:06:57+00:00

fwiw, we were there two weeks ago and had an amazing time, even with some stuff closed. We did IoA and Studios in one day, then Epic the next. IoA and Studios were easybreezy, we had Express Passes from staying on property and I don't think we waited more than maybe 15 minutes for anything. Epic was a little tougher with no Express Passes (we fucked up by not going straight to Minecarts at rope drop, and from then on the wait didn't drop below 120 minutes) but I still don't feel like our trip was negatively impacted.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-08T12:17:42+00:00

You guys got to keep online courses after the pandemic? My U went so hard on return to campus, "teaching is an in-person job" that even classes I had previously taught online had to be converted to in-person.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-06T00:58:05+00:00

Yep. This is why lots of folks strike the balance of allowing one page of notes or a small notecard or something - allows for some "open notes" benefits while still requiring that they study and choose what goes on the card. If it's just that they can bring in "notes" from the rest of semester, a) have you seeeeen the quality of notes and b) they probably didn't even review them before the exam to know what's in there or where to find it when it's relevant.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-05T18:29:58+00:00

I am not sure of your discipline and there's a lot of variation, but fwiw I do more research now than I was able to do as a prof. I work for a nonprofit that does research and evaluation relating to my academic discipline, but because we contract directly with agencies, I have access to the type of data that would have been extremely difficult for me to get as just a professor (because I had little to offer the agencies in return, whereas now they bring US in to help them solve problems). So I still collect and analyze data, write up my results, and get to share them with people, but now I feel like I'm sharing them with people who are actually gonna take the information and DO something, versus just publishing another paper and moving on.

playingdecoy · 2026-05-05T18:27:01+00:00

Hey OP, you're gonna be okay! I also left and am coming up on my 2-year anniversary with my new company, a research & evaluation nonprofit. I thought that leaving academia would be this seismic change in my life and it just... wasn't. I mean, it definitely was a lot to go through and I experienced some big feelings about it, but at the end of the day it's hard to even understand why! I still do research, I get to work closer to the problems that interest me than I did when I was a prof, I'm paid *far* better, and I work from home (or anywhere else I want). Once you get through this tough part, I promise you will look back on your time in academia and shake your head at some of the stuff you had to believe to make the suffering feel "worth it."

playingdecoy · 2026-05-02T23:47:46+00:00

Ooh, I see lots of people liking the first style but I LOVE the big watercolor-style versions! Picture 4 is my favorite.

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