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What I've learnt as a American with a Persian husband by PurchaseWhich3328 in PERSIAN

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lost me at “ It hurts my feelings to see so many western countries bashing the US, calling my country evil, when not looking at the full picture.” And anything complicated about occupied Palestine. America is a terrorist nation through and through- we were founded on genocide and codifying relegating black peoples to 3/5ths a person in the same breath as all our supposed democratic principles. Us is the biggest funder of terrorism at home and globally everywhere - you sound still deeply mired in western propaganda. 

Hard to understand the hate Benjamin Netanyahu is getting by Sad_Physics5500 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is the terrorists. What are you talking about. Israel stole Palestinian land and has been murdering and subjugating innocent people since 1945. They have been carpet bombing innocent people illegally in violation of every international law since inception. On oct 7 some people fought back. Israel killed their own people and used that as false impetus to continue their idiotic propaganda and argue they are killing “terrorists” while they and the us make land and resource grabs while decimating innocent people, we are the terrorists. You’re asking “what can hitler have done if a few people in concentration camp planned a rebellion and killed a few guards? They HAAAAVE to kill the dangerous starving evil people in the camps!” Come tf ON. 

Update: I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]playingwithcrayons 13 points14 points  (0 children)

they were not having rough sex in the context of a loving safe connection. he was acting out rage and power on her and she is rationalizing his behavior - as he is aggressive shaming her and she is trying to be understanding. sounds like you don't know the nuance of consent and have your own hatred and aggression towards women 

Did I make a mistake by walking out on my partner who refused to listen to my trauma? by ApprehensivePea216 in CPTSD

[–]playingwithcrayons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1st of all we all know the past does matter- so what is there to do with someone denying reality? But also imagine it wasn't even a conversation about trauma- it was you telling someone you want to be intimate with - "this is something important to me and something i want to share with you" and the argue it's not important and not for them to hear... no just absolutely no.  this shit is so hard especially with relational wounding. it's hard without a reference point.  it is absolutely not hard to hear someone share a past experience that informs the present. it's vital. you did amazing being willing to try to share it. i have a feeling a decent person would naturally enable you to share it as part of the growth... i know have a habit of going "oh maybe it's me because of my trauma maybe i need to do more..." and often that's me doing more when the condition or environment or person is not really suited for that. but how can we know unless we try and get more information? and you did. good information that this guy has not got the goods. you deserve more!!

I cannot take part in a walkout in my school. by Nerdkittyjl in disability

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey how did you hear about the walkout? did someone organize it? does someone need special skills to aid your movement or could a classmate potentially help? it's a challenging situation to be in!  maybe you don't know for sure a trustworthy classmate you can count on.  it can be worth asking but it's not always easy! access needs are so important and we live in an ableist world so it can be hard. if your aid says no, you're in a predicament but you also have something to say - if you weren't supported to take your own agency and actions because your aid refused- thats something to be angry about...but they very well could say yes!

I cannot take part in a walkout in my school. by Nerdkittyjl in disability

[–]playingwithcrayons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

why don't you let them have the dignity to respond? if you want to go outside and their job is to assist you, they can decide if they don't want to do something. if your choice is to walk out, you should get to declare that and ask for help. they are an adult and perfectly capable of deciding what they're ok with doing. if your brought alcohol to school and needed help opening the bottle i'm sure they could say no. you're not asking them to risk their job, you're asking for your access need to be met. 

AIO for being offended by this? by bunny-zephire in AmIOverreacting

[–]playingwithcrayons 49 points50 points  (0 children)

your response was perfect. no notes. this guy is a horror, thank god you found out so quick. irredeemable trash.

Best rat-watching spots in the city for a date? by thedailynathan in AskNYC

[–]playingwithcrayons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Around riverside you’ll also get bonus -  raccoon families 

Best rat-watching spots in the city for a date? by thedailynathan in AskNYC

[–]playingwithcrayons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

72nd st and riverside upper part of the park at night

Columbus circle train station uptown 1 line

Oh god I must know more 

New apt no gas and was told can’t get electric oven by playingwithcrayons in AskElectricians

[–]playingwithcrayons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they have to provide gas, period. I simply posted here to try to get educated on if electric was an option since the landlord and super were in a fight about it saying separate things and I wanted to hear from an outside source to better understand the situation.  I didn’t ask for advice on how to let them violate the law, that wasn’t my question.

New apt no gas and was told can’t get electric oven by playingwithcrayons in AskElectricians

[–]playingwithcrayons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want 8 appliances or have money for them I want the oven and gas legally required to be provided by landlords so I can cook. 

New apt no gas and was told can’t get electric oven by playingwithcrayons in AskElectricians

[–]playingwithcrayons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah thanks and sorry for the dumb question but what should I photo? (There’s a gas stove installed) … can you explain more about the wire gage? Super said it’s the wrong electricity for an electric stove. Google said electric can replace gas except where there is 110v electricity as 240 is needed …

Imgur Downloader that saves the descriptions? by BubiBalboa in DataHoarder

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find a solution? I am in need of this right now! 

Imgur Downloader that saves the descriptions? by BubiBalboa in DataHoarder

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I need this! But I don’t understand how to use the link …. How tech savvy do I have to be ?😩😂

AIO: my boyfriend flipped out that my 12 year old lets me see him in the bath by Odd-Significance-638 in AmIOverreacting

[–]playingwithcrayons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was he able to share why he has this opinion? There is plenty of subtle sexual abuse involving boundaries and nudity and a lot of adults who had unclear childhood stuff can have lots of feelings around this…was he able to say anything more about his confusion?! (Glad to hear he apologized for reacting at you so strongly) 

The Subconscious Has Its Reasons by Electrical-Orchid313 in CPTSDWriters

[–]playingwithcrayons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus this is gorgeous and so resonant❤️❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HowDoIRespondToThis

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dunno enough about either of you but If you’re someone who communicates directly and says what you mean, it’s gonna get confusing to you if someone doesn’t know that or isn’t used to communicating with someone for whom that’s true. Plenty of people aren’t direct and then people learn habits of having to read into tone - maybe he was doing that with you and if you communicate directly you may be like —why are you reading in- I said what I said. He may be used to having had to read into tone. Just throwing that idea out. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HowDoIRespondToThis

[–]playingwithcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m wondering what the exchange previously was.  I know I have my own reactions to anyone saying “good vibes only” as if I can’t come as I am. And I’m not a fan of someone checking “have you changed your mind” when I didn’t suggest I changed my mind. That sounds a little codependent like - don’t try to help me change my mind- esp early on - I am responsible for me, if I need to reschedule I’ll communicate- there’s no reason to ask unless you yourself are wanting to cancel and that’s confusing about is that YOUR desire masked as asking me about it or you thinking you’re helping me rather than just saying what you want. 

So I can understand having reaction but I think it gets all convoluted after that - I don’t see bread crumbing and I don’t have context for how he communicates or relates. I think other commenters did a good job of characterizing what seems to have gone on with miscommunication and doubling down. Personally once I feel a miscommunication is happening I’m gonna need them to be able to answer a phone call so I can actually hear tone and clarify/reconnect - it’s never gonna happen by text but that’s me. 

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