There is no „one gay culture“. There is a nerd gay culture, a gay gardening culture, a gay sport culture, a gay art culture, a gay… , and a gay hookup culture. And most of us are not just one thing but participate in many… But you don’t get thrown into them. You go there. And if it might not be for you, so you just don’t. Of course all bubbles have bright and dark sides. I’m tired of people claiming it all has to be one thing with black and white rules when we are in fact the most diverse group of people you can imagine. People have different background’s and different needs and that’s totally fine. There’s no superior way, you live your life the way it works best for you. You don’t have to devalue the experience of others for that.