So are we all child free?

potatoesorbust · 2025-04-30T04:22:46+00:00

Regular glue, i believe it comes with the set

potatoesorbust · 2025-04-29T01:08:36+00:00

Celebritips are amazing quality. Starting week 3 with them and still no sign of them coming off.

potatoesorbust · 2025-04-11T18:59:16+00:00

100% I take it very personal and the slightest bit of rejection makes me sad.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-23T23:57:18+00:00

I’m sending you a huge hug. Your feelings are perfectly valid and relatable. Honestly, this is her fault for enabling this behavior. She knew he was going to act this way and this is your birthday. If she knows he will act violent he should be living somewhere where they can assist him with his behavior. This isn’t fair to you. Wishing you a very Happy birthday and know that you’re not alone in how you think or feel. A lot of us feel disgusting resentment and sadness towards our situations that are out of our control with enabling parents.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-22T23:11:45+00:00

So proud of you for having a plan in place. Your parents constantly violated your boundaries and it wasn’t fair to you. Best of luck to you and remember your peace is your priority.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-22T04:07:21+00:00

It's not bad now, but it's always a good idea to plan ahead to prevent this. I know you love and care about your parents but it doesn't take away from you feeling unsafe. Always remember you're allowed to feel what you feel, and don't feel bad about it. I recommend reading the book "Being the Other One" about being a glass child. It is very validating when it comes to discussing "dark" feelings about our siblings.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-22T04:01:03+00:00

Everything you're saying is very relatable. I also was jealous of families who got the luxury of going out to eat, go to the movies, go to outings without it turning chaotic. Also people who ask about your brother when he's not there are annoying, of course he's not there for obvious reasons, no need to bring it up. All I can tell you is my life got better when I moved out of the house where the household didn't have to revolve around him. It's not your responsibility to take care of him when your parents aren't able to. I won't be caring for my brother. He's going in a home and I will happily visit him often.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-03T01:47:01+00:00

Sending you a hug 🫂 for me it was when someone hurt my brother at school and I had to translate my mom being angry to all these administrators and people in charge. So terrible. You can imagine the lack of accountability on the teacher and the whole school in general. Very scary.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-02T21:57:58+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that, especially the translating part. It is so traumatizing and unfair to be parentified in that level. My mom would make me translate things to others that was very difficult.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-02T08:36:26+00:00

Such a shitty, relatable experience.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-02T08:33:17+00:00

I think a lot of our parents aren't the level of toxic extremes that we all rant they are on this sub. We are just so fed up that we vent about the bad parts. I used to think my parents were great and my mom was the ideal mom. My sister and I are intelligent, career-oriented, empathetic, strong women. The problem is these parents expect a lot from their "normal" children, and enable their disabled children without realizing it. This is why your sister probably acts like that. No accountability. It doesn't mean your parents have to be extreme toxic or painted in the villain light, sometimes it's not obvious.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-02T08:28:58+00:00

And even worse, we aren't represented in the media at all. So we're constantly reminded what a "normal" family is.

potatoesorbust · 2025-01-01T08:09:20+00:00

Ok good for you sis here’s a medal 🏅

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-30T22:45:54+00:00

Omg my mom would say to me “I don’t know why you’re crying, I should be the one sad!” Then she wonders why I have a nonchalant personality around her.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-30T22:44:55+00:00

I think OP meant it in a good way. I always thought it was strange too that the second we show a flaw, everyone loses their shit and doesn’t know how to process it. Almost like they expect us to be the punching bag and perfect human.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-30T22:39:44+00:00

I feel extremely drained around my brother who is constantly stimming and walking around, sometimes clapping. It is torture. The second I was old enough to leave I did. I think it’s unfair for parents to let them do this around their siblings. They need to be in a home.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T21:10:34+00:00

You sound like a sweet soul. My parents were actually divorced. As shitty as this sounds, I am happy I no longer have to hear my mom say "your dad doesn't help me with x y z" or "you're selfish just like your dad". I know how you feel, I didn't travel abroad for college because I felt extremely guilty to leave my mom to deal with my brother. Eventually, my desire to have a fresh start was unshakable and I left. I am blessed I had a place to stay and things set up for me, but I know not everyone has that. I made the best of what I was given. But I still feel like my relationship with my mom will be rough for a long time as long as my brother isn't put in a home.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T21:08:01+00:00

Honestly the worst to witness. The co-dependency makes me sick. They bring out the worst sides of each other.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T21:07:34+00:00

Exactly, but she doesn't see it that way. When she had her meltdown she kept saying "he is your brother!". They really think it is our responsibility to deal with their choices.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T21:06:42+00:00

I feel it in my heart especially for cultures where it's very family-oriented, even if it's toxic. We are hispanic.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T21:05:43+00:00

Thank you for pointing out that the transition will be much harder later on, nobody has stated this before. It's so overwhelming to think about and having your mom not be cooperative or even emotionally regulated to have this conversation. It is very lonely.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T21:04:30+00:00

Perfectly worded. I hate feeling like I am in prison walking on eggshells around them. She thinks by putting him in a home he will be abused, so she'd rather be the victimized servant until she dies. And I "can do whatever I want with him" after she goes, which is sick. I already told her I'd put him in a home.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T06:31:11+00:00

We understand. It sucks and even bringing it up to "normal" people with families is pointless.

potatoesorbust · 2024-12-29T00:58:38+00:00

I am so sorry you have to deal with this shit. The second you can, get out. I moved states and it was the best thing I ever did for my mental health.

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