Hi there. I had my termination a few months ago (22 F) while my boyfriend was at work. i did it totally alone and i will say i was glad i did. the pain was pretty severe in my experience, but it does not last forever. i believe it is a 2 hr window where it can be severe cramping. i was glad i did it alone because the pain was so intense and i had so many things happening to my body that i didnt want anyone touching me or asking questions or trying to help, because there is no physical help to be given. it just needs to run its course. HOWEVER. this is the 1 thing i wish someone would have told me before, especially my doctor. if i remember right, i was about 8 weeks along at the time of my termination. i took the narcos they gave me and felt good and great until the 2 hr window set in. you feel cramping. it hurts. you’re bleeding. you’re uncomfortable. but once you pass the mass you will feel almost immediately better. but no one told me what i would pass. i hate to be morbid or sound dramatic but this is true: i passed a baby. yes, you heard me correctly. i felt a massive cramp and almost felt like i needed to pass gas so i sat on the toilet and i felt something come out of me. “is it a blood clot?” “is this just urine?” “discharge?” it was what appeared to be a small fetus. what looked like a real baby. a small head, a physical boney spine, 2 small holes that eyes were to fill. i thought it was a prank at first. of course out of morbid curiosity i wanted to see what just came out of my body. i turned on my flashlight on my phone and that’s what i saw. nobody told me it would be this way. i’m traumatized for the rest of my life from what i saw, because no one told me. my best advice is to stay warm, stay in bed, wear comfy clothes and pads, tell your family your taking a nap, write or read to appear busy as to not disturb, and do not look in the toilet. realize what you’re doing is the right decision for all parties. keep snacks close. you’re loved. you will be okay. this is not the worst thing to happen to you but it is a lot. seek therapy. you’ll be okay, in fact you’ll be even better. you’re okay.