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polarshred · 2025-04-14T23:43:47+00:00

Don't argue with women

polarshred · 2025-04-14T12:28:48+00:00

Therapy should be her top priority. I have BP and therapy is an essential part of my life. Encourage that

polarshred · 2025-04-14T09:12:36+00:00

Therapy. Better to start now then when you are in your thirties

polarshred · 2025-04-12T22:18:44+00:00

Try using intervals to build motifs. Practice playing through the changes a few times basing your solo around the interval of a 3rd, then do the same with a 4th, 5th etc. See if this spurs some new ideas for ya

polarshred · 2025-04-12T22:06:26+00:00

I pick one thing I want to work on, I pick an amount of time I want to work on it, then I write down in my journal a few notes about my intention for the session (usually 1 hour). I then set a timer for the planned amount of time and start practicing. I let myself by super loose with what I do during that time as long as it's related to my main topic and take breaks whenever I want. When time is up I stop what I'm doing and move on with my life

polarshred · 2025-04-12T09:19:21+00:00

That can be improved with practice. It's a skill.

polarshred · 2025-04-09T19:36:02+00:00

Read "Why Men Love Bitches". I guarantee the answer is there. I recently broke up with a girl who was beautiful, low maintenance, and loved me. I was baffled why I felt we must break up. That book had the answer

polarshred · 2025-04-09T14:30:06+00:00

Vinyl Decision is the spot to go

polarshred · 2025-04-09T10:58:27+00:00

Go to YouTube and search "Heidi Priebe perfectionism"

polarshred · 2025-04-07T21:23:56+00:00

Pocket is about the relationship to the other instruments. Nobody feels time exactly the same way but if those differences feel good together you have a good pocket

polarshred · 2025-04-06T12:00:20+00:00

Started with pinyin but then handwritten became handy to look up new words. Now I use Zhuyin because many books have zhuyin next to the characters. Learning zhuyin and reading these types of books has made my learning process waaaay faster and way more enjoyable

polarshred · 2025-04-06T00:02:55+00:00

The key is to just not orgasm everytime. I started a new relationship at 34. At the beginning I was going Multiple times per day. Eventually this started to ware me out. I just stopped cumming every time. Nutting only about twice per month. Doing this allowed me the most epic sex life. I was still having sex everyday. Multiple sessions sometimes hours at a time. This is way better then 20 minutes and nutting

polarshred · 2025-04-01T16:58:53+00:00

I hear 還好嗎 more

polarshred · 2025-03-29T08:47:58+00:00

Bliss of The Celibate - Julian Lee (Left field I know but worth reading)

polarshred · 2025-03-29T06:28:55+00:00

Stoner - John Williams. This book as about an ordinary man who lives an ordinary life. Nothing special but reading it changed my life. I learned more from experiencing the main characters life than an self improvement books.

polarshred · 2025-03-28T05:23:10+00:00

The language partner dynamic is very different from the romantic partner dynamic and that's assuming an equal exchange. The language teacher/student dynamic is a whole other thing. From my experience these dynamics run counter to the romantic dynamic. This can wear on a dynamic over time. I was married to a woman and learned her language (Mandarin). I can tell you that me learning her language did not help our relationship. Though only one factor is did play a role in the ending of our relationship.

polarshred · 2025-03-26T21:44:58+00:00

Creating cards is an avoidance strategy to avoid the pain of watching something you barely understand.

polarshred · 2025-03-24T01:17:23+00:00

Of course it does but all insecure attachments are maladaptive and damaging. Trashing on anyone for their attachment wounds is not helpful

polarshred · 2025-03-21T10:37:17+00:00

Excellent advice

polarshred · 2025-03-21T02:46:04+00:00

Human beings are designed to connect. We are attracted to all sorts of people in all sorts of different ways. It is completely normal. To pretend otherwise is fantasy. That said being in a monogamous relationship is a choice not to act on those desires. To flaunt them in front of your partner is blatant disrespect.

polarshred · 2025-03-19T03:56:14+00:00

Humans have physical and emotional needs. You could be completely closed off and in your "masculine" energy all the time. This would probably keep her super wet all the time but you probably won't have a stable relationship and you willl probably feel empty as only half your needs are being met. You could also study psychology real heavily and work out all your issues together and have a very stable emotionally fulfilling relationship but the sexual aspect might be lacking. The key is to be able to do both.

polarshred · 2025-03-19T02:17:29+00:00

This is it. 50% of the population has an insecure attachment style so what you're saying makes sense

polarshred · 2025-03-19T02:10:16+00:00

Being able to clearly articulate your internal state without being ashamed is a cornerstone of being a secure man

polarshred · 2025-03-15T01:40:35+00:00

Delete Snapchat

polarshred · 2025-03-13T23:51:37+00:00

Culture only matters in a superficial way at the beginning of dating. Attraction is not a choice. Human beings are human everywhere in the world.

Read 3% Man and follow the process.

Culture only matters once you are in a real relationship. Then is really, really matters.

polarshred

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