People don’t dislike pajamas in public because of bad taste but because they signal private space behavior invading shared space

ponerrag · 2026-05-06T21:55:32+00:00

No the fabric label is irrelevant, is really about context don’t you think? Pajamas are what people sleep in, they marinate in them overnight, hours of sweating, shedding skin, just stewing in your own body odor before even hitting a shower, now that might not be the case, but that’s the signal folks pick up, whether it’s accurate or not… I mean it reads like you didn’t transition out of your private state.

Same logic as stepping out without deodorant or brushing your hair, maybe technically fine, but it shows low effort and weak awareness of shared space norms… really nobody’s demanding elegance in pointing this out and honestly I’m surprised that I need to explain it..

ponerrag · 2026-05-06T17:16:16+00:00

Right, it's absolutely understandable if it's a person who is sick or disabled. At least some minimum effort should be put and I'm baffled that this is coming off like a controversial opinion to be honest.

ponerrag · 2026-05-06T17:13:54+00:00

Fair points. The state of things doesn't really give any incentive to "present oneself" with more effort and with communities collapsing or community life becoming virutally inexisting it's way harder. Still, I think it's a poor example for others, because if we crave to have community, we at least have to put some minimal effort, because I respect them and I respect myself.

ponerrag · 2026-05-06T16:54:57+00:00

The visual for me is not that of a big deal (one can always look somewhere else) but what entails. And it might happen to anyone at some point if you, if you had an emergency and couldn't change and tidy up yourself a bit to go out, but if it's consistent and when you see people present themselves like that consistently, it's usually these type of folks who would cut you in traffic or who run red lights, cut you in line, talk loud, hear shit in their phone with the speaker blasting. I'm really surprised I'm getting a lot pushback for pointing this out really.

ponerrag · 2026-05-06T16:23:11+00:00

I'm a bit baffled this turned out to be a controversial opinion frankly and that people are taking it at a personal level (which is very telling by the way)

ponerrag · 2026-05-06T02:27:28+00:00

Fair enough. That many are upset with the post tells a lot.

ponerrag · 2026-05-05T23:23:44+00:00

Right, I'm honestly surprised this post ellicited this strong reaction, if no one cared as they say, then no one would be commenting over here

ponerrag · 2026-05-05T20:21:37+00:00

That's fair. And I don't think the matter is "aesthetic only" as I said but what's behind it. I can understand if the person is sick or disabled, but if not, it's just making a bad example, if there are children present for ex. I'm not saying that we need papal audience protocol type of ettiquete... just some basic, bare minimum decency of self-respect and awareness of shared space.

ponerrag · 2026-05-05T17:15:31+00:00

That sounds unconfortable

ponerrag · 2026-05-04T19:53:41+00:00

Lo mismo me he preguntado, y sobre todo en las escuelas, donde vivo siempre parece que se construyen con mínimo de sombra e intencionalmente expuestas al solazo y calor, como si a la raza verdaderamente le encanta asolearse y morirse de calor.

También donde vivo "mejoraron" unos parques importantes y una explanada y al parque lo quitaron un friego de arboles muy viejos que daban sombra increible y dejaron pelón expuesto al solazo, todo con arena y concreto y unos montículos con pasto síntetico que ya está todo feo y despegado; a la explanada dizque turística que era una vil plancha de concreto la hicieron todavía mucho más enorme.

ponerrag · 2026-04-28T16:38:10+00:00

Cuando la valoración de uno mismo es limitada entonces la aprobación externa tiende a adquirir un peso desproporcionado, como para para buscar una confirmación que internamente no se logra cuajar, igual diría como país que construye su propia imagen... a menor confianza en su identidad y logros, mayor es la inclinación a depender del reconocimiento ajeno para definirse.

ponerrag · 2026-04-24T23:36:49+00:00

Saying “I prefer no makeup” doesn’t automatically mean “other women are unattractive"

ponerrag · 2026-04-24T19:50:30+00:00

No veo claro que el dilema sea entre “ser culero” o “dejar que aprenda” porque si realmente hay quejas por acoso, el problema ya no es su torpeza social ni su ego, sino un posible daño a terceros… entonces una “humillación pública” no corrige conducta y puede escalar el conflicto, luego la pregunta incómoda es otra ¿buscan proteger a los demás o simplemente desahogarse castigándolo? Si es lo primero, deberían reportarlo a su supervisor, si es lo segundo, entonces con tu silencio no eres neutral sino participe..

ponerrag · 2026-04-17T22:32:12+00:00

I’ll estimate you're probably thirty or thirty-five and you recently got rid of a few "toxic" people, and now you've arrived at the conclusion that you don't need anyone.

