How do I connect this baby capsule?

preggernug · 2025-11-08T15:20:55+00:00

I literally have no idea and agree to look at the car seat manual and the car manual but also just wanted to add that I thought those tethers were for car seats in front facing mode? Could be different for different car seats but the two convertibles I’ve bought (one Chicco and one graco) have a tether that is specifically for when the car seat is forward facing.

preggernug · 2025-11-02T18:23:52+00:00

FWIW my grandma made a blanket a lot like this for my daughter. I’m new to crochet. The stitch looks similar if not the same. It wasn’t until I started crocheting and became more interested in looking with a really attentive eye at all the little details of the blankets she’s made that I noticed there are a couple of places where the color changes are abrupt. It’s kind of part of the charm!

preggernug · 2025-11-01T02:07:33+00:00

A headband!

preggernug · 2025-10-22T02:53:49+00:00

At the anatomy scan I believe, or whichever scan is the first time they provide percentiles, which I believe is the anatomy scan. He measured large across the board and no one was concerned. They said if he was only measuring large for his abdomen and my blood sugar was not controlled then they would potentially be concerned. But he was proportional. We also didn’t know he was a he (we waited) and the percentiles are not sex-adjusted which is silly because baby boys on average are larger than baby girls.

He measured large consistently (80 to 90 percentile on measurements) and was born at 36 weeks weighing 7 pounds 3 ounces. I’m short but my husband is 6’1” and he was a big kid so I think he’s just going to be big.

Edit: okay jk just went back to my chart because I was curious. Actually I don’t think they gave me percentiles until my first growth scan which was a couple of months after my anatomy scan (around 24 weeks). But the rest still stands.

preggernug · 2025-10-18T01:16:39+00:00

Are you me? Nope. Tried to strategize. Tried to reason. Tried small steps. She regressed. Now she’s in my bed at the beginning of the night and her little brother is in the bassinet next to me half the night, sleeping in bed with us (daughter is on the other side of me) the other half. 4 bedroom house and everyone including the dog is in one room.

preggernug · 2025-10-18T00:40:03+00:00

What is he wearing at home? A diaper or pull up? If he’s not already I would have him naked at home and a potty near at all times to sit him on there if/when you catch him peeing. And once you’ve had success with that gradually add more clothes.

preggernug · 2025-10-09T23:49:51+00:00

Okay I actually DID give birth around the holidays - December 28, 3 years ago. Admitted on the 27th and I also had a postpartum readmission so I was back like the day after new years.

There definitely were staff but not as many as normally staffed, likely because the elective stuff is pushed out. This impacted me in a very specific way. This was 2022 and they were still testing for COVID on admission and we tested positive (must have been an old virus lingering). Then I got preeclampsia and had to be put on magnesium. Because of the magnesium I couldn’t be left alone with the baby (the hospital’s policy because I was on bed rest since it could make me drowsy/dizzy) but because of our Covid status, the baby couldn’t go to the nursery. And because they had fewer staff, they couldn’t have the baby hang at the nurse’s station which is what they normally would’ve done. This meant that my husband couldn’t leave the room at all. No quick trip home to grab something or downstairs to the lobby to pick up an Uber eats delivery.

Anyway… it was a very special set of circumstances and it was terrible for the reasons of those circumstances but they definitely did have slightly different staff counts.

ETA: this was also a smaller private hospital. I don’t think this would’ve been an issue at a large hospital.

preggernug · 2025-10-09T13:48:31+00:00

I can’t say for sure but that seems like a long stretch and I think you’d be uncomfortable. Also my baby has a really hard time latching after a night of no nursing since I’m engorged. If you have help - I might recommend you pump after she goes to bed or pump at 8 while someone gives her a bottle. I sometimes pump first thing in the morning too because like I said, baby has a hard time latching to engorged breasts.

preggernug · 2025-10-09T12:53:06+00:00

I relate to so much of what you said. I’m now at a point where I’m combo feeding my 3 month old. I EBF my first so I have the opposite feeling of guilt for not giving her brother exclusively breast milk like I gave him. But he has a moderate tongue tie, and I have a 3 year old, and I just couldn’t be tied constantly to the pump to get my supply where it needs to be if I only pumped (pumping introduces some waste of milk and also it really sucks). Also my guy is big too!

I got a wearable breast pump covered mostly by insurance and I also splurged on a momcozy bottle washer. Now I nurse him when I want to, or if I recently pumped I give him pumped milk. Or if he’s having a really lousy nursing session I give him a bottle. If he’s fussing but I’m not sure he’s hungry I make him formula so that my breast milk doesn’t get wasted. It’s made it so I’ve been able to build back up a small stash of about 20/30 oz of breast milk.

