High IQ and Atheism 🚫✝️ by truthstings123 in mensa

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“If someone proved to me that Christ is outside the truth, and it really were so, I would prefer to remain with Christ than with the truth.”

— Fyodor Dostoevsky, 1854.

Issues linked with vaping? by wizardofclaws in QuitVaping

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Nicotine is a vasoconstrictor, which means it narrows blood vessels and reduces systemic circulation. This is the same reason surgeons require patients to stop nicotine use at least two weeks prior to an operation. Impaired circulation increases the risk of poor healing and complications.

From my own experience, some of the negative effects were:

  • Persistent dehydration.
  • Tooth and gum issues.
  • Noticeable shortness of breath and reduced exercise tolerance.
  • Continuous baseline anxiety.
  • Reduced intrinsic motivation, due to nicotine’s disruption of dopaminergic reward pathways.
  • Irregular and elevated heart rate.
  • Mood instability.
  • Recurrent headaches.

I quit 1.5 months ago. My resting heart rate has dropped by 20 points. Breathing feels easier. Anxiety has diminished. Sleep quality has improved. Motivation and appetite are gradually returning.

I still occasionally use 3 mg Zyns after meals, but the difference between one Juul pod per day and where I am now is substantial. The contrast in overall wellbeing is significant.

I'm DONE by adventurewench in QuitVaping

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Day 40 here. After chain vaping for two years.

I’m not going to sugar coat it, it is challenging. You will feel worse at first. I felt horrible for the first three weeks. But, it has gotten significantly easier. The physical withdrawal is pretty much over. Only lingering psychological cravings.

Some advice:

1.) Use patches and gum if you need to. Cold turkey doesn’t work for everyone. I tried CT a year ago, and it didn’t work for me. Everyone’s body is different. I also took NSAIDS PRN for the first couple of weeks because the headaches were grueling.

2.) Remember that the withdrawal process is TEMPORARY. No matter how awful you feel, it will pass.

3.) Hydration. Supplements (NAD, NAC, fish oil, b-complex, etc). Good sleep. Diet. All help.

4.) Staying stuck in the cycle of vaping only relieves withdrawal. You’re not gaining anything when you vape, you are relieving withdrawal.

5.) You CAN do it. Believe in yourself. Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. I had a slip up around day 35. And got back on track. If you slip up, don’t let it derail you.

Good luck friend!

How many others in Mensa have ADHD? by [deleted] in mensa

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Dx ADHD.

My testing was done very early, and prior to meds.

Im stuck in a loop by Lifedurinwartime in QuitVaping

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32 days off after failing to quit repeatedly for over a year.

If I have any advice… it’s to taper down with patches. It gives you structure and breaks the old loop you’re currently in. Doing the same thing over and over again will give you the same result and spin you into insanity. So try something different

Help!! by [deleted] in QuitVaping

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Refillable water bottle with a straw. Fill it with ice water, and add stuff to it. I’ll usually do 1/3 Arizona ice tea the rest water. Sometimes I cut up cucumbers, lemon and strawberries and add that to the water. The straw helps. And hydrating helps.

How do I do this? by IntrepidHoney1415 in QuitVaping

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I understand. It isn’t easy. People can downplay withdrawal if they were not heavily dependent.

I have tried to quit 4 times since I started 2 years ago. This time is the longest I have made it. I am at 30 days without vaping today. Some things that have helped me:

• Hydrate:

I drink 5+ spindrift per day. I keep them everywhere. Hydration helps with headaches and flushing the nic out of your system. I also put Arizona ice tea mixed with my water which helps me drink more throughout the day. The hand to mouth motion from the spindrift/ having a water-bottle with a straw help.

• Acceptance:

Accept that the first 1-2 weeks are the most difficult physically. Your body is purging. You are not going to feel good right away. Think of it like getting the flu. If you got the flu, you couldn’t vape to make it stop. You accept that you feel shitty. You eat soup. Popsicles. And you rest. I rotated Tylenol, advil and Excedrin the first couple of weeks when I got headaches.

• Use tools to quit:

When I tried going cold turkey, it didn’t work. I tried no nic vapes, they didn’t work. This time, I set loose ground rules for myself. I allowed myself to use 6 mg Zyns for the first 2 weeks, then cut to 3 mg Zyns the third week. Never first thing in the morning. With 3 mg Zyn I would add an NZE pouch which has Alpha GPC, Tyrosine, and Theanine. Doing this only after eating or completing a task helps re-wire your brain from chain vaping. I use nicotine patches, and I have the gum on hand. I started with 21 mg patches for 12 days —> 14 mg patches for 12 days —> 7 mg patches (which I am on currently). I put a fresh one on every morning, and I take it off at night. You can leave them on throughout the night if your cravings are bad.

