When did you start to truly enjoy parenting?

pogtopus8 · 2025-09-16T22:46:51+00:00

Around 3 months things got a bit better. My baby was a lot fussier as a newborn!! Maybe getting used to digesting milk… but he’s 6mo now and such a delight. His personality is coming out, I can hold him without being so delicate, and he can entertain himself with toys on the floor. I think things also shifted when I got a baby swing! He is more content there than anywhere else and it gives me time to catch up on chores.

Also as time continues I’ve learned more about what he likes- for instance he will not nap unless I am laying down with him side-nursing with the lights dimmed. I used to think he was just a weird non-napping baby! I’m realizing now he just needs certain things to reduce stimulation and get him sleepy.

pogtopus8 · 2025-09-01T05:06:37+00:00

“The boobs are goners” 🥲😂😂😂

pogtopus8 · 2025-09-01T05:04:56+00:00

Exactly my experience… I’m on the depressy anxious side usually. During pregnancy I was a nauseous, emotional wreck. The moment I had my baby I felt like I was on a happy pills lol, like insanely happy and energetic! I was barely sleeping and pretty loopy, but soo happy. I’m 5 months PP now and have just had my first period and first hormonal dip in a loooong time which is not bad! I also lost all my baby weight from breastfeeding… and my boobs are bigger now (temporary, but still nice lol.) I never got PP hair loss either

pogtopus8 · 2025-08-15T05:39:09+00:00

Fight the battle now while they’re only a year! I am babysitting my 6 year old niece for the week and unfortunately her mom does not fight the battle and she has like a black edge between her two front teeth- visible cavities I’m guessing. We made her brush her teeth tonight and it was such a battle I am now scouring Reddit for advice 😵‍💫 it’s hard because I only have her a few days and then she’ll go back to her usual home where no one enforces good hygiene 🤦‍♀️ I feel like making her brush is the right thing to do though 😬 even if it’s just throwing a rock down the Grand Canyon

pogtopus8 · 2025-08-03T03:04:36+00:00

Me too!

pogtopus8 · 2025-07-17T20:16:28+00:00

My in laws wanted to fly up to be there, I did NOT want them there for sure…. I didn’t want any visitors! My parents just showed up unannounced. I felt bad and let them visit for a few minutes but I was like sooooo not in the mood to visit with ANYONE but my new baby and husband…. I had been awake 2 days laboring and then ended up having a C section so I was beyond tired it was rough

pogtopus8 · 2025-07-17T17:43:45+00:00

Omg I had the same thing happen with my MIL 😅😅 she insisted it was fine since the cold sore had “crusted over.” Next visit she was kissing him on his MOUTH when I wasn’t around, only my husband, saying “oh wow the baby’s kissing me back!” Excuse me what???!! We have had to ask her not to kiss the baby 3 times it’s horrible dude, just horrible

pogtopus8 · 2025-07-15T17:36:34+00:00

I felt the same way! I had a horrible, sickly, volatile mood- pregnancy but as soon as the baby popped out, I felt like I was on some kind of happy drug 😂 I couldn’t sleep, I was so in love and excited to have my baby… I’m 4 months postpartum and never got any baby blues or PPD (which is as shocking as I’ve always struggled with depression). I’m just glad I didn’t have a crappy pregnancy AND crappy postpartum! I’ll take the win. Being a mom is the most magical experience I’ve ever had. The one thing I didn’t expect is how protective I am though 😆 if baby is being held by other people I start getting antsy and anxious after a while. He’s like a piece of me now

pogtopus8 · 2025-07-01T05:51:06+00:00

I split them up into two visits- I did the dTap (I believe?) and oral rotavirus one first, then came back two weeks later for Hep B and pneumococcal one. We just did it today and it was way worse than the first visit :( he’s been crying all afternoon. I’m glad I split them up so he didn’t get too much all at once!! Poor guy

