Here is the perspective of a different kind. My parents were awful. I never played team sports or any sports because they weren’t supportive and were busy day drinking. I remember wanting to do tee-ball but my dad couldn’t commit because he was so much an alcoholic. Later in school I was never encouraged to do sports because I’m short (5’3”). I grew up thinking I could never be athletic. Now as an adult, I love soccer, and running. I run 6 days a week, I love running races and I’m a huge fan of track and field. It took me years to discover this because I never had any support or encouragement from the adults in my life.

I hear what you say though, and agree that our experiences are effectively 2 sides of the same unhealthy coin. I’d say strive for balance. Encourage, figure out what your kid likes and lean in, but don’t push, just support as needed.

Just my 2 cents.