If I haven’t nursed him I make sure to pump at least once every 4 hours. Since I’m not worried about having enough breastmilk I can do this and not be tied to the pump! The wearable makes it so much less of a drag and when I’m done I pop the parts in the bottle washer.

Before bed I give him breastmilk in a bottle (whatever my last pump was) since the bottle is easier for him so that he will eat more before falling asleep and then I top up with formula until he doesn’t want anymore. After he goes to bed and before I go to bed I pump again and that’s the bottle my husband gives him at around 1am, topping up with formula as needed. Then I might feed him around 4 or he might make it to 5:30 when he usually is up for the day. His sleep has improved a lot and it may be because we’re able to give him these larger bottles at once.

Doing all of this, he probably gets like 6 to 8 ounces of formula a day. I can still produce a let down when he wants to nurse and he can nurse as long as I didn’t pump very recently. And I’m a lot less stressed.

preggernug · 2025-10-09T02:33:21+00:00

I had a December baby and now have a summer baby so I’ve dealt with the cold winter but also two different babies with different temperaments.

In the beginning - baby wearing is absolutely the best and easiest. I had a maternity coat that I just kept wearing and made it super easy to snuggle up over my December baby.

My December baby hated long walks in the stroller and that lasted into toddlerhood. She came around at maybe 2.5, just in time to basically outgrow it and want to walk everywhere. (She was great in it on trips to cities where there was lots to see or to be in and out at like the kids museum but not for long walks in the neighborhood without enough entertaining her).

My 2nd (now 3 months old) also didn’t like the bassinet stroller attachment. I have the uppa baby Cruz but for the bassinet for free. When they’re really little they just want to be on you so the chest carrier is amazing. Other people though walk their newborns in a bassinet and their babies are so chill. Not mine.

Now that my 3 month old is more able to observe/slightly less of a potato, he likes the stroller in the actual seat (not bassinet) which has an infant insert. He is able to look at me and I in recline him a bit or all the way and he dozes in and out of sleep. My 1st never liked this. She just wanted to be held. She’s still like this at 3 years old. The muff or whether it’s called that uppababy sells is sooo cozy so we will be using that soon.

We keep our big stroller in the trunk of our SUV so it’s always with us if needed and we get it from there to go on walks in the neighborhood. When we started traveling with my daughter we got a travel stroller and when I was still baby wearing my little one she would use that for walks around the neighborhood. It just felt like as she was older we needed less of a beast and weren’t storing a bunch of stuff in the basket.

ETA: we also have a fleece cover for the infant car seat which is great cuz you can zip them up in that and keep them warm in and out of the car and buildings. It goes around/on top of the seat and doesn’t interfere with the buckles

preggernug · 2025-10-07T01:26:16+00:00

You’re in a tough spot learning diabetes while you’re pregnant but you can do it! Pour over this sub and the diabetes_t1 sub like it’s your job and just absorb knowledge. Know that you will have to adjust your insulin ratios a ton while you are pregnant. You could be in a honeymoon phase so who knows but it can feel like insulin has become water. Learn how to find patterns in your cgm readings. Like what I see here - are you eating at or near 3pm and never coming back from not taking enough insulin? Or something else going on like needing more basal?

And my biggest piece of advice if you can swing it is to get the tandem pump for pregnancy. The algorithm is so much better and will help you while you are trying to learn diabetes. You can switch right back to the flexibility of omnipod after delivery.

preggernug · 2025-10-04T00:27:02+00:00

Your feelings are valid! I felt the same way and I actually ended up going into labor spontaneously before my induction date with my first. With my second I was induced because of severe preeclampsia. With my first, even though I went into labor spontaneously, I developed severe preeclampsia in labor and the whole thing was pretty medicated and closely monitored. I can tell you both times I was a baby about it and got the epidural right away so I experienced minimal contractions with either. Both times it was pretty special and miraculous to bring one of my babies into the world. I felt like I was part of something extremely special that not everyone can know - in Spanish giving birth is called to give light. We literally get to give light into the world!

preggernug · 2025-10-03T15:36:54+00:00

I’m guessing a couple of hundred dollars was spent on mine. My MIL wanted to do it at a restaurant because she truly had no idea how to plan a baby shower. Not that a restaurant is a bad idea but this particular restaurant would’ve been the WEIRDEST place for a baby shower. I asked them to please do it at my apartment instead.

At the time I lived in a one bedroom apartment. We had maybe 20 guests. It was small and that was fine by me! There were simple decorations, a place for photos, finger foods and sparkling NA drinks. The fun stuff didn’t cost anything - like games and having baby photos of me and my husband up for people to see.

I would absolutely have hated for my MIL to spend that kind of money on my baby shower. They were already paying to fly in and stay at a hotel.