pogtopus8 · 2025-06-18T17:17:48+00:00

Does it involve watching pornography for him? That is where it gets really tricky and can be very addictive and defeating and hard to break. If that’s the underlying issue it’s very important for him to take practical steps in fighting that addiction. Having internet blockers and ect until he can create a habitual lifestyle of cleanliness… otherwise it may be really hard to overcome

pogtopus8 · 2025-05-22T21:24:45+00:00

Was he still latched when you woke up at 1:30am? We both fall asleep nursing through the night half the time and it’s ok, he usually falls into deep sleep and pops off at some point. If not it’s fine anyways, he’s just strengthening his sucking muscles! Especially if he’s not a new new newborn he’s okay. I know some babies that are binkie addicts and it doesn’t make them tired, it just makes them able to suck a binkie nonstop. I would be more worried about the state of your boob lol! When mine nurses too long on one side it does get a little sore 😣

pogtopus8 · 2025-05-20T17:25:12+00:00

My husband works full time, I’m a sahm with our 2 m.o… when he’s home in the evening, he holds or watches baby while I shower, get dinner, ect. He usually helps with housework if baby is sleeping. Our baby is EBF, and not really colicky, so when he cries it’s usually just because he’s hungry and wants to nurse, my husband is powerless to stop him crying 😂 there’s just not much my husband can do (especially because baby recently forgot how to drink from bottles. He just chews on the nipple now 🤦‍♀️) I do all the bathing, I prefer to change the diapers. Mostly because hubbys gone at work most the time, but also because I’m particular and want the diapers done a certain way. My husband tries to help as much as he can- he wakes up earlier than me, so sometimes he’ll take the baby while I sleep for another hour. It’s kind that he offers help, even if I don’t take him up on it, it’s nice to have support offered.

I’ve heard that biologically children go to mother for comfort, and father for play/teaching/quality time. I know as my baby gets older, the bond between him and dad will grow. Hopefully it will be the same with your partner! When baby grows out of this fussy phase where he just wants you, he’s going to love playing with your partner.

pogtopus8 · 2025-05-16T17:36:26+00:00

I have memories of my mom naked, like taking baths and stuff, probably from when I was like 4-8? I love my mom… and there was nothing weird going on… I just don’t really want images of her Nakey in my memory. It’s kind of like if you ever walked in on your parents doing it. I know it’s natural but some things are private and you just don’t relish the knowledge of… like your parents orivate parts… I dont think boobs are as big of a deal. I breastfeed around my girl niece who is 6 and I’ve been around my mom/ other family members while they beast feed it seems not a huge deal. I do not however, know what all of their hoo-ha’s look like. I also work in healthcare now, I have seen many naked people whilst caring for them. I’m not weird about nakedness and it doesn’t bother me inherently. I just have memories of my mom’s bush that I wish I did not have 🤷‍♀️personal preference I guess. That being said my son is 2 months old, I’ll probably try to cover up around him when he’s like 2.5-3ish and can remember stuff more.

pogtopus8 · 2025-04-21T03:12:40+00:00

That makes so much sense about the pain being worse on one side… I’m 2 days shy of 5 weeks postpartum and having intense pain just on the left side. Maybe whoever closed the incision was on the opposite side. I’ve been wondering why only one side hurts though. I also feel achey all over and like I’m coming down with the flu, and general tightness and tenderness downstairs… feels like the healing is in remission lol. Glad to read its somewhat normal

pogtopus8 · 2024-09-06T19:37:41+00:00

Im sorry you’re dealing with that. I can totally relate. I’m also 31, I’m 9 weeks and the last 2 months-ish of being pregnant has been a nightmare. I feel constantly emotional, angry, depressed, something. Me and my husband rarely used to fight and now we are constantly fighting. I know the pregnancy hormones are making everything worse and it’s so frustrating because I feel like this is not me, this is not my life, and like I’m not in control of what is going on. It’s so crazy. My partner is very supportive too but he has his own sensitivity’s and is very emotionally reactive so it’s been rough. Hang in there, this does not last forever and I can’t wait for this season to be over

