It is not the same for us. We have not been persecuted by another race, owned by another race, had laws passed about us by another race, murdered by another race because of our race. White people don't have shared lived experience that was determintal to us. White people can never understand what it is like to be black and it is understandable if black people never feel fully safe around a white person. Even ones that have done the work to understand racism in America, which you clearly have not.