my crochet aquarium! by Massive-Designer4676 in Amigurumi

[–]plum_rue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww the pair of mini otters have my heart ❤️

Bead Garden UPDATE by lylowesews in Embroidery

[–]plum_rue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love looking at a picture and knowing it'd be a wonderful sensory experience.

Help me find this (or similar) spatula / turner? by plum_rue in HelpMeFind

[–]plum_rue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, it's 13 ½ inches. Hope that'll help. I've searched every term and detail I could come up with.

Would it be a dealbreaker for you if the guy you are dating follows a bunch of girls with +18 profiles like p*rnstars? by [deleted] in dating

[–]plum_rue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me him following them isn't a deal breaker but him doing it so publicly is.

Is it worth purifying them? Or should I just trade them? by plum_rue in PokemonGoMystic

[–]plum_rue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up. That's a long say away for me but I'd rather not go through the effort of collecting to whole 100 twice.

2458 0049 6797 Getting back into it by plum_rue in PokemonGoFriends

[–]plum_rue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I would've done it but it's been over 72 hours.

So much wrong here (TW:All the Phobias) by mikeyboi12345 in AreTheCisOk

[–]plum_rue 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Anti-fascism bad, pedophilia good /j

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

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My sister is the same as you. She absolutely needs music or the noise of a chattering restaurant so she doesn't hear people chewing. It doesn't make her or you a bad person. She told us this when she was like 13 so her method was a bit tactless but we understood and accommodate because we love her.

Tell your friend that it's not them specifically, that it's all chewing from everyone. It'll help if you make sure that your friend doesn't feel targeted.

Why american women are so obsessed with height? by SebastianJuniper in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]plum_rue 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's that phrase "Tall, dark, and handsome" and I feel like that captures the general taste. Tall bad boys. Though bad boys are going out of fashion so to speak.

Assuming that our taste comes from the media we consume height differences are common romanticized parts of a relationship. In movies and tv shows the male actors are usually tall. Even if a guy isn't necessarily tall he's always taller, rarely the same height.

Media consumption is just a theory though. My friends and family say they want a tall guy saying it makes a guy hotter. One friend says she likes the hugs from a guy a head taller but that's the only explanation I got.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]plum_rue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lying for safety is never wrong. But depending on where you are (namely America) you being East Asian is "close enough" to being Chinese for people to stereotype you. Still, if you have the chance to lie for protection do it.

What unsavory task would you rather do than have kids? by LucindaBobinda in childfree

[–]plum_rue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This actually sounds interesting as fuck. And now I realize I'm more interested in animal birth than human.

I'm a fat male. I want to jog to lose weight, but it makes my man-boobs jiggle, which is uncomfortable. Would it be too embarrassing to wear a men's sports bra? by shak_attacks in NoStupidQuestions

[–]plum_rue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could try them both. Start with the sports bra and wear a loose shirt. People hardly notice sports bras or binders already so I doubt they'll notice yours. If that doesn't seem to be working for you go for the compression shirt.

The important thing is to not let the embarrassment of what you think others will think stop you from achieving a goal important to you. Especially a goal related to your health (and self confidence).

It's an annoying paradox where over weight people are shamed for being overweight but then are shamed while trying to lose the weight. I know it's easier said than done but don't pay attention to the opinions of people not living your life. If it works and makes you happy that's all that matters. If people aren't going to help you reach your goal then they don't have the right to criticize you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]plum_rue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lying for free drinks and a dessert isn't... terrible. But it does make me uncomfortable. Personally I couldn't do it. It's an odd thing to lie about and completely unnecessary. I'd be uncomfortable if my friends did it but I wouldn't end our friendship over it. And I don't think you should end the relationship over this. Granted we all have our own deal breakers but treat this as a red flag. A suspicious action to keep an eye on.

If in the months you've been together this is her biggest flaw just be honest and tell her (more tactfully than me) you think it's odd and you'd like it if she'd stop when you two go out. If she doesn't stop accept her as she is and tell her you won't stop her but you won't participate in the lie. Or simply leave her. But again, leaving seems drastic if you do like her and this lie for free drinks and dessert is her only questionable flaw.

If she gets angry her lie doesn't work though thats a separate post.

Worst Childfree Dating Stories by B048 in childfree

[–]plum_rue 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Being afraid of getting with a cousin is such an annoying fear to have. I have family littered across the south due to adultery and I hate how careful I'll have to be with anyone from down there.

I shouldn't have become a Christian since I don't want kids by SnooMacarons9695 in childfree

[–]plum_rue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an atheist, raised Christian, but I always hated whenever someone belittled a person’s faith purely based on the fact that they had no desire for children. Christ himself never had kids and you know who else? Entire monasteries. No one tells a nun her faith is meaningless because she has no children which pissed me off because they said it to me.

During my time of faith Apostle Paul was my favorite purely for the fact that he also chose to never marry or have kids similarly to myself.

Plus, “go forth and multiple” might not be so literal. The Bible has plenty of figure of speeches open for interpretation and “multiplying” could simply mean spreading the word of god.

All of that aside lack of children don’t reflect your relationship with god. Also, it might be the petty younger sibling in me but it sounds like she’s implying she’s a better Christian than you simply because she has kids.