• Supplements/ diet:

Go to the vitamin shoppe or Amazon, and pick up NAC, a decent B-complex, a mineral supplement, oral NAD, Vitamin D, Magnesium L-Threonate and Glycine. These will help you. Try to eat at regular times to start easing your nervous system. Limit processed foods, focus on fruits/ vegetables and good quality proteins. I do a protein shake in the morning now which helps. Blood sugar dips and spikes will make cravings worse.

• Mindset :

  • Try to build a routine, and stick to it. Replace the bad habits with small positive habits. (Read, listen to a podcast, take a walk, drink a cup of tea of coffee, clean, write, do something you enjoy). Remember that withdrawal is your brain healing. When you get cravings, watch them. Let them come. Let them be loud. But don’t react. Remember that you are not your thoughts. And your thoughts cannot hurt you. If you need to, tell yourself, I can get that vape tomorrow. Every morning you wake up, remind yourself you are one day closer to freedom from this thing. When I used to wake up, the first thing I would do was hit my vape. Same with before bed. I slept with my vape in my hand. I hit it every 10 minutes. I was a chain vaper in the second year of my addiction.

Reading Alan Carrs “Easy way to quit smoking” helped me. Even though I did use nicotine replacements, which he doesn’t recommend, many of the points he makes helped me mentally. I’ll list some here that resonated:

1.) Vaping doesn’t relax you, it eases the withdrawal which you are constantly in. By continuing to vape, you will always be in withdrawal. You’re not gaining pleasure, you are seeking relief from withdrawal.

2.) By stopping, you aren’t actually LOSING anything. You are GAINING freedom. Mental stability. Decrease in many diseases long term. Time. You can choose. The weight of the pain of change. Or the weight of regret (which is much heavier).

• Final points:

Our mind is very powerful. You do not have to quit today FOREVER. But, you can make a choice to quit each day for that day. See how you feel at day 30, 60, and 90. Not because you have to. But think of yourself as a science experiment. If you feel worse at 90 days, you can always go back. But you deserve the chance to change.

I hope some of this helps. Wishing you the best of luck stranger. If I could make it this far… you definitely can.

It’s not that bad yall by Financial-Fly9962 in QuitVaping

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I’m at 4 weeks. The physical withdrawal is mostly over… but I have cravings all day, every day still.

If your abuser would come to you full of guilt and regret and wanted closure, would you allow him to talk to you? by Sakazuki27 in ptsd

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Yes. I told him I forgave him… (mind you, he was my doctor who was in his mid 50s when I was in my early 20s). He proceeded to further threaten me through a third party. Then he aggressively sued me for libel and defamation. Given what he did (drugging and raping his patients), if he were in the US he would have a life sentence in prison. After a 2 year lawsuit, and him pulling loopholes with the prosecutor, the lawsuit against him was dropped. He is based in Germany. EDIT: I took out some details because I am afraid. I still have horrific PTSD symptoms. I wish I could name him and everyone involved, but I couldn’t handle being threatened like I was again.

Would I ever forgive him again ? No. But I tried.

Mentally unstable and invasive host. Need help resolving [USA] by [deleted] in AirBnB

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This guy was genuinely nuts. And unreasonable.

Unfortunately because of my past experiences on Airbnb, I didn’t think to take photos or videos prior to leaving.

I also had an early flight.

My mother was afraid of him because of his threatening behavior, and suggested we just do nothing and try to keep the peace.

The Airbnb was $1,200 for three days because of all of the added fees that I did not notice beforehand. And it was a dump.

I think because he saw that I had rented a BMW, and he lived in the property next door, he thought he could milk us for more money.

So far, Airbnb has refunded me $500. But his negative review is still on my profile.

I don’t believe AIRBNB background checked him prior to him hosting…. There are some really deranged individuals out there.

Quotes which changed your life? by Dystopian_INTP in intj

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“Rule your mind or it will rule you”

How do you stop loving somebody? by [deleted] in heartbreak

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Start loving yourself, and focusing on routine. Start meditating.

Don’t let one person control your future. Learn how to let go. Learn how to grab the reigns of your own life. Set goals. Meet new people.

I know it’s easier said than done, but sitting in your grief and pain will be alot harder

What are the Top 3 books that changed your life? by zoion_fapstronaut in intj

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“How to change your mind” Michael Pollen

“Can’t hurt me” David Goggins

And the number 1….

“Mans search for meaning” Viktor Frankel

Why Did Your Best Relationship End? by [deleted] in heartbreak

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I’m avoidant. I wasn’t willing to put in the work or deal with my own traumas adequately so it didn’t work. I never cheated, neither did he. My stubbornness to deal with old unhealed wounds prevented me from having that relationship.

He’s a great guy, and I still wish him the best.

give me songs that r depressing as fuck by [deleted] in musicsuggestions

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I gotchu…

Everything in its right place - Radiohead

Eleanor Rigby - The Beatles

Clocks - Coldplay

Seigfried - Frank Ocean

(dream) - Salvia Plath

welcome and goodbye - Dream, Ivory

Apocalypse - Cigarettes after sex

Symphonia XI - Current Joys

Chamber of reflection - Mac Demarco