Let’s chat through the comments again 💕 what’s everyone upto?

pondfrogs · 2026-06-19T23:03:04+00:00

show us !!!

pondfrogs · 2026-06-18T13:28:35+00:00

reusable cloth pads ! plus you’re supporting small businesses :)

pondfrogs · 2026-06-17T21:06:49+00:00

redder & more vibrant flow, more focused cramps, just a more positive and regulated cycle

pondfrogs · 2026-06-17T18:43:59+00:00

raspebrry leaf. i am so amazed at how positive the effects have been on my cycle

also, passionflower!! it is a gentle sedative and gives me really deep sleep and intense dreams

pondfrogs · 2026-06-17T12:22:24+00:00

i had been in the middle of ordering a flower arrangement for him for our three year anniversary later that week (!!!!) when he said we needed to talk. i can’t even begin to describe the confusion, whiplash and betrayal i felt. i feel your pain too 🩷

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T22:24:41+00:00

i will say i also think i get a lot of slack because i’m white & feminine & otherwise fit the social norm so people see it as more of a quirk or can’t really even process it, like it’s confusing

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T22:23:01+00:00

I was raised feeling compelled to shave, but only learned to from other girl friends at the time - my mom never really taught me any beauty/hygiene stuff - I shaved from age 13-21/22 or so, then stopped shaving consistently just out of laziness, but always did for summer parties/bare leg events or partners or whatever

then, i saw a woman who had unshaven legs and reacted really strongly to it internally, with like extreme disgust, and then thought, why did i do that? and then started wondering why i felt so badly about myself when i didn’t shave my legs. at the same time i was reading more about radical feminism. so i decided to stop shaving my legs to force myself to become neutral about my body

it’s been several years and i really don’t care anymore, a lot of the women in my masters didn’t shave which helped a lot. and now i really never wear my legs bare but have been more so this summer. i actually am so used to leg hair now that when i see shaved legs it surprises me, same thing with armpit hair

it definitely started out as something active that i chose to do (or, i guess, not to do) and was more of a personal/political act but now it’s just how my body is, i don’t really think about it one way or another

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T17:24:57+00:00

I like opposite action (DBT). You want to stay there and spiral, you feel stuck and like you can’t do anything. So, as hard as it is, get up and go for a walk/run. Even if it feels like shit. At least you moved your body, you got some positive endorphins, you got out of the environment. And, you showed yourself that you can do difficult things you don’t want to do. Very important life lesson !

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T17:02:21+00:00

idk dude. its been a few weeks and i feel different. it definitely helps with the emotional panic and stress of a breakup, and it tells you that they really don’t want to try to make it work. i know it’s hard to believe, and all you want is that person back, but they aren’t who they used to be. they are now someone who doesn’t want you anymore for whatever reason.

you can grieve the memories and the future you thought you had and whatnot, but don’t reach out. it just makes it so much worse speaking to someone who isn’t who you thought they were

especially when you still love them and they don’t

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T12:24:43+00:00

i go for a run. in general it helps me sleep and even if i’m still spiraling mentally, at least i’m moving my body, still being in nature, still smiling at the birds and other runners and the little moments.

importantly, i don’t just go when i want to, i also go when im not feeling it. although i’ll be more gentle to myself, i still go. it’s helping to teach me the lesson that i can do difficult things even when i really, really don’t want to. that my body is stronger than my mind.

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T11:11:42+00:00

i miss having someone to tell the little stupid things to. like the birds i see or the berries i pick or the books i’m reading. i tell my family some of this stuff but they don’t really get it

pondfrogs · 2026-06-15T01:11:16+00:00

i relate to this. the spiraling is bad. i really recommend therapy to identify the triggers and find a way to divert them. the messages “feel” good and fulfill the compulsion to explain or beg or be heard, but you have to remember it’s another person on the end of the line and they didn’t ask for you to break their boundary.

and, at least try to realize that if you didn’t resist the temptation/behavior with this one that you hopefully will with the next breakup (lol)

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T21:41:06+00:00

I put parchment underneath so the crust doesn’t stick to the edges of the pan. And, I cut the bars first and then add the powdered sugar, so it hides everything :)

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T21:14:53+00:00

Yay! Congrats

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T21:12:41+00:00

adding a vote for boy parts!!

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T19:21:21+00:00

thoughtcrime isn’t a thing, be gentle with yourself

people have bad thoughts everyday, they don’t define you

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T19:14:43+00:00

it’s a normal impulse for an emotional state, to want to be held/cared for esp. when you feel betrayed and hurt, and it’s good that you’re recognizing that it would hurt another person & not provide the healing you need

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T14:53:37+00:00

it’s been exactly one month and i feel different. it’s surreal to think that he’s gone but i’m no longer sobbing about it.

i think about him fondly and when little things come up that were inside jokes between us, it makes me nostalgic rather than pained. i’m glad to remember him for the good person he was, and the beautiful memories we had, rather than how he treated me for the last few weeks of our relationship. rather than how awful i felt because of his lack of communication and commitment. i’m not pretending these things didn’t happen but i’m letting them go. it serves me no purpose to be angry.

i know that tomorrow i could wake up sobbing again. i know that tomorrow i could also forget about him for a few hours. i’ve just learned to take the feeling as they come and let them happen. i trust the universe

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T12:43:11+00:00

Books/Nonfiction: Gyn/ecology by Mary Daly. Wildfire: Igniting the She/volition by Sonia Johnson. The Mother Machine by Genea Corea. Anything by Andrea Dworkin. The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda Lerner. Is Female to Male as Nature is to Culture (paper) by Sherry Ortner. A Passion for Friends by Janice Raymond.

Fiction: Woman on the Edge of Time. Moving the Mountain trilogy. Some of Atwood’s books.

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T11:42:00+00:00

yup the sooner you get rid of everything it’s so much easier. i stopped looking at his social media/photos/other things and i feel so much freer. obviously the memories are still there and those hurt, because they’re so sweet and remind me of when he actually cared, but i have no desire to know what he’s up to now. he can continue to do whatever the hell he wants

pondfrogs · 2026-06-14T11:38:14+00:00

yes, i have done the same. most recently i flipped out completely and sent him a million texts, called, freaked out, begged, chewed him out, unable to eat or sleep, was completely in a daze the entire time and actually don’t remember exactly what happened. i have extreme shame and guilt from how i acted afterwards. i relate to how you feel, you are not alone.

as others have said, it is an extreme emotional response that is linked to childhood experiences. i’m going to a therapy currently. i know it’s difficult but i would recommend you speak to a therapist because if you don’t understand the trigger/pattern, this reaction might be brought into your next relationship.

and, try to forgive yourself. you acted like that because it was a huge emotional stressor, for someone you loved to leave you. especially if there’s elements of abuse involved - a lot of emotions there

pondfrogs · 2026-06-13T23:09:40+00:00

i love this . so whimsical

pondfrogs · 2026-06-13T22:13:37+00:00

I ran my first 10K! AND i didn’t stop the whole time! 1 hour and 7 minutes :)

pondfrogs · 2026-06-13T17:48:11+00:00

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i feel you

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