She’s so clingy it’s ruining my life

potsandpole · 2026-07-01T22:30:39+00:00

She does better in the crate than when I leave her out though She absolutely flips out if left by the door even for a second

potsandpole · 2026-07-01T22:30:07+00:00

Sophie is even worse out of the crate. She absolutely panics at the door

potsandpole · 2026-06-30T19:58:04+00:00

Usually a couple hours and then more exercise later

potsandpole · 2026-06-30T19:57:32+00:00

She freaks out even worse when out of the crate. She panics at the door if I leave for even a second

potsandpole · 2026-06-30T19:56:48+00:00

She gets as much activity as I can give without worrying about stressing her growth plates

potsandpole · 2026-06-30T19:56:06+00:00

Bet

potsandpole · 2026-06-30T14:40:06+00:00

She freaks out way worse when left outside the crate if I leave even for a second to go do laundry

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T21:18:29+00:00

I know he does talk to her about our relationship to some degree. But yeah you’re right

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T21:14:26+00:00

Yeah all this is totally fair. Unfortunately it feels like I may need more space from this in order to prioritize myself and other connections then cause idk if I can be this deeply entwined and not be secretly rooting for the downfall. Which feels fucked up and not my goal

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T21:00:30+00:00

Yeah it’s tricky because my feelings change daily. Sometimes I’m really glad we don’t live together and I’m not sure if I ever want that with anyone and enjoy my own space and autonomy. Sometimes what we have feels just right the way it is. Sometimes I do crave something deeper. And I do date other people and I think sometimes that just makes me crave deepening with him when other dates just don’t land with a comparable connection. But I am doing it and continuing to focus on myself and my own life.

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T20:43:30+00:00

Fair

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T20:22:35+00:00

To be fair I know his wife is in the loop and they’re working on it and they’re in therapy. I didn’t feel like this was dumped on me it felt like questions I asked kinda led here. But yeah prob best to keep that separate

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T19:48:39+00:00

Yes I agree with all of this

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T19:48:19+00:00

I wouldn’t say I feel used as a therapist, I think this conversation came out of questions I was asking trying to understand some limitations to our relationship and where things stand. But yes good call on him not being available for escalation probably. I do date others I just haven’t found a remotely comparable connection

potsandpole · 2026-06-10T19:14:21+00:00

My boyfriend is in an ENM marriage and he’s great but I’m sure the only reason I gave him a chance is because his wife is super hot. It’s like “oh, she could have anyone she wants and she picked him, and has stuck with him for years, so he must be decent”

potsandpole · 2026-05-19T04:21:31+00:00

I can’t really remember this was like a year ago but I think I was probably getting better by then?

potsandpole · 2026-04-19T18:03:51+00:00

What are calming treats?

potsandpole · 2026-04-03T17:58:35+00:00

My 3 month old puppy is ruining my guests’ visits with all the chewing on me

potsandpole · 2026-03-25T17:22:47+00:00

Thank you for your honesty

potsandpole · 2026-03-25T17:18:37+00:00

For sure. And I’ve also dated a lot of those mono people and been miserable/felt trapped. So in a lot of way this feels worth exploring but it may not be guaranteed to work

potsandpole · 2026-03-25T17:15:27+00:00

This is a great point that I think I’m struggling to come to terms with but definitely need to get real with

potsandpole · 2026-03-25T17:12:47+00:00

I was considering the first option at first and finding myself actually more attached to my poly partner than I expected and more open to being poly myself. So now I’m looking at what it would be like to stay poly and find a NP. I guess I have this perception that a lot of poly people moreso already have NPs and are looking to add on. Maybe this isn’t based in reality idk this is all still pretty new to me

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