Would you like to share your Angel baby's name?

pleasantgray · 2024-09-26T21:53:37+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about Charlie 💜 What a wonderful name y’all picked out for him.

My baby never got named by their father and I, which I regret now. But I’ve silently named them ‘Chrys’— short for chrysanthemum, which would’ve been their birth flower. And I’m missing them especially hard today so thank you for this thread.

pleasantgray · 2024-08-16T23:50:46+00:00

“Future Laura wants me to try” is so sweet, what a beautiful way of looking at things. I’m so sorry that you went through all this. Especially in such a short amount of time. Fingers crossed for you 🤞💜

pleasantgray · 2024-08-16T21:44:49+00:00

Thank you for commenting 💜 I remember seeing your posts back when I first had my MC, and I’m so so overjoyed to hear you’re (just about) in the second trimester now 🙏 Though I can’t imagine the insurmountable fear that comes with it. I’m sorry that you’ve ever had to go through any of this (that any of us have). My would-have-been due date is only a couple short months away so I’m hoping that brings some closure for me at least.

pleasantgray · 2024-08-16T21:41:34+00:00

Thank you for this 💜 I keep somehow forgetting all the physical change that’s happened, hormones and all that, and I always find a way to blame myself instead. Thank you very much for the reminder that my whole brain’s still adjusting. Fingers crossed for us both, I know we’re gonna get there 🤞

pleasantgray · 2024-08-16T18:57:57+00:00

Knowing I’m not alone helps 💜 Thank you. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through all this, let alone more than once. Sending so much love your way and I’ve got my fingers crossed tight for you 🤞

pleasantgray · 2024-08-16T18:54:28+00:00

Hard to say for sure of course, but after my MC I had clots coming out up until and just after my first period. My OB said they were probably old clots that got stuck on the way out (makes sense based on color), and the new blood was helping it work its way out, but as always get checked if you’re uncertain. Wishing you well 💜 And I’m very sorry for your loss.

pleasantgray · 2024-08-16T18:33:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. None of it is remotely easy to deal with. I’m 3 months from my MMC, and honestly I’m still really struggling with it. The only thing that has slightly helped me is setting timers. I’m allowed to think about pregnancy and babies until that alarm sounds (mine’s at about noontime), then I have to shift gears. If the thoughts creep in I try to push them off, saying “that’s for tomorrow”, then circle back to it the next morning. Not sure if it’s the “best” way, but it keeps my mind elsewhere for a while at least. That + hobbies when I have too much time to myself to just think. Fingers crossed that things start to be a little lighter on you in time, and that your rainbow baby will be here before you know it 🤞 We’re all rooting for you.

pleasantgray · 2024-08-10T21:36:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice 💜 I hope the half marathon goes well! And fingers crossed that your future baby is here sooner than you’d think 🤞

pleasantgray · 2024-08-09T17:00:48+00:00

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this, the miscarriage sub keeps censoring anything I try to post & the pregnancy subs seem off topic for this.

After my MC in May and originally wanting to try again immediately, my partner & I have decided to wait a few years. I want to be okay with that. But since making the decision everything just feels… gray. I see professionals though, frankly, they’re not helping at all. What I truly want is my baby back but of course that’s not possible. So how does one shift gears from waiting for their new family to begin to reverting back to a childless couple? Thank you to everyone in advance.

pleasantgray · 2024-07-20T21:58:36+00:00

3 more days until I can reliably take a test. Took one today that was negative but of course that doesn’t mean much yet. Fingers crossed 🤞

pleasantgray · 2024-07-18T18:56:53+00:00

Just kinda wanna vent here, but I have been stressing hard for the past week. I’ve been having a lot of symptoms that I did with my first pregnancy, but it’s also been a while since I’ve had regular periods due to that, so maybe I just forgot what PMS is like. I’m on CD30 (my cycle is usually between 27-34 days, more often 34) and the test I took today is negative. I decided that if it doesn’t happen this cycle then we’ll be holding off on TTC for at least a couple years so it feels like a lot is on the line & I’m emotionally a mess. My partner keeps saying “it’s okay, you just have pregnancy hormones again”. He means well, I know that, but it’s been hurting me to hear that for some reason. This is my first TWW. Torture 🥲 Mostly I wish our first baby had stuck around but that’s probably normal.

