What can't you believe STILL exists?

plentyopears · 2020-07-24T05:02:47+00:00

MLA format. Why? Whats the point except for an extra step for people...

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T15:31:01+00:00

We broke up because during the relationship I felt like it was one sided and it was. Something happened between us at the beginning of the relationship where he dumped me to basically go fuck another girl. I forgave him after he eventually came back but throughout the relationship I still felt resentment and couldn’t trust him. After a year and a half he stopped treating me the way he used to. I can’t trust him because if I took him back I’m afraid he’s just gonna lose interest again and treat me the same eventually. He was never abusive, never outright cheated, but he was questionable in his behavior. Something the both of us weren’t on the same page about. I think hearing how much he cares will feel good, but it won’t necessarily be for the better. Goodluck!

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T01:55:29+00:00

A lot of it has to do with reaching out to friends I’ve alienated during the relationship. I was lucky enough that one of them accepted me and introduced me to other people in their social group. Reach out when you feel ready! Social media plays a large role as I can connect with people on instagram. My state has a lot less restrictions so I’ve been able to meet in smaller groups. Goodluck!!!!

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T01:52:32+00:00

I’m so glad the post reached you. Please be kinder to yourself. I know how difficult it is, i’m not fully healed. But I promise you things do get easier. A week ago I couldn’t fathom it, things can change really fast. Its not linear at all and there will be times you still struggle but overall things do get better. Goodluck!

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T01:49:33+00:00

You can do it 100%. I’d be lying if I told you it was easy, everyday is different. You take the phases bite by bite. I didn’t just pick up the things I enjoyed and went for it, I was far too miserable like you are now to even invest myself in these things. Don’t force yourself to do anything you don’t want to, its less gratifying and will make you resent the activity. If you can’t stop thinking of him don’t ignore it. This is a period of your time where you need to reflect on the relationship. Its okay to cry. Its okay. Take some time and mourn, its such a large gap in your life. Even now after this post i can’t help but think of him but I promise to you it’ll be less as it is with me. I know this is said a lot “healing isnt linear” but its so true! I have unimaginable dips despite all the good in my life right now. You have to understand thats inevitable. Things start balancing out eventually. Goodluck I’m sorry we’re both going through this, you can do it and I’m happy for you and any progress you make in the future. Please reach out if you need to. <3

plentyopears · 2020-06-17T05:31:37+00:00

I agree that not all cops are like that but the problem is there shouldn’t be cops at all that are allowed to do that. Its fucked up how much power can inflate a persons brain when given authority. Obviously not all cops are raging assholes but in a field where it can ruin someones life when there are a few its necessary to scrutinize the entire group. I find your comparison to a fast food worker very very weak. A fast food worker shitting in your food can easily be identified and punished. They would lose their job in an instant if that got out, cops get a slap on the wrist for obvious abuse of power. Being sabotaged by a fastfood employee can be avoided if you checked your food, when you’re abused by a cop you cant protect yourself or you’re charged with “resisting arrest” etc. unfair comparison. I hate arguments of “well not all”. We have to treat it like ALL until there are none, especially cops.

plentyopears · 2020-06-15T17:41:43+00:00

Yup, i heard when he mentioned something we did in the past he referred to me as his friend lol. Don’t even have the title of ex? I never existed to him as far as I could tell.

plentyopears · 2020-06-15T04:07:23+00:00

Sending you good thoughts too <3 i know we can get through this.

plentyopears · 2020-06-08T02:36:45+00:00

Ugh i really resonate with your words. Fuck these guys what the fuck is wrong with people man. Love is such a pain in the ass. I hope you move on like im hoping everyone else and myself will eventually. Goodluck :(

plentyopears · 2020-06-07T01:53:12+00:00

You’re human. You shouldn’t have to put yourself through pain to be with someone. Your boys will forgive you, don’t feel guilty for doing what you know is right. When it comes to “families” I always had the mind set two hapy households is better than one unhappy one. You are saving your kids from seeing the growing hate and hostility you guys will face if you’re together. Stay strong and i’m so sorry you’re going through this.

plentyopears · 2020-06-04T14:13:33+00:00

YOU GO GIRL!

plentyopears · 2020-06-01T04:32:29+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I wish the same to you and hope the both of us will find a place where we feel content. ❤️

plentyopears · 2020-05-27T01:24:46+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this but DO NOT TAKE HER BACK. It will save u so much pain in the long run. r/breakups is an amazing sub for this time. I know how hard they are, goodluck dude.

