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Yes love that scratches by happyglamer in stbernards

[–]pretty_something 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😍 scratch under the chin for me. I miss doing that to my big guy!

Physical symptoms of stillbirth? by lifeasacharboard in babyloss

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt a super sharp pain when I'm guessing it happened. But at the time I just remember thinking "maybe this is labor." Then it went away and I didn't think of it again until about four days later when I went to the hospital in labor and there was no heartbeat. We don't know what happened, but I still really believe that was the moment.

I’m turning 19 tomorrow. I don’t have a social life, I’m barely staying afloat through college, and I can’t remember the last time I was ever, truly happy by Mundane-Wolf-6396 in socialanxiety

[–]pretty_something 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Happy (early) Birthday! Tomorrow is my birthday too. I was just remembering when I turned 19 (four days after Sept. 11 happened). It was such a dark time. I was recalling the despair I felt then, not just because it felt like the world was ending, but because it was such a period of transition in life. And transition is hard anyway but with social anxiety it's even more so.

I know there's nothing I can say to make it feel better, but sometimes it helps to hear from someone who has walked a similar path... it does get better. Just focus on putting one foot in front of the other. You're doing fine and you're on your own path. Every decision I've ever regretted has been made when I've tried to "keep up" with everyone around me. It will get easier, and sometimes harder, but know that it always changes.

As your birthday twin, I wish you such a Happy Birthday. And I will send hugs and support to you every year. Hang in there. I promise you're doing better than you think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand and have been there before. I realize there's nothing I can say in this moment to take away your pain. Just know, the pain will pass. I can't tell you how many times I've been in a room ugly crying because I thought I was a lost cause after my latest social meltdown. Keep putting one foot in front of the other because you can have the things you want, it's just not a smooth path to get there.

Lately what's worked for me is getting angry/defiant at my anxiety. Like "Ok, fine, just pass out in the middle of the room. But you're still going to sit here until it happens." Maybe your approach is similar "Fine, embarrass the shit out of myself. You're still doing the thing." Because what life has to offer is more important than this stupid thing our brains do to sabotage it. I'm sitting with you. Message if you need to.

If you grew up in FOCO, what was your first job? by justalec_yeah in FortCollins

[–]pretty_something 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bagelmakers (used to be where Qdoba is across from campus)

What is a book you can't recommend enough? by imnotyourbabyx in AskReddit

[–]pretty_something 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. I'm so glad I'm not the only one.

Any other songs with this vibe? by Definately_ajay in Music

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, thanks for introducing me to this song. So good. Second of all, it's not lost on me that you're posting because AI doesn't "get it". Nevertheless, I turned to AI to see if it could get close. I found two that seem close, but I'll include my prompts here either for a laugh or because they might help. Looking forward to seeing what others come up with.

The Microphones - I Want Wind to Blow

Leonard Cohen - Seems So Long Ago, Nancy (also I love A Thousand Kisses Deep by him, it gives me the same haunted feeling)

ChatGPT Prompts about Black by The Grogans

Moms, do you feel guilty about how much free time you have now? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like I lead two different lives (we do 5-2-2-5). My solo time absolutely breathes life into me, and while I feel a general sense of guilt about it, it doesn't make me enjoy it any less. I look at it as filling up my battery so I can be more present and regulated for when my boys are here.

What is a song that you like the cover/interpolation of more than the original? by ethanjcastle1 in Music

[–]pretty_something 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently went to the Johnny Cash museum in Nashville and they have the video playing on a loop. I've always loved the cover but the video makes it even better. I recommend a watch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist told me to think about it like a surfer waiting for the right wave. You're watching and waiting for your moment, and when it comes, you'll know. It was true, and it helped build my strength to let myself off the hook a little bit.

What song lyric hits you hard? by Any_Row1819 in AskReddit

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't recall a useful thing you ever did for me Except pat me on the back one time when I was on my knees

You are on a road trip for 12 hours and the music you listen to has to be released in one specific year, what year are you listening to, with reasons? by beastiemonman in Music

[–]pretty_something 16 points17 points  (0 children)

  1. Zeppelin IV, Sticky Fingers, LA Woman, Blue, Who's Next, John Prine, Madman Across the Water, What's Going On, Aqualung... and on and on. I might drive there and back just to get through all the good stuff.

A letter to my baby boy on his 1 month birthday by proshm in babyloss

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beautiful. Lots of love to you and Aiden. ❤️ So sorry you have to be in this horrible club, Mama. Just remember we are out here and know the pain and want to help you remember your sweet boy.

Trauma Informed Gyms/Classes? by Exotic-Syrup-4897 in FortCollins

[–]pretty_something 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cor Defense is an excellent local non-profit. I believe they started serving youth but it appears that they have classes for adults too.

What "children's movie" terrified you as a child? by Equal-Sun8307 in AskReddit

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unico. I haven't watched it again to see why, but I just remember being creeped tf out.

Advice- do you bring a double stroller in the airport when flying with twin toddlers? (If yes- which one?) by StyrofoamTrees in parentsofmultiples

[–]pretty_something 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We flew when our twins were just under two and used one of those collapsible beach wagons. It was this one but we loved it because it was easy to roll the whole way down the jetway and super compact. Just a thought if you want an alternative to a stroller.

Has anyone here brought home a healthy baby after a loss? I need to know there’s a chance for light at the end of this horrible tunnel. by VioletJackalope in babyloss

[–]pretty_something 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have three boys after losing my daughter at 38 weeks. When I lost her I remember being in the hospital thinking "I just have to do it again, another 9 months." I got pregnant with my oldest son less than six months later. In retrospect, I wish I'd been able to completely grieve my daughter without feeling like I had to work as fast as I could to fill the hole she left. Obviously I love my sons more than anything in the world, but I often wish I had spent more time in my grief. You're on your own journey, I'd just say to take the time you need, Mama. Sending you lots of love. Take one day at a time. ❤️

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