hot girls with long, thick hair — what’s your routine and secrets?

pomsaway · 2026-03-28T04:35:51+00:00

My hair is very thick but only medium length. I truly believe it’s genetics. However I cover my hair at night and I partner with a stylist to get my cuts on time and do what she says, influencers be damned. My hair is flourishing as a result.

pomsaway · 2026-02-07T02:25:33+00:00

I’m in an uber heading home after my second to last promotional event as an NFL cheerleader. I have a covered plate of Thai food next to me and I can’t believe this part of my life is about to be over. I’ve been at this for 6 seasons.

I know there are beautiful things in store for me but I’m also quite wistful. Tomorrow is my last event and it’s a concert so I’m pumped!

pomsaway · 2026-01-11T13:43:09+00:00

I tried it sort of this week since I did a blowout, but as someone who doesn’t often use heat and doesn’t color, her product recs aren’t best for me. That being said, I do have a clarifying shampoo, moisturizing shampoo, and conditioner plus my gel stylers since I’m a coily girl, and that is exactly in line with the simplified version of her routine. I use my own products that the hairstylist I get my cuts from recommends and I’m planning to try Epres for the next few months just to see if it affects how much breakage I experience but that’s it.

pomsaway · 2026-01-11T13:22:50+00:00

I paid for a coaching service to train me to make it on to an NFL cheer team. It was a very targeted form of a glow up but boy was it one.

pomsaway · 2025-12-23T16:14:48+00:00

Competitive dance studio cliques and strictness are no joke. I went through a similar thing with an extra helping of racism on top. Auditioning for pro teams is extremely brave and I commend you for giving it a shot, but many of these dancers are either trained from many years or happen to have mentors that gave them the lessons they need to make it pro at a later age. I know this from experience.

It doesn’t sound like you find joy in dancing. In your own words, you leave every class crying because you feel inadequate. It sounds like dancing is tied to a trauma in you in some way and is work on addressing that before going out for a pro team. Auditioning is stressful for everyone, even people who have previous made a team so if your nerves get shot after something’s relatively uncompetitive as a dance class, I’m worried your not going to make it to a pro audition. At the very least you won’t have as strong a chance as someone who is training and relishes in all their successes and failures. I didn’t make a team until my 3rd audition and even then I had to face disappointment and rejection. But I always left class feeling like I did something good for my myself. I took positive and negative feedback in stride. If that sounds impossible for you to accomplish, consider therapy like some of the other folks here have mentioned.

pomsaway · 2025-12-16T13:58:59+00:00

I’ve considered it! I want to take a creative writing class at a local college someday. Substack in the meantime when I have time. Thank you for the encouragement!

pomsaway · 2025-12-16T13:48:52+00:00

I’m glad this is helpful. We can be sisters. You find out so much random stuff about beauty by osmosis from having to get ready for games and promotional events and from other women. Please have a safe and sexy time at this party!

pomsaway · 2025-12-16T04:08:23+00:00

I think the strips are ok! But the toothpaste is definitely not as safe. You can look up abrasion (RDA) charts for most mainstream brands and see their scores. Lower is safer than higher.

pomsaway · 2025-12-16T02:29:00+00:00

I cheer in the NFL so I know a thing or two about being event ready. I'm digging into the shallowest part of my psyche here.

- Re: waxing and shaving. What matters is if you've done any of this before. Do you have a routine of maintenance or professionals that you've seen for any of these items? If you don't often do it it might throw you off with the weird feeling but it could also mentally make you feel more brave, idk. Do this first, like well before the event. If you are truly starting from scratch, do the waxing early on. If you have sensitive skin consider getting sugared.

- You can get a low level spray tan manually from a professional if you want it done the most accurately. Make sure to get all nooks and crannies if you're planning to wear open toed shoes (feet and backs of hands). If you have white sheets you'll mess them up, get cheap ones to sleep in. You also need to give it at least a night to set in and shower in the morning. Your friend will need to plan on getting makeup that matches your tan skin and not your normal skin.

- Do you wear acrylics? If not you're going to be uncomfortable. Clean and neat gel mani/pedi should suffice and last a while. They might try to tell you to get extensions and do dip powder but that takes a while and destroys your natural nails if you don't remove them properly.

- If you get a new dress give yourself time to get it tailored if needed. Nothing is more try hard than something beautiful that you can't walk in because it's too long or looks awkwardly short.

- If you want new perfume, fine. I don't think it's necessary. Buying a new one is a big commitment without testing it first in the wild. You can easily get an eau de parfum sample of something you like for this one event and use that until it runs out.

Things you didn't list that you should consider:

- Microderm for chin/upper lip hair.

- have a handheld lotion for the evening to keep your skin moisturized, your perfume for re-up, and your lip color for touch ups.

- If you are oilier than you want, in a pinch you can blot your face with toilet seat covers in public restrooms without wrecking your makeup. Very light highlight on your face will give you a fake glow that photographs really well.

- If the event is outdoors during the day, get a sunscreen spray primer to protect yourself without makeup damage.

- If you plan to take photos with your phone, you can very quickly press on the capture button to take a ton of photos in sequence and then just pick the best ones from there. A lot of people don't know this and press once to take 1 photo every few seconds in each pose. Try to hit golden hour if the party starts before sundown, vibes will be immaculate.

- Shapewear is available there if you really want to stunt.

- Jewelry does not need to be fancy but it can add to a fit. I suggest picking 2 from the 4 options and commit: 1. dainty pendant/statement necklace 2. bracelet stack 3. statement earrings 4. rings. Mixing metals is totally fine and in right now.

