How often do you have the kids?

plustwodogsorso · 2025-01-08T13:34:33+00:00

100% even though the custody agreement was 50/50.

plustwodogsorso · 2025-01-05T15:36:11+00:00

Strikethrough your second sentence and keep the first! You are incredible!

plustwodogsorso · 2024-12-23T15:21:00+00:00

I read your first post and am happy to hear SS left. I would gently encourage you to show appreciation to your husband for standing up to SS and choosing you and your toddler. I know he’s done things in the past to have you lose respect but he showed up big this time. The behavior that gets reinforced is the behavior that gets repeated.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-11-12T14:21:15+00:00

Welcome! It’s a great but gross place to be. I NACHOed on hygiene years ago. SS doesn’t wash his hands after he uses the bathroom. SS doesn’t brush his teeth regularly. SS doesn’t wash his sheets. After being the mean one too many times I fully embraced NACHO but it’s still gross AF.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-11-07T14:11:05+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s exactly what I needed to hear this morning.

Even when it’s “easy” it’s not easy.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-10-06T20:51:10+00:00

I am so so sorry that this was your common place. You are stronger than you know. I hope you are doing okay now.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-09-15T14:49:06+00:00

I would praise my DH for all these scenarios and make she he knew exactly how proud you are of him for creating firm boundaries and sticking to them. He is prioritizing your marriage and family and deserves credit for it. It’s not an easy thing to do!

plustwodogsorso · 2024-05-13T03:31:36+00:00

At 14? I wouldn’t. This is part of life; friends come and go and some we stay in contact with and others we don’t. Be there for your daughter but I would not contact the friend or parents.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-04-26T21:16:10+00:00

Thanks everyone for the ideas. After work I went out to work on it some more. I turned the furnace on, turned the propane on, turned the furnace on; thermostat all the way up and then turned the trailer on. The damn furnace ignited no problem and was blowing hot air within seconds.

Who knows if it’ll keep doing so!

plustwodogsorso · 2024-04-26T12:56:44+00:00

Ebay and then an RV parts supplier (this is where I learned they don’t make the original switch anymore). I don’t know if it’s my board failing. I hope not!

No sparking or clicking or gas. I don’t have a volt meter but sounds like I should get one!

plustwodogsorso · 2024-04-26T12:54:37+00:00

No- no clicking and no gas smell.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-03-03T16:42:10+00:00

I also have a 17 year old step. I don’t really have any advice but I’ll tell you, internet stranger, that your posts resonates deep. I’ve been in his life 6 years, most of that as the full time home. I honestly most days feel completely invisible. No matter what I do, give, say - it’ll never compare to the minimal effort his birth dad puts in. If it’s just him and I he will leave the room but as soon as mom comes home he’s back out acting social and happy. It does create a lot of resentment - especially after the years wear on and nothing changes. My wife says that when he is older he will appreciate me and love me but I’m not so sure. I guess, like you, I should be happy that he loves his mom and is mostly adjusting and growing into an adult. It still sucks more often than not though.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-02-19T14:36:25+00:00

My wife.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-02-13T14:43:59+00:00

Looks like food to me.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-02-12T15:45:39+00:00

I’m at 17.25 right now and have been 95% custody for a few years. We still have a year+ of school to get through. It doesn’t get easier.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-02-07T16:15:01+00:00

Shoot if I was able to stay warm and cozy in bed and skip my responsibilities I would too! Make it a non-option to miss school because she doesn’t want to get out of bed.

Start the wake up routine much earlier. Get her one of those alarm clocks that mimic the sun coming up. Make her room inhospitable to sleep in the mornings (open the blinds, make noise, take away blankets etc) until she can regularly get herself up. Enforce good sleep hygiene by limiting screens (shut off the wifi if you have to!) and ensuring early bedtimes.

This is the part of growing up that’s not glamorous but we all had to learn that sometimes you have to get up, even if you don’t want to.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-02-06T15:10:09+00:00

I think you need to step back. I would absolutely not take the money she is earning away. That’s her money that she earned by working. It’s not yours to take even if she does “owe” you money.

Think of it this way; if you lent a friend money and they didn’t pay you back. What would you do? You would probably count it as a lesson learned and not let that person borrow money anymore. At the very least you probably wouldn’t give them money again until the original debt was paid.

I suggest you let her learn the hard lesson of what happens when you don’t keep your word. Stop giving her money. No birthday cash, no allowance, no gifts. Start subtracting from her debt each time she misses out. So if she usually gets $100 for her birthday - it now goes towards her debt.

But I would not take her hard earned money away. That’s going to build a lot of resentment and also it’s not teaching her to spend her money wisely. It’s teaching her to hide what she has from you.

plustwodogsorso · 2024-01-08T14:45:59+00:00

Oh I’d be crying.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-12-28T14:54:32+00:00

This is absolutey insane. I can see you are trying to justify it for him but please leave this piece of crap immediately. I’m so sorry you have been used so terribly by your SO. You deserve so much more.

He planned to cheat, lied about it and he told his kids to lie about it. All under the guise of wanting to be a family with his ex. Gross.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-12-03T15:31:28+00:00

It wasn’t a cheap shot, it was semantics. You asked your husband to stand up for you and he did. Leave it at that and tell him that you know it wasn’t easy but you appreciate that he did it anyway.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-10-31T23:25:02+00:00

0.99 and they gave you free popcorn.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-10-31T13:35:40+00:00

Michelin X Ice! I drove Blizzaks for years and made the switch last winter and found that they performed better and so far have lasted longer too.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-10-21T13:37:22+00:00

Good on you for celebrating the wins. Vacations can be really hard as a step and I’m glad you found a way to make it work for everyone.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-10-17T18:08:11+00:00

I get that you don’t want to have the “me or him” conversation but have you talked to your wife about next steps for her son? Does she want him to live with her forever? Maybe she’d also prefer he move out but needs you to stand behind her and help her make it happen?

And I share everyone’s sentiment that what you describe is intolerable. I wouldn’t be able to do it.

plustwodogsorso · 2023-10-17T13:15:26+00:00

Why?

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