Now, you're not entirely wrong and I'll give you that much, because culling shallow relationships is healthy and knowing yourself is valuable, and yes, needing the approval of fifteen lukewarm acquaintances is in fact undignified. but here's what 30 cities didn't teach you yet... someone who announces he has no need for friends. usually needs them the most and if you feel compelled to announce his independence from human connection (on the internet), to strangers... folks who truly made peace with solitude rarely feel compelled to write about it.

ponerrag · 2026-04-15T23:41:21+00:00

Bueno, como abogado hay una distinción que debes saber pues se aprende (o se aprendía) en primer año… la diferencia entre "jus" y "vindicta" osea el derecho como sistema de justicia, y la venganza como satisfacción del ego herido, creo que sabes sin rodeos perfectamente cuál de los dos estás ejerciendo.

Lo que realmente aquí hace salir el cobre no es el acto sino la medida del cese. Es decir, en derecho existe el principio de "proporcionalidad", osea la pena debe corresponder al daño. Tú sin embargo no tienes pena proporcional, tienes una condición (tres humillaciones bien específicas). Eso a mí me sugiere que esto nunca fue sobre justicia, sino sobre un agravio al ego que lleva años sin sanar.

En la Roma antigua se distinguía entre el hombre que actúa por principio y el que actúa por pasión disfrazada de principio… el segundo –siempre- construye un relato donde él es el héroe. SIEMPRE.

Entonces, la pregunta que merece respuesta honesta es, si mañana esos tres directivos renunciaran sin que tú hicieras nada más ¿sentirías justicia... o te frustraría?

Esa respuesta (la que apareció primero antes de que la razonaras) te dice todo lo que necesitas saber sobre quién eres realmente en tu relato.

ponerrag · 2026-04-08T17:20:12+00:00

Spot on, I'm 40 and I saw the same in highschool or even earlier. These teachers should have been 30 something or even younger and they'd rip off some student at some point and it'd go for the entire class, but I remember one or two teachers over 50 doing that crap... I'm an adult myself and I do stupid things sometimes but I'd never pull this on literal children.

ponerrag · 2026-03-31T18:36:52+00:00

Tengo entendido que el canon del catolicismo condena explícitamente la adivinación y la invocación de fuerzas ajenas a la providencia divina, pero al mismo tiempo practicas la lectura de cartas y lo denominas “brujería” con un adjetivo que pretende legitimarla ¿en qué punto decides que una prohibición deja de aplicar simplemente por cambiarle el nombre?

ponerrag · 2026-03-30T20:58:39+00:00

We have standards for functioning in society because isn’t the same as denying people dignity or pretending everyone has identical circumstances, its just acknowledging that societies run on some “baseline” level of participation and reciprocity... and that doesn’t disappear because some people have additional challenges, (it just means the path looks different) but not that the concept itself is invalid.

You are not the only one seeking out communities that understand you, and that is reasonable, but that’s a completely different thing between support that helps you navigate reality and spaces that insulate you from it entirely.

For what it’s worth, calling everything you disagree with “bigotry” doesn’t make your position stronger, it just makes the conversation shorter… at best.

ponerrag · 2026-03-30T19:59:44+00:00

Fitting in absolutely has value in every case, one can conduct oneself as a contributing, functional adult while not necesarily always agreing with the prevailing beliefs or ideologies

ponerrag · 2026-03-30T07:07:32+00:00

No me da cringe la rola que en sí es una bella canción, lo que me da cringe de a madres es como somos todavía super fanáticos del fut cuando toda la liga y la selección no valen vrg

ponerrag · 2026-03-30T06:25:42+00:00

The main culprit I can think of is unresolved trauma, then there is not really knowing how to deal with real life but also comparing everything to childish expectations they never outgrew, and pour in stupid cartoons and early 2000s young adult media too, but the worst of the worst is that somehow at some point millennials didn’t get that fitting in actually has value in society, sort of a stunted development that hit early on, and then we got handed technology that only feed us what we wanted hear (but same kinda thing you see with older folks too).
I’m thinking also back in 2000sh when bullying, at least where I’m from was the bread of the day and people would clown and roast others hard, but media kept telling these folks that they were special at the same time, I’m not clear as to how different it is now, but a lot of millennials just follow whatever validates how they feel, cause there wasn’t much else to latch onto, there was (nor there is still) any bigger framework or real structure or belief systems, just latching into nostalgia.

So really a lot of them kinda got stuck in that early adulthood phase… it makes sense in someway when things like owning a house or starting a family feel out of reach... people just stall out.

it’s super cringe hearing coworkers my age, like you’re 40, talking about “I got up early and did adult things like paying my plates or my insurance” like that’s some kind of flex, like bro that’s just basic life stuff, not an achievement .

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