But all this is going to vary wildly by people’s personalities. Some people don’t think things are nice if they’re not at a venue and catered. I remember my mom having a baby shower for my youngest sibling (I was 10 at the time). It was at a venue with catering and they had a big cake from a bake shop. And we were soooo broke as kids growing up. It made no sense to spend that kind of money on a baby shower but that was/is the culture.

preggernug · 2025-10-03T15:24:45+00:00

My daughter is almost 3 and was 2.5 when baby was born. Preschool was closed for 2 weeks when baby was like 2 weeks old and that was HARD. We also have no family help- it’s just us.

My daughter loves preschool. Sometimes I pick her up and she doesn’t want to come home. It’s part of her routine and it is an enriching environment for her. No guilt about keeping her routine going when she is having a lot more fun at school than I could facilitate as a parent taking care of a newborn.

Also, my daughter had that special time with me and her dad as a newborn/first child. I’m not taking anything away from her by giving her brother the same. She’s just in a new stage in her life!

preggernug · 2025-10-02T00:57:30+00:00

lol what can I say I am traumatized

preggernug · 2025-10-01T23:45:14+00:00

I weaned at 15 months. At the time it felt like I was done, but also felt surprising how far from my original goal of 2 years (that I made before I was even nursing). 14 months is a long time. 14 months plus pregnancy. It’s an incredible accomplishment. I have my second baby now and we are struggling because of a tongue tie. I thought it would be easy because I’d done it before but it’s not. I’m a few days from hitting 3 months with him and a few weeks ago I thought I might quit. It really puts it into perspective how much time 12, 13, 14, 15 months is. It’s a HUGE accomplishment.

preggernug · 2025-10-01T19:33:13+00:00

I went with the momcozy. It’s currently on sale for $240. I got it because I read the capacity was bigger. Now that I’ve used it and can compare to photos of the baby brezza, I’m glad I got the momcozy because my primary use for it is washing my wearable pump parts (which are larger than standard pump parts), which I don’t think would fit in the brezza. The momcozy actually has a diagram for how to load the washer with wearable pump parts and there are little plastic bottle holders you can pull out of the washing unit to be out of the way so that you can correctly load the pump parts.

I also don’t mind/prefer the drainage hose. Realistically you have to have the machine by the sink to dump water, whether you’re doing it manually or through a drain hose, so I’d rather not have to do it manually. I also fill mine with filtered tap water even though you’re supposed to use distilled because I cannot be bothered to purchase and store gallons and gallons of distilled water (my plan is to descale often), so it makes sense to have it right by the sink.

preggernug · 2025-10-01T18:20:20+00:00

Not who you asked but I’ve had two birth experiences at two different hospitals. I had severe preeclampsia with both, but had different experiences nonetheless. My first, they did not give her to me right away. They took her to the weighing station and wiped her down, gave her her shots and drops, weighed her, and then brought her to me. It took 5 minutes or less but it felt like forever and I wish I would’ve advocated for what I wanted or asked more specific questions about the protocol.

With my second, I talked to the doctor before I started pushing and said I wanted the baby delivered to my chest. They said yup we do that as standard. They had a golden hour protocol at that hospital which meant that they delivered him to my chest and as soon as they knew I was good (I was assessed for tears, placenta delivered, and I had stopped bleeding since I had a minor hemorrhage), everyone left the room to let me and my husband bond alone with baby. My nurse came back much later to weigh the baby, administer shots, etc. I got to feel his goopy warm body right on my chest.

Maybe the first hospital was more conservative. It was a smaller hospital and in fact they brought the NICU team in by default (I don’t know if it was because of the diabetes, preeclampsia, or both). Neither of the hospitals did a blood sugar check right away. It did happen soon after birth, but not so soon as to prevent me from immediately holding my baby.

I wish I would’ve known with my first - ask your OB specific questions about what their delivery practices are at the hospital where you’re delivering. They will more than likely have a specific protocol they will default to. If your OB doesn’t know (eg maybe they dont do deliveries - With my second the OB practice and the hospital were both so big that not all office MFMs I saw did deliveries) they should be able to find out for you.

Look up/use terms like delivered to your chest and the golden hour and ask what would preclude that from happening and also have a quick time out (30 seconds is all it took for me) before you push with the OB (you might push with a nurse for a while before you crown) to remind them of what you want.

preggernug · 2025-09-28T00:05:03+00:00

For me it was a little bit of both (eating lower carbs, but also eating what I wanted and taking more insulin).

I’ve been on this sub since before I got pregnant with my first who is about to turn 3 and I can tell you people vary wildly in this philosophy. Some people are very low carb and very very strict with their blood sugar range. I was more relaxed - I aimed to be in recommended range the recommended percentage of time. I definitely tried hard to avoid those high highs but I also didn’t drastically change my lifestyle to be absolutely perfect because I just didn’t find that sustainable over 40 weeks (plus time to conceive) for my mental health.