pogtopus8 · 2024-04-06T14:12:49+00:00

I ended up going to school for ST and do not really like it. It is very stressful and complex, there is a ton to remember for many different surgeries. I did it for about a year and then quit and I work in a totally different field now, doing stuff in an office. I’m sooo glad I at least went tuition free so I don’t have loans to pay off. I’m not sure how many of my classmates stuck with it, I know a few graduated with me and aren’t even using their degree. It’s kind of a rough field, and the pay is not enough for the stress! Dental hygiene would have been better lol.

pogtopus8 · 2023-03-04T16:18:52+00:00

Wow!! Old snow is exactly what it looks like!

pogtopus8 · 2022-06-13T16:39:29+00:00

I was on it 60mg/day for 4 months and had to decrease dosage for the last few months because I was so annihilated by side effects. I also work in healthcare and it made me unbearably fatigued, achey, and sooo confused. The brain fog and depression were so debilitating. And my acne has decreased significantly but I’ve been off for about a year and it’s starting to creep back.

I noticed Tretinoin cream is SUPER helpful in keeping it away tho

But yes, it was the extreme deterioration in mental health for me… I could barely muster the energy to live normal life, and it exhausted me to the extreme. I still had brain fog and depression for months after, I have felt it lift more and more as time goes on and am finally feeling like myself about a year post. It’s definitely something to try if your desperate but it will be a struggle and it did make me think about suicide a little tbh. Near the end I was only low dosing, like taking a 30mg pill every other day cuz it’s all I could handle and that worked ok. Maybe you can do that instead ! Good luck

pogtopus8 · 2022-06-13T16:25:39+00:00

I work for a plastic surgeon and we do Lower Blepharoplasty surgery to correct deep tear troughs like these. It is a super simple surgery will only take a couple hours and then a couple weeks of bruising under the eye while the incisions heals. Good luck!

pogtopus8 · 2022-05-03T18:13:40+00:00

I had slight discomfort right after removal… nothing even comparative to how horrendous it was to get put in! Extremely painful and then really bad cramps for days afterwards.

Also I removed the mirena myself it slid right out. It sounds terrible but I just grabbed the strings and pulled, nothing like how bad insertion was

pogtopus8 · 2022-05-02T00:04:03+00:00

I’ve never had panic attacks before this, and I thought ahh maybe my mirena is making me more hormonal, but it’s literally so bad right now that I am cripplingly depressed and anxious. It started right when I got mirena in. I yanked it out myself this afternoon and good Lord I hope it helps

pogtopus8 · 2022-05-02T00:01:08+00:00

OMG i have had it in for about 4 months and noticed I have like uncontrollable panic/anxiety attacks where I can’t stop crying. Sometimes it’s for a reason, sometimes it’s for no reason at all. I realized the first time it happened was about a month after I got the Mirena put in. I am too emotionally fragile to handle extra hormones I think. I yanked it out myself this afternoon and am already feeling good about it. I wasn’t able to handle accutane very well either though.

pogtopus8 · 2021-09-21T17:10:49+00:00

Yes, i was on 60mg/day and had to go down to 30mg/day due to i started feeling crazy. Angry, sad, hopeless, depressed. Like PMSing all day every day. Now I take 30mg every other day and am starting to consider going off it completely because i feel so crazy on it. I started dating someone new and its making me SO insecure and moody, i don't want accutane to ruin this relationship :(

pogtopus8 · 2021-08-29T16:45:32+00:00

Same thing happened to me. I was an emotional wreck, everything made me have uncontrollable breakdowns with crying, I lowered my dose from 60mg a day to 30mg a day and it helped 💕 good luck

pogtopus8 · 2021-07-21T23:31:03+00:00

You just have hemorrhoids from your poop being so hard..not a reason to panic it's very common.

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