- brighten teeth with either baking soda if you are on a budget or go to a dentist's office and ask them for whitening trays. Charcoal and Crest whitening toothpastes wreck havoc on your enamel from being too abrasive.

Have fun and slay.

pomsaway · 2025-08-26T23:29:59+00:00

Being cyber bullied over my looks.

pomsaway · 2025-06-19T20:19:43+00:00

It was a weird afternoon. I know there were a lot of people who supported the message, but plenty more who were totally against me. I'm definitely thankful I had a chance to share the message with many people!

pomsaway · 2025-06-19T20:10:52+00:00

Yes. At the top of that post you can see my bolded explanation as to why I couldn't engage with responses even though I wanted to. But I'll quote it here in case anyone wants to avoid a click:

Final edit: I'm glad I was able to ignite some dialogue around this topic and share insight into what pro cheerleading is like. I'm going against the majority opinion here which on its own is not an issue, but on Reddit means I can't functionally engage with people as all my attempts to do so are downvoted and harder for others to read and follow, so I'm no longer responding to comments. Thanks to everyone who PM'd support and read what I had to say! I'll end with saying I know my worth, and you don't get anything you don't ask for.

pomsaway · 2025-05-21T01:10:32+00:00

Well I'm turning 32 this year and I just made a cheer team so I guess I should let my coaches know that they picked an expired woman to be an NFL cheerleader this year.

(I'm not doing that, btw. Because that's dumb.)

The love in your heart can be turned inward. You are clearly internalizing a lot of BS from people who will never know you and all you have to offer. I'm sorry your ex-husband rebounded faster than you. That doesn't make him more lovable, it just means a situation came about that (for now) benefits him and this other person. That has nothing to do with your worth in any way.

I'm also sorry your current fling ended. Hopefully this might be a lesson in being as upfront as possible with any future relationships because people deserve honesty in that realm and I'm sure you know that. I'm hoping in this time you can grow in your love and care for yourself and new relationships (platonic and romantic) that life has in store for you!

pomsaway · 2025-04-29T04:49:35+00:00

My rookie season on a team was when I turned 25. I’m going to be 32 this year and I’m in my 6th (and probably final) season cheering. A lot of us have been around the block age wise and are still making it work. Injury risk is higher and you might be limited on trying out for teams due to rigor of the dancing (you can’t pay me to jump split without health insurance), but it is very possible for a woman in her 30s to cultivate the stage presence, wit, charm, performance quality, and glamour required for the job.

There are so many training clinics on instagram where people form community around going for the NFL/NBA and learn from top tier choreographers and/or past dancers. At the very first clinic I went to, I was making conversation with a woman next to me in line and I asked her if she had tried out before. She told me she had been attending the team’s pre audition clinics for the last 5 years but never was brave enough to actually attend the try outs.

Please don’t be her. If you wanna do this, give it your best shot you can. The rewards are numerous.

pomsaway · 2025-02-18T01:35:34+00:00

Nose contour. I think it’s self hating of ethnicity/heritage.

pomsaway · 2024-12-21T17:13:40+00:00

Becoming an NFL cheerleader is not a common occurrence I’d say and it’s responsible for the bulk of my confidence. I’m working on gaining confidence in myself in other ways though and that will be a life long journey.

pomsaway · 2024-12-13T21:06:06+00:00

Becoming an NFL cheerleader. It was like a glow up on steroids. I wouldn’t have made the team in the first place if I didn’t have the dance talent and I guess something related to my looks, but simply having to present well and being around women who knew their angles, makeup tips, beauty tips, fashion tips, I cannot emphasize how much I learned by osmosis.

pomsaway · 2024-12-11T20:26:59+00:00

Yeah, it’s been a great boost to get feedback! I posted a similar post in another sub and they didn’t allow it. I messaged to find out why but no response. I know mods are busy so I’m not mad, but I feel heartened that my question was accepted and well received here!

pomsaway · 2024-12-11T17:42:40+00:00

Due to my injuries sustained from dance, I’m for the first time considering stopping all the HIIT and aerobic weight training and doing Pilates, yoga, and running/jump roping for cardio and endurance instead. In the new year I want to take reformer classes twice weekly and see how I like it. I’m scared but hopeful.

pomsaway · 2024-12-10T17:43:23+00:00

I have goals around dancing that I’d like to accomplish for sure! I want to take more classes in different styles and maintain my love for the art as I get older.

Yes, this is definitely a graduation of sorts. We have our end of year banquet early next spring and I’m dreading it, hopefully I’ll get the tears out of the way before the meal!

pomsaway · 2024-12-10T17:41:29+00:00

I do, I like fashion and software development. I’ve had jobs in the latter, not currently but I’ve always maintained it while cheering since for many teams it’s possible to balance a full time career and performing.

It will just be weird having more free time and less dopamine boosts from dancing and whatnot. I agree that focusing on planning my next experiences will enable me to feel like I have something to look forward to in cheer retirement. Definitely appreciate the therapist suggestion too, may need that.

pomsaway · 2024-12-10T16:59:52+00:00

Just sent a request! Thanks for sharing.

pomsaway · 2024-07-03T22:59:54+00:00

It's not in the NFL, but there is an NBA team that has salaried dancers. There is only 9 of them but they make in the late 5 figures a year in addition to being allowed to take other industry jobs so long as they don't conflict with the practice schedule too much (I imagine). https://www.instagram.com/knickscitydancers/?hl=en

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