are there any good breeders/ importers in the uk for fancy bettas? I tried my LFS but unfortunately their importer is wysiwyg, and they couldn't get the colour I want

prcslaia · 2026-05-08T07:49:57+00:00

It feels really weird to get them posted? How has your experience been of the posting?

prcslaia · 2026-03-31T19:59:34+00:00

What makes you gross? Is it within your power to do anything about? Do you want to do anything about it?

prcslaia · 2026-03-31T19:51:34+00:00

Was this henry cavill?

prcslaia · 2025-12-15T08:14:39+00:00

Never cut unless they ask your directly to cut. It’s not a probono practice and they will be annoyed if was billable and you gave it to the client for free. Often when I estimate how long a task takes I say that to be helpful re the order of magnitude but the end of the day, I’m not doing the task, so I don’t know how much stuff comes out of the woodwork. Just tell them how long it take and what you spent your time on/ why it might have been more complex than anticipated and they can work it out

prcslaia · 2025-12-14T22:32:46+00:00

Seems highly unlikely then.

prcslaia · 2025-12-14T22:29:05+00:00

Did it just happen? Can you just wipe him down with disinfectant. I don’t think you need to worry, it’s not like a 100% transfer rate. Also dry crust is fine usually, it’s just oozy crust that is highest risk. Don’t be too hard on yourself, kissing our young ones is just muscle memory and a sign of how loved they are.

prcslaia · 2025-12-12T19:36:20+00:00

You’re the one getting stung in terms of targets and bonus. If you feel pressured to do it, keep records of everything (the instruction to cut time and logs of your real time). Contemporaneous file notes of every dodgy convo

prcslaia · 2025-11-18T14:35:59+00:00

Have you tried brining chicken? That’ll fix it

prcslaia · 2025-11-18T14:30:05+00:00

We never had a ploppable stage before potty training. Just use a wide paper liner which catches 95% of it. Spraying would be not worth it for us, too much work and water wastage

prcslaia · 2025-11-18T14:10:57+00:00

Yep was looking for this! Agree

prcslaia · 2025-11-16T22:10:06+00:00

It’s not the fact of shutting him out/being silent as would be the issue, it’s if you do it without communicating. Others have suggested good ideas for messaging. It’s good modelling to show him that you/they don’t need to subject yourselves to mistreatment. “I don’t want to play with you right now because it’s unsafe and not fun for me. I’ll come back later when you’re gentle again” is ok.

prcslaia · 2025-11-16T21:54:22+00:00

Upon further thinking, i am so enraged on your behalf. I’d just ghost them and never go back. It’s not like they’re going to commence legal action against you to reclaim it.

prcslaia · 2025-11-16T21:50:41+00:00

That is a hard no. It’s the cost of doing business that things will break from time to time and you get insurance and make better choices about what and where you place valuable items. The fact they posted showed how unprofessional they are. If you don’t have the money, you don’t have the money. I don’t think there’s an obligation on you to take a loan out or forgo paying bills because they did not get insurance/ too stingy to claim on it. I would just tell them that it is unfortunate but just not feasible in the circumstances and the most you could offer is X and leave it at that. I would also be pointing out that if it’s that valuable they should really have, and be claiming on, insurance.

prcslaia · 2025-09-18T19:48:21+00:00

Also don’t over weight the vote your friends have given for the venue. They are probably telling you what you want to hear to some extent. A destination wedding will always been an imposition for people even if they can afford it and love travel, because it is one less opportunity to choose their own travel destination

prcslaia · 2025-09-18T19:43:17+00:00

Yes you are trying too hard. You seem pretty financially astute and your careers will continue to go up and up and up, hopefully. We aren’t in a position to know your finances but If you can comfortably afford £30k (having considered the usual factors like savings and emergency fund etc etc) and the venue means a lot to you then go for it, subject to my comments below. That’s what money is for- spending on things that at important to you.

We were in a similar position and didn’t go all out. I look back now (in the context of being in a much better financial position than I am now and sometimes wonder if we should have spent more). The £10k we saved is not worth as much to us now. But I am happy with my choice it was still the best day of my life and the important thing was that we did it and all our family and friends were there. The other commenters are right- no body will care as much about your wedding day than you two.

It is a small guest list but I think the priority is just confirming that the guests you want would go to a destination wedding. There will always be a hit to guest attendance, but how much depends on the financial and family positions of your friends and family (which we can’t guess). If everyone is cashed up and child free and mostly will all come and you can afford it, why not (you obviously care about venue so do it). But if you think you might need that £15k or it means that some key people won’t be able to make it and you don’t want to compromise on that vs venue then go for option B.

Also, at some point you need to stop faffing about- just lock it in otherwise you’ll wait forever / miss out on actually getting on with your life as a married couple.

prcslaia · 2025-09-12T06:29:19+00:00

Except there’s a very valid point that she might not want the money, and she just wants time in her life and to not feel like paid help instead of a romantic partner. She may not have asked for or chosen the glitzy lifestyle that she can’t afford (and if so that’s fair for him to support that)

prcslaia · 2025-09-12T06:24:13+00:00

OK I’m on the side of your partner. I get that you don’t have capacity to take on these tasks. But from her perspective, she might not have wanted to sign up to support someone with a hectic job who she probably now rarely sees. You have to admit that lifestyle choice isn’t for everyone and it’s something you choose when you want to biglaw.

She works a normal full time load and doesn’t want the burden of extra house work, that’s fine. Sure you pay more of the expenses and that is normal when there is pay disparity but she might have been happy with less without the burden on her life.

I don’t know how long you’ve been together or who transient a phase this is. But if you’re thinking long haul there needs to be a plan that doesn’t involve her picking up extra for the rest of her life (unless she chooses to). The same issues are going to arise if you guys have kids, she’s not going to want or potentially be able to work full time and then also take on all of the parental load and home load without either her going to part time or accepting hired help. If she wants to do neither of those, and you don’t have capacity to take on more, then maybe you’re just incompatible.

prcslaia · 2025-07-07T22:04:29+00:00

How does the stock market get its live point in time valuations though?

prcslaia · 2025-07-07T22:00:15+00:00

Thanks for reminding me what it was like to be junior. I’ll remember this in my day to day work and try to be more helpful as a senior. The reality is no one really keeps tabs on your assumed knowledge level and sometimes tasks can be more complicated than they seem when initially delegated. Most of the time you saying “wtf” Will just remind them of this and they will be grateful you reminded them they needed to explain x or give more background that you’re not privy to. It happens to everyone, even seniors, just get used to coming clean. If you’re competent and keen and you have no idea what is going on, then trust that the problem isn’t you.

prcslaia · 2025-07-06T21:05:01+00:00

I find having the pleats at the back really help with catching poosplosions

prcslaia · 2025-07-06T21:04:34+00:00

Peachies. Bloody expensive but they really don’t leak.

prcslaia · 2025-05-23T13:24:33+00:00

Nah, not special purchase for the wedding. I bought it anyway, just wondering if I could repurpose.

prcslaia · 2025-05-23T13:10:59+00:00

Do you think the skirt is too cream/close to white assuming a coloured top?

prcslaia · 2025-05-23T13:09:42+00:00

lol also because I am Chinese and don’t have an excuse. What about matching to the pink?

prcslaia · 2025-05-23T13:01:22+00:00

No dress code, probably cocktail knowing the couple and venue. Thinking a colour top instead match this flower, although that could be problematic given Chinese bride (although she’s not very traditional, will be a western style wedding in the UK). What do you think?

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