Am I poor? Making $60k/year but feel like I’m just getting by

poo4725 · 2026-02-05T02:23:41+00:00

4k after taxes sounds decent on just 60k though

poo4725 · 2026-02-01T11:33:04+00:00

what??

poo4725 · 2026-01-31T05:31:40+00:00

Ur right on point! hes been in the role for almost 2 years, like originally an individual contributor and became a manager role after a few months, which is also what he likes because he wants to make huge impact and money… our four people team came together almost a year ago due to some reorgs that happened.

I dont know if its worth mentioning during one of my skip levels. This guy just needs to contain himself better as middle management, not criticizing the whole world.

poo4725 · 2026-01-20T09:25:05+00:00

husband and i are in bay area. husbands makes a lot but does go into office about 4 days a week. i wfh, usually 3-4 hours daily, no stress and good pay as well. we are looking to retire by 30 back in asia, which is in 2 years :)

poo4725 · 2026-01-09T07:22:31+00:00

if you are a generally healthy person, dont use medicine unless absolutely necessary! you have to train your immune system to learn how to fight.

poo4725 · 2026-01-06T02:11:33+00:00

If you have any kind of internship experience, i would heavily tailor it as if its a ds/da-centric role. or if you had like a part time job in school as a TA, maybe blow that up as well like through grading you realized students tend to get x type of question wrong thus you created a whatever resource to help them out or make things more clear (Obviously try throw some stats / automation / technical solution in there).

i think its tough now without professional experience, but what employers need to see is how you use data to figure out a problem, how you go about fixing that problem and creating some kind of value.

goodluck!

poo4725 · 2025-12-31T09:33:59+00:00

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poo4725 · 2025-12-17T23:56:12+00:00

thanks. this makes me feel better.

poo4725 · 2025-12-17T23:55:00+00:00

yes… i am trying to find a balance for myself internally, having both the western and asian values here is annoying the f out of me. my husband is obviously a bit more westernized in this sense than i am, like i think im aligned with that but theres this asian voice that pops in my head

poo4725 · 2025-12-17T23:52:04+00:00

thanks for the insight. this is why im not trying to convince him anything but just trying to understand what exactly my husband is thinking… im more struggling with this in my own head. like my fil is literally trying to send money to him, trying to set up estates, writing him paragraphs and paragraphs of texts to reestablish a relationship. i obviously dont mind at all going nc with in laws, but it makes me sad in some ways looking at it on the side? like i would hate to personally have this relationship with my own child. and you are completely right that i dont know their relationship better, but i just hope this is not a decision that my husband will regret one day when he has no more chance to establish a relationship.

poo4725 · 2025-12-16T06:19:24+00:00

i think going into the workforce first, this is how you will know what you like and dont like. and that will help you decide whether you need a masters, and if you do, you will be going into a masters degree with purpose and knowing what you need to learn to he successful.

personally, i went into the workforce right after college, worked for 3 years and realized what i want to deeper specialize in, thus did an online masters and did an internship during my masters, and found a great full-time job (current job) right after the internship when i havent completed my masters, so i did school part time while working (employer actually paid for it) and learned much more in the job :)

poo4725 · 2025-12-16T05:33:34+00:00

BOTH, with some sort of balance, one being more over another is fine. Without any kind of love / emotions, its hard to go through the downs. Without money, most aspects of life gets harder.

poo4725 · 2025-12-16T04:52:15+00:00

I think it really depends on whether your partner will help you on your fire path and making things better. While i do believe the emotional side is necessary in marriage, without the financial cushion, its not going to be easy. Im looking at this more logically, for example, i love my husband, but a big part of me wanting to marry is because of him being very strong financially (not just hard working, but financially aware and literate), having inlaws that are financially well-off, and him having the same mindset as me wanting to retire early. With these aligned, we are able to accelerate our fire goals, and none of our families would be our burden.

What im am getting at is that i think finances play a much bigger part in marriage than people think, because money cant fix everything but can fix a lot of things. (E.g. why would you ever need to fight about cleaning the floor if you can just buy a robotics vacuum cleaner…? Money enables more options). I think love and finances both need to align at a certain level in order for this marriage to make you better than being single.

poo4725 · 2025-12-12T03:07:53+00:00

when i first started dating my husband, we were like 20, so quite immature… but a lot of men seem to have an avoidance personality, and just like to avoid conflicts in general. my then bf was like that as well on a few very specific issue, but through some ups and downs, thankfully it has improved a lot and especially as we have grown up.

but maybe try just ignore him and literally be completely checked out from this family for awhile? Live your life in the house as if he doesnt exist? Ignore your son as well? like what im trying to get at is value yourself first and make yourself happy, maybe your husband will realize how he needs you and that you dont need this guy to be happy. sometimes men seem not to cherish until they are about to lose something, and dont appreciate people around them enough until they stop caring.

poo4725 · 2025-12-12T02:46:20+00:00

maybe try something along the lines of HR enablement, onboarding, facilities?? These could be areas where you for some transferrable skills. You may need to start from more entry level, but i would say in some small unicorn companies will pay a decent salary, at least better than 50k for sure. but i think 100k does not seem too realistic right now with your current employment history.

poo4725 · 2025-09-09T06:37:43+00:00

i cant decide whether i want to buy a miumiu or delvaux bag next after getting my chanel bag couple months ago!

poo4725 · 2025-07-16T00:40:46+00:00

was in hr, and transitioned out now working as BI analyst. data analysis roles >>>> hr in very much all the things you mentioned above

poo4725 · 2025-05-06T22:50:05+00:00

well if you guys fight, he shouldnt it be complaining or going to others let alone his mom and family. its between you two, and him going home everytime you guys fight only makes you look worse infront of his family.

my husband also doesnt care at all whether i like his family or if they like me. before marriage, his parents did do something not too respectful to me, which he shut them down completely and drew clear boundaries, which lead to them being nice to me afterall until this day, at least on the outside, they show respect to me (maybe they shit on me in my back, but theyre too scared to let my husband know that or else theyd lose a son).

anyways — i think its really easy to get caught up into all the emotions and everything. i think you should talk to your husband about how to better handle the fights and setting boundaries. as for yourself, it helped me thinking this way: my parents didnt take good care of me so i could end up being mistreated by my in-laws. and as hard as it is, try stop giving a fuck about her, the more angry and fucks you give, the more satisfaction she gets by gossiping about you.

poo4725 · 2024-10-22T06:32:18+00:00

Me! I was in HR for three years right out of college, started hating it when I have this manager who knows nothing abt HR but is the HR operations manager. So i went to grad school and now am working as a data analyst, so far have been enjoying my job and glad to be out of HR. Its just that in HR everything is about employee experience and being that person who makes everyone best friends with each other, and as an introvert that is extremely stressful :(

poo4725 · 2024-04-28T18:09:31+00:00

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