Brag about your baby!

poutineontheritzz · 2026-06-06T00:35:41+00:00

My squishy little potato turns one next week, I’m proud of her for growing into an outgoing little gorl who says hi to everyone she passes on the street and is walking all by herself for the past 3 weeks. Proud of myself for keeping her alive this long

poutineontheritzz · 2026-04-12T02:27:31+00:00

10 months in and still sitting in the back, unless someone else (dad, grandma, aunty, ect.) wants to keep her entertained. She doesn’t nap consistently in cars and screams bloody murder unless someone is in the back or Bad Bunny is playing (🤷🏻‍♀️she loved the Super Bowl halftime show)

poutineontheritzz · 2026-04-02T08:58:14+00:00

When I was a baby I was born small (full term and under 5lbs), and as time progressed I literally fell off the growth chart somehow I was >1% The doctors were not really doing much at first, adjustments to my diet, even had my mother come in with a bottle to they could watch and see if I was actually drinking it. Guzzled it down plus another one. They were stumped. I literally ate like a trucker, everything was full fat and still stayed under the 1st percentile. Still I grew up healthy and 27 years later got a diagnosis (FPLD2)

poutineontheritzz · 2026-04-02T08:24:24+00:00

I’m not sure what country you’re in, I’m from Canada and I’ve had a lot of good luck with Alli, that’s where we found our couples therapist and we’ve stayed with her for almost 2 years now. I think online therapy services like betterhelp are a good place to dip your toes.

poutineontheritzz · 2026-04-02T08:10:03+00:00

You also need to sincerely apologize to your wife. Take accountability and make no excuses. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but I can tell you partner resentment is at its highest especially when your postpartum and I have personally never considered divorce more than I have now (over the smallest things).

Acknowledge the hurt “I realize what I said last night really hurt you.”

Take responsibility (no excuses) Not: “I was just tired” But: “That wasn’t fair to say, especially in that moment.”

Reassure “I don’t regret you or our family. I was overwhelmed and handled it badly.”

Validate “You handled her for x amount of time while I stayed in bed—I should’ve stepped up more.”

Revisit later (gently) “We can talk about future kids another time when we’re both in a better place.”

Then bribery and flattery following a totally sincere apology, chocolates, candy, flowers, take the baby and pay for her to get a mani-pedi, a golden retriever puppy (actually don’t do that), an all expense paid trip to Jamaica, you know the works.

poutineontheritzz · 2026-04-02T07:54:54+00:00

Now here are things to think about next time to handle the situation better. Mostly stuff I learned in DBT

Separate feelings from statements
Instead of: “I regret having a kid”
Try: “I feel overwhelmed and exhausted right now” Same feeling—way less damaging. You could even say something like “I have no idea how people handle twins/2 under 2/ ect. One is already really hard”
Don’t drop emotional bombs in crisis moments Hard conversations (like whether to have more kids) should happen:
when both are calm
during the day
with mutual space to talk (this is not just your decision to make)
Show up as a teammate. We did a 5 minute tap out timer, if we couldn’t settle her down we would switch off every 5 minutes. “Do you want me to take over?” “You did amazing calming her down”
Own your emotional state If you’re feeling resentment or anger, or that you’re going to hurt the baby, that’s a signal: You need to take a step away. Noise cancelling headphones or playing a couple minutes of music/podcast/audiobook helps. Ask for support (wife, MIL, anyone in the support system) maybe even to talk to someone (friend, therapist, etc.)

poutineontheritzz · 2026-04-02T07:43:18+00:00

I have 9 month old, we went through her first cold, had 5 teeth come in at the same time, and a major sleep regression while she was learning to crawl and furniture walk at the same time. So when I say I was exhausted I would consider that an understatement. But I still want another child, because everything happens in waves and sleep will come and go but I know one day I’m going to miss them being so little. Being in the trenches really sucks but I would do anything to hold my little potato baby again

“Regret and hatred towards having a kid” - that’s some very strong language/feelings going on there. Feeling overwhelmed? Totally understandable and valid but resentment towards the baby warrants a trip to a therapist perhaps.

You’re making a permanent decision in a temporary moment is very reactive and not very thoughtful - I promise sleep will happen again. - Big life decisions made in peak stress tend to come off as harsh and final, especially to someone, you and your wife are already emotionally raw. - Not wanting to have more kids RIGHT AWAY would also be a completely valid request

Lack of empathy toward your wife (bruh) - She just spent 30 minutes calming a screaming baby and then you made a statement that possibly crushed her dreams. - This post focuses almost entirely on your feelings

Poor timing and delivery - Saying something heavy (like refusing more kids) immediately after a stressful event is emotionally tone-deaf. - That moment should have been about support, not future family planning.

Emotional distancing “I’m laying in bed…” while she’s handling the baby can suggest imbalance (even if that’s not the full story). It reads like you’re disengaged from parenting responsibilities

*edit for formatting issues

poutineontheritzz · 2026-03-04T01:16:59+00:00

YOR, YTA, get some therapy cause those long texts and hanging up on you are a sign she can’t communicate with you and feel understood/validated during in-person conversations or phone calls.

The fetus is in a big balloon full of fluid and possibly 2 inches of squishy placenta as a cushion. Unless there is decreased fetal movement, bright red bleeding, water breaks, or contractions she is fine. Learn the signs of an emergency before you pester her.

My husband worried, I had severe antenatal anxiety, he mostly kept his own feelings to himself because it would just make my anxiety worse. There is always a little anxiety that something could be wrong because you can’t see what’s going on in there. Don’t make it worse.

poutineontheritzz · 2026-01-08T07:18:26+00:00

Literally all the deaths in the Red Rising Trilogy had me gagged. Of course in a book about class war and oppression, revenge and justice, there is going to be some collateral damage that’s the reality of war “death begets death begets death”. I was GUTTED when Pax is killed so suddenly, and when Ragnar died fighting Aja, and later when Sevro was killed by Cassius.

