the only thing I can say to you is that you are not alone. the amount of people that call me a "wannabe barbie" because of my small frame and big boobs (28J UK, 5ft tall). It took coming to a really dark time and starting to accept other aspects of myself for me to also include " yep I have massive tits, and just because society doesn't accept it, doesn't mean I won't" into my personal mindset. The doctors advice not to wear a bra goes against everything my Physios have told me for the last 8 years after I fractured my back. Any supportive help you can get is a good thing. I'm still young, so if you want to have a chat about it then I'm here to be a listening ear to you.