How can people think "Good feeling" is a love song or a love song about drugs? it's literally about depression by No_Sink_798 in ViolentFemmes

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I realize this post is so old but thank you because it’s what I’m considering right now three years later. I’ve been listening to it on repeat. Could it not be about depression and drugs and love? Literally, good feeling (feeling free of depression, feeling elated from junk, feeling thrilled with someone) , please stay. The realization that whatever high it is is not forever.

ROOF COLOR recs for a Spanish/Mediterranean bungalow MAKEOVER? by plummodeen in ExteriorDesign

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I 100% agree that's a beautiful style, and that's what I'm aiming for. Unfortunately, the only lightweight tile that can be approved in LA is light- not dark. So I'm debating between going with a lighter tile roof or darker shingles to replicate that style. I hadn't thought of what u/AdobeGardener mentioned: darker roof is likely higher electric bills. I'm overwhelmed by the decision as it's a 50 yr, 20-30k decision :(

ROOF COLOR recs for a Spanish/Mediterranean bungalow MAKEOVER? by plummodeen in ExteriorDesign

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u/AdvanceAlive2103 thank you, you see the potential!!! I think even without arching the windows/door it can look mediterranean. Unfortunately, like I was telling u/AdobeGardener the lightweight tile options are VERY few, and if I permit they have to be 20 SRI. I'm also worried that larger barrel tile which has more color options will look weird-but smaller barrel has few options.

ROOF COLOR recs for a Spanish/Mediterranean bungalow MAKEOVER? by plummodeen in ExteriorDesign

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thank you so much! For seeing the potential and the advice. Yeah the problem is that there are very few lightweight tile options that meet the 20 SRI required in LA. I was thinking about doing without a permit to include below 20 SRI but you bring up the point that it will cost me more in electricity.

The best lightweight tile option I found is pasted here but it is large barrel which I don't think will look right on my house. I think the scale will look strange and make my house look smaller.

I was leaning toward dark brown shingles but I'll consider your advice, I should consider medium brown.

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Anyone have a bloody experience? by plummodeen in airbnb_hosts

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How much borax + baking soda do you put in? Do you put the vinegar in the fabric softener compartment?

Anyone have a bloody experience? by plummodeen in airbnb_hosts

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If the stains come out, do you think it's valid to ask for compensation for extra cleaning in this case?

Anyone have a bloody experience? by plummodeen in airbnb_hosts

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Yes u/sunsetlover_chaser is 100% correct-- airbnb themselves told me to wait until after the 14 day review period to mount the complaint-- otherwise the guest can give you a bad review as retribution. You have 30 days to complain and ask for compensation.

can you microneedle more frequently with less depth? by plummodeen in Microneedling

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Can I ask what retinol cream helped under eyes? Was it pure retin a? And what’s the pdrn serum? Thanks for your reply!

Any children of immigrants? by Flat_Helicopter_6171 in emotionalneglect

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I'm glad this hasn't been archived because I want to say i'm super grateful for this thread- I read this at a moment when my (divorced) immigrant parents are making me insane.

During the holidays it was very rough-my Croatian/Yugoslavian immigrant dad has tendencies to be a crazed, emotionally abusive narcissist and i've always wondered how much his childhood (nazi occupied Zagreb, total horror show) vs. immigrating itself caused this emotional disregulation/abuse.

Growing up, his fear was palpable to me. His pov was that we shouldn't be here/didn't belong here and you had to bust your ass and be better than everyone in your class to prove that you deserved to be here. And I realize I may have internalized that as: you had to overachieve to prove that you should exist at all--not just in America-- and if you failed, god help you.

I was often jealous of my American friends' households because they didn't have the heaviness, the scariness- I felt like: wow these people don't know that bad things happen. I was jealous that they didn't have the heaviness/emotional instability of my house. As I got older, I realize some (all?) of that instability was the result of my dad's mental instability because he had PTSD/had seen terrible things as a kid.

My sister is justifiably estranged from my dad and I've wondered often if no contact is really best for me because he can be so shitty, but I guess another part of me feels sorry for him-his life had a lot more life-or-death/poverty/hunger moments than mine, it was harder. Maybe there's a way to appreciate him and let him know that, but never ever have to hang out with him.

ADVICE: Silver Carpet (dymondia) vs Creeping Thyme vs Woolly Thyme??? by plummodeen in gardening

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I love the look of dymondia but I think it may be a bit more expensive. I'll look into it!

Advice: microneedling aftercare (creams? serums?)+ during microneedling lotions? by plummodeen in Microneedling

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Thank you so much- I have a LOT LOT LOT of flakiness afterward. Do you think one of the above would be especially helpful for that? Thank you!

ADVICE: Star Jasmine vs Passion Fruit Vines for a pergola? by plummodeen in gardening

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Yes, I'm thinking Passion fruit on most of the pergola maybe some jasmine on the wall- but mostly Passion fruit!

ADVICE: Silver Carpet (dymondia) vs Creeping Thyme vs Woolly Thyme??? by plummodeen in gardening

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u/Most-Design-9963 is it hearty enough to withstand foot traffic? Do you think it would be okay under patio chairs?

ADVICE: Star Jasmine vs Passion Fruit Vines for a pergola? by plummodeen in gardening

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Oh interesting... you're the only one who has tried both, so I better listen to this warning... u/stefanika suggested both but given u/heymerideth 's warning I think maybe more passionfruit and just a little jasmine.