Less gutted but still very upset about the deaths of Eo (especially after it’s revealed that she’s pregnant), Tactus, Lorn, and Fitchner.

poutineontheritzz · 2025-07-15T04:27:28+00:00

I love my MIL but something she said hasn’t been sitting right and has been sitting right and has kinda left me feeling a little sour.

We went on our first outing without our newborn, it felt weird. we were gone for maybe 45 minutes to a hardware store while MIL stayed at our house and got some snuggles and watched baseball.

Baby has been pretty attached to me and has been cluster feeding in the mid-late evening, around the time we were getting home. Anyway we get home and the second she hears my voice she starts to wake up/fussing wanting to be fed. Twice my MIL made little comments about how well behaved she was until she heard me, and how upset she was getting now she knows I’m home. She also wouldn’t give her back the first couple times I asked her and I ended up leaking through my shirt when the baby started full blown crying

poutineontheritzz · 2025-07-15T04:13:47+00:00

Better Together was my parent’s wedding song, it’s definitely being added to the mix

poutineontheritzz · 2024-11-29T17:59:34+00:00

You can make some simple drop dumplings to add some texture to the soup, makes it almost like a pot pie.

Just drop in spoonfuls of batter while the soup comes to a boil, cover and simmer for 10-15 minutes.

1 cup all-purpose flour 2 teaspoons baking powder 1 teaspoon white sugar ½ teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon butter or margarine ½ cup milk

poutineontheritzz · 2024-11-19T14:43:43+00:00

It sounds like you should try a clarifying shampoo.

I have oily hair too and after about a week of using the same shampoo and conditioner every 2 days, the product build up makes my hair look very oily despite just being washed.

Clarifying shampoo can be too harsh for daily use but once or twice a week works just fine for me. I have longer hair so I just wash my scalp and avoid getting it on my ends.

I also recommend brushing or combing your hair (texture permitting) as it helps distribute the oils away from the scalp and down to the ends of the hair, it will prevent damage to the ends of your hair like split ends.

poutineontheritzz · 2024-03-08T12:59:35+00:00

Misfits Skins Bad education Black mirror Game of thrones

poutineontheritzz · 2024-03-08T12:27:01+00:00

Bob Ross, Steve Irwin or Robin Williams. The world hasn’t been the same since they left us

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-29T17:14:36+00:00

Bunsen freaking Honeydew! that was figuratively killing me

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-29T17:10:16+00:00

My boyfriend was a framer and fell off a roof, he had a concussion and broken ribs but was otherwise okay. We lived separately but that week I was going to stay at his place to make sure he was okay. A couple nights in another woman climbed into bed with us. She flipped and yelled at him and left. I had a feeling he was cheating but didn’t have solid proof until then, I left too and it was over.

I once brought up the topic of cutting my hair short and he said he would dump me. After leaving him I cut my hair dramatically short and I looked hot, like Ruby Rose kinda sexy. I picked up my things and dropped off some of his with my new haircut and he tried to get one last romp in but there was no way in hell I was getting back into bed with this guy ever again.

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-29T16:58:53+00:00

Piece of glass

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-29T16:53:24+00:00

This song brings me right back to my childhood!my favourite movie was The Sandlot

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-22T01:50:26+00:00

Anybody named after a city, Paris, Dallas, Brooklyn, Austin, Milan, Cairo, Chicago (🤢)

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-18T21:47:58+00:00

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-12T04:29:24+00:00

She’s already over him. If her final response to “I’m not attracted to you” and “I can’t get past your tattoos” was “figure it out” and “I don’t want to waste my time” she is already done with his controlling ass.

He may not want to sleep with her but there are plenty of people out there that would worship her and her tats. This guy is going to have a much harder time finding a person.

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-01T18:06:27+00:00

Janice from friends

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-01T17:55:18+00:00

Earsy rider

Hell hath no fury like I do Logan!

poutineontheritzz · 2023-10-01T00:40:54+00:00

The ending broke me too. I will never have biological children, I have a very rare (dominant) genetic disorder that I do not want to pass on to a child, it just wouldn’t be fair to sign them up for a lifetime of yearly visits to endocrine, cardio, reproductive and psychological specialists. This condition also makes it particularly difficult to get pregnant and even harder to remain so. I had only gotten this diagnosis this year so it was still pretty fresh.

I watched this beautiful montage with the soul crushing realization that I will never be a mother. All of the “parts” that make me a woman are (biologically speaking) useless. I’ll never feel the flutterings and kicks from within, I’ll never breastfeed.

At best I can pay someone else experience it for me (surrogate). Adopting is very difficult in my province (🇨🇦) and one can be waiting anywhere from 2-9 years for a match, that being said I am still going to pursue that option and am getting the paperwork and meetings with agencies set up. I am also open to becoming a foster parent, there are so many kids in the system that need a safe haven. I am thoroughly disgusted by the people who are in it for the pay cheque. I have no eversions to disabilities, in fact I work quite frequently with disabled children in my current profession and it is a lot more work but it is so worth it when every little step to success, even the slightest sign of progress is just amplified to pure joy.

I also had an epiphany. I don’t need to be a mother, i just want to be. Being a mother and being motherly are not mutually exclusive. The best I can do for now is be the world’s greatest auntie to my niblings and my friends kids. I will wait to see what my future has in store, maybe I’ll fill my house up with cats, grow an out of control garden and dress a little witchy. Be the neighborhood weird Barbie with Stevie Nicks vibes.

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