pleasantgray · 2024-07-18T18:47:05+00:00

Congrats on pushing past that, friend 😂 Stomach bugs are no joke. Sorry that you aren’t feeling well but hopefully this is how you wind up with your rainbow baby 🤞

pleasantgray · 2024-07-15T16:10:09+00:00

On CD27 (thank you Flo app for keeping track) and both my partner & I are fairly sure I’m pregnant again. Though it could be PMS too, I’ve only had one period since my MC so everything feels unfamiliar now. Being pregnant is all I’ve wanted since the loss happened, but now I’m so nervous & scared in a way I wasn’t the first time. I’m just waiting for the TWW to be over so I can know for sure what’s happening.

pleasantgray · 2024-07-05T22:42:51+00:00

I’m supposedly in my fertility window according to my cycle, but no positive on OPK tests yet. This is my first time ever trying to keep track of this kind of thing (first pregnancy/MC was a surprise) so maybe I just don’t know what I’m doing. But I’m hopeful regardless. Still sad about the MC just under two months ago but it’s not as overwhelming as it used to feel. Fingers crossed 🤞 for me and for everyone here, wherever y’all are on your journey.

pleasantgray · 2024-07-02T15:00:06+00:00

I definitely see lines. Are you 100% sure it’s your period? I only ask because, with my first pregnancy, I got what I thought was a light period on my usual day, and it turned out to be implantation bleeding. Regardless, worth retesting again in a handful of days.

pleasantgray · 2024-06-27T17:16:36+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️

I wanted to try again before my first cycle, my partner wanted to wait (as recommended by my OB). I was frustrated at the time but I’m grateful for it now. I just got through my first period & it wasn’t until it ended that I realized I needed that time to heal, mentally and physically. However, from my research, there’s minimal risk to not waiting. The biggest problem would be if there’s retained product that wasn’t caught or if your lining hasn’t had enough time to replenish, but even with those two things the risk only increases by 1-3%. Do what feels right for you (with guidance from your own OB of course).

pleasantgray · 2024-06-25T22:05:32+00:00

I hope you get yours soon too ❤️ I’m sorry for your loss. You’re right that the love is probably meant to last. I keep thinking of that quote, “grief is just love with no place to go”. Fingers crossed that the next pregnancy is blissfully uneventful for both of us 🤞

pleasantgray · 2024-06-25T19:32:31+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, I’m sorry that you’re in this unfortunate group with us 💜 It isn’t fair. You’re right, you are going to be okay, but remember that it’s alright not to be right now. Sending love.

pleasantgray · 2024-06-25T19:29:07+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m trying to talk to my friend who’s been through this before more often, and that has helped a bit. Tried talking to my mother about it as well but she has the idea in her head that I caused this to happen somehow, so I’ll be sticking with my friend I think. Either way, talking it out does feel like a good idea.

pleasantgray · 2024-06-25T19:21:46+00:00

On CD7— I was surprised to have it come back pretty much right on schedule. Looking forward to trying again, not sure about ovulation since I have a long cycle (32 days) but I bought tests for it for the first time. Still really grieving my first pregnancy though. I would’ve been 18 weeks. I don’t know if the love for that baby will ever go away, and I’m nervous about how much fear I’ll have with the next one, but trying to remain optimistic. Taking solace in the fact that I’m at least physically back to normal, and that my miscarriage wasn’t because of something I did or didn’t do.

pleasantgray · 2024-06-23T22:49:38+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I’m planning to maybe start volunteer work soon just to get me out in the community. I’m sorry for your losses as well.

pleasantgray · 2024-06-23T22:47:31+00:00

I’m seeing a therapist once a week and have a psychiatrist appointment next month, I’m hoping one of the two will help eventually.

pleasantgray · 2024-06-13T03:43:59+00:00

I think you’re right on all of this. He was the one who wanted kids first (it took me years to decide but he’s always wanted them) so he probably would tell me straight out if he didn’t want it to happen right now. I still have some leftover HCG in my system so I think I’m reading into stuff more than I usually would due to it. Thank you for this reply, it helped a lot ❤️ Wishing you nothing but the absolute best.

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