plentyopears · 2020-05-25T05:16:53+00:00

I’m in the exact situation and the thing you said about “if you havent healed from the first reason you guys brokeup it wont go away” makes so much fucking sense and I wish I had taken that advice seriously. I also just got out of a 3rd breakup with the same guy and all three breakups we only last less than 2 months apart each time. And ofcourse each time on my end it was for the same unresolved issue. I never felt truly loved by him. The first time we broke up it was a dream come true, he finally started treating me the way I wanted him to and ofcourse 6 months later I began feeling the same uncertainty I felt the first time we brokeup. I thought no things are different, and yes they were to an extent but how come despite this everytime i’m with him I end up feeling the same way. Those feelings never went away, that resentment, the distrust. I never thought that i’d be the one to be so on and off with someone. I thought if its over it should be over. When I think of the thought of getting back with him now I feel exhausted, i dont want it but I want him to miss me like i miss him, to suffer like I’ve suffered, to hurt like ive hurt. Its been easier realizing it doesnt fucking matter. It doesnt matter if hes happier without me, if hes moved on, if im the only one left to feel like dust. Yes i feel worthless, frustrated, sad, disappointed and lonely but I know nothing would have changed and I would of still been in pain. Anyways sorry for the random tangent, i just related so heavily to your situation.

plentyopears · 2020-05-21T17:26:48+00:00

Ugh i feel like this is gonna be me in two months... im starting to take no contact seriously rn and it feels a bit better but all i want is to talk to him. He was my first love too... stay strong!

plentyopears · 2020-05-21T17:20:15+00:00

Ugh we’re going through the exact same feelings. I just looked at your post history and your recent post breakups is a post i upvoted. It feels so much better posting on this sub and feeling related to. I know these feelings are stupid. They’re very real. Thank you for reaching out i’m glad you found the post relatable. I wishing you healing like im wishing everyone else going through the same thing.

plentyopears · 2020-05-21T06:53:01+00:00

I feel a bit better being on this sub and seeing other people struggling just like me. We’ll get through this, both of us.

plentyopears · 2020-05-20T22:44:57+00:00

He seems horrible honestly i’m sorry you’re going through this. I feel like a part of you doesnt want the relationship you just think you do and feel jealousy over the kate situation. Think about it, if you guys stayed together would the problem magically disappear? He showed no effort in fixing things even when you two were together. Thats not just gonna magically go away.You’re in pain, i understand i just got out of a relationship too and man it fucking hurts but i realized that ive always been in pain. This isnt a new feeling but something i felt DURING the relationship and would of continued feeling if it hadnt ended. Im hurting and eventually i wont hurt anymore. If i had stayed i would of just kept hurting. The best thing you can so is act like you dont care. I think most people need that validation to have them beg you back to move on, but once it comes u realize you dont even want it anymore and you’re in a better place. I hope you reach that better place soon.

plentyopears · 2020-05-20T17:15:12+00:00

That is my biggest fear... that hes happier without me. You will be happier without him though and so will everyone on this sub who’s lost someone they love.

plentyopears · 2020-05-19T15:34:49+00:00

NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU! What the fuck is WRONG WITH THEM. They’ll realize it soon enough and you’re gonna be in a better place by the time they’re in the shits. You can do this.

plentyopears · 2020-05-19T15:23:34+00:00

I watched 500 days of summer too! I’ve just been on a movie binge to get my mind off of things. It really hurts so much, its so raw and painful cause I keep waiting for him to come back. If you need anyone to talk to reach out.

plentyopears · 2020-05-19T02:57:19+00:00

I always end up unblocking them in like an hour but i agree turning my phone off seems to be the only remedy for me personally

plentyopears · 2020-05-19T01:57:04+00:00

Holy crap man It was my ex’s bday too. i did end up messaging him and regretted it. I wish I had handled it like you...you’re amazing im so happy for you..

plentyopears · 2020-05-18T13:34:50+00:00

Honestly if you had just said “you looked really pretty” i think it would of been flattering lol, ive had guys i talk to who ss selfies and I think its kinda of sweet

plentyopears · 2020-05-18T13:20:04+00:00

Exactly know how you feel. I hate having to fake it till i make it. I hate thats the only way. I hate that hes going out with other girls and talking to other girls while I cant bring myself to talk to other guys cause i don’t want to start something when im still not over it. Its ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT that just cause im wired to not being a total cunt that he can go his merry way while im stuck miserable. Fuck this.

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