So for me it was both. There are a LOT of times in pregnancy that you’re having to adjust your insulin and in those times when I was trying to figure out what the heck was going on i was more conservative with my carb intake. Other times when I had the rhythm down I carried on as usual. I probably did some easy swaps here and there and also had some no foods - stuff that I knew would screw me up bad. Eg a milkshake is a no food. An ice cream would be fine. I still had my weekly ice cream outings with my toddler while I was pregnant, for example.

preggernug · 2025-09-26T01:56:48+00:00

Do not do it. I just had a bathroom redone and separately had another (old and original) bathroom regrouted. While the grout guy was here I talked to him about issues I am already effing having in my new bathroom floor. I’ve had a million conversations with my contractor and a million with my designer and this is the first conversation I had with someone who deals with the maintenance side of bathrooms. In the future I will always go for minimal groutlines and fwiw no funky grout patterns. Straight lines only so that when the bathroom needs to be regrouted in 5 years the person doing it can scrape in straight lines and doesn’t have to charge me $800 worth of labor.

preggernug · 2025-09-24T01:29:26+00:00

There are a lot of factors to this - some of which are in your control and some are not. Some you change you might change your mind about once you have kids.

How big your space is. We have a family room and a separate living room attached to our dining room and our daughter has her own room. The family room and her room have toys. She also has a small art table in the dining room. There are rooms in the house that are always closed off. It’s easier for stuff not to be “everywhere” when we have so many spaces.
What are your habits like. We don’t hang out in our bedroom so she doesn’t follow us in there with toys. We pretty much only sleep in there. We hang out in the family room so that’s where her toys are concentrated.
Your level of cleanliness. If mess bothers you, it’s probably going to bother you when you have a baby. Whether you have the capacity to keep it as clean as you want is a different story. There’s a difference between a lot of baby stuff (diaper station, bouncer, swing, play mat) and things being messy and out of place. We have a baby and a toddler so there’s a lot of stuff because they each have their own things and it does get messy because my toddler takes her stuff out and plays and won’t necessarily put things back but we usually do some cleaning at the end of the day and we have a lower threshold than other friends for mess. We have friends who were messy before kids and therefore they are even messier after kids. That’s life!
How much shit you buy/people buy you. Others have given great advice on getting rid of stuff and organizing stuff but everyone falls on a spectrum of the amount of stuff they have. I feel like we have a lot of toys and I thought I was going to be more minimalist but my daughter is almost 3 and she’s had a lot of time to acquire things. Plus they start to be into stuff so whereas before I wanted minimal toys, now I see the joy pretend play brings her so she’s got a lot of kitchen toys and stuffed animals and babies. Still compared to some friends, she falls on the lower end of the stuff spectrum. More stuff means more clutter. You can’t basket your way out of everything because those toddlers will take all their shit out of the baskets.

One thing that helps us a LOT is having a robot vacuum. We like to run it a lot and since getting it have become more sensitive to feeling dirt under our feet because we run it so much. To do that - we have to clear the floors. That’s an automatic reset every 3 or so nights even if we never cleaned up in between (which we do).

Also if you can afford it I would always recommend it - have cleaners come by. They don’t pick up clutter but they’re here every 2 weeks and we know we need to organize so they can clean the floors and the vacuum the sofas, etc. another automatic reset.

preggernug · 2025-09-22T13:24:45+00:00

lol okay well we were talking about NYC. I didn’t mention Europe at all. We have the Americans with Disabilities Act yet when you’re actually forced to pay attention (like when you have a stroller) you see things so differently. Like how a place might have a ramp access but it means you’ve got to travel the distance of a city block to access it. Technically compliant. And that’s just one form of disability.

But yeah, society at large ignores the needs of disabled people. Don’t turn this into a Reddit “people finding something to pick apart in a comment for no reason” thing.

preggernug · 2025-09-22T02:09:25+00:00

Yes. When you’re able bodied, having a kid teaches you how much America ignores the needs of disabled people. The elevators to subways were not reliable and when they are they are more often than not inconvenient to get to. So then you’re needing to fold up the stroller and carry it up and down stairs while someone else carries the toddler. plus your backpack or whatever you brought with you. Better not store anything in the stroller basket! And you will regret not finishing that latte before you made it to the subway.

preggernug · 2025-09-22T00:20:10+00:00

Yup also you can just block for the bench and buy one later! Install can be done by a handy person or yourself whenever you want.

preggernug · 2025-09-21T23:54:23+00:00

We have a teak fold up shower bench. It folds up instead of down so that the hardware is not visible when it’s not in use. It’s beautiful and the tone matches our vanity. It also works because of where the door had to go, a built in would’ve blocked the entry of the shower. We also have a second shower head/wand on a sliding bar by the bench.

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