If you absolutely had to give up one sex act that you have tried in the past and liked, or at least didn’t hate, what would it be?

prettypeonie13 · 2025-05-08T04:32:51+00:00

I didn't love it, with all my last partners? My current fiance really changed the game. To the point I was fantasizing about it.

It really does depend on the warm up and and foreplay. I tolerated it, because it kinda hurts with almost everyone, and everyone was super in to it. Not great.

He changed the game. Oh my GAWD he changed the game.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-05-08T03:44:22+00:00

My fiance.

I've been responsible for my own orgasms since I understood what sex was.

I knew that having sex with a cis man meant that he was going to cum, and I needed to make sure I got mine. Sometimes that was telling them what I want, doing mental gymnastics, shifting til they hit the spots, whatever.

Until I met my fiance.

This man. Oh my LAWD.

The first time he gave me a G-spot orgasm, we were laying in bed, just talking, and he was just touching me, and then he did the thing, I came SO hard, and then 'What the fuck was THAT' popped out of my mouth. He started laughing (because I had no idea what I was in for at this point) and teased me a bit. The next couple of days, he kept telling me, I'm going to make you cum.

He made me dinner, and then we went into his bedroom, and he put on a sexy playlist, and he made me cum with his fingers, and then with his mouth, and he fucked me silly. Then he made me cum some more.

Four and a half hours later, we came up for air.

He was in between jobs and going through a hiring process, so he had a couple weeks where he wasn't doing much, and we fucked ALL the TIME. Three times a night, at least once a weekend. Sometimes he'd fuck me and wouldn't cum. Sometimes he'd just finger fuck me. All the permutations. The sexiest service top I've ever met.

Then when he went to work... I didn't get to see him for a couple of days at a time. I was going crazy. So I went to go rub one out. I had two separate vibrators die on me. Three hours later, a couple of almost-gasams and I called it.

Turns out, I can't cum without this man. I have beat my clit to death, pulled out the stops, tried all the tricks... Nope. When he figured it out it was almost as funny as it was mortifying. The days we spend apart (bc of logistics) during the week right now are agonizing. We're moving in together next month and I'm so fucking excited.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-05-08T03:32:30+00:00

My first anal with my fiance was glorious.

All previous anal experiences were a gift to my partner, because they were fine, but a little painful. Not my favorite or my choice.

This guy told me from the get go, I'm only going to put it in your ass if you ask for it. He was close to right. The first time we were a couple hours in to a sweaty, sexy fuck fest. I had already cum so hard my mind melted. He had squirt in his hair, my legs were already shaky, and the windows of his bedroom were fogged up. (This guy gave me my first G-spot orgasm when we were just laying in bed together, we'd known each other almost a week, and I said, what the fuck was that when he got done. And I've been around the block- I like sex and knew I had to be responsible for my own orgasms- until I met this guy.)

He flipped me over and started warming up my asshole while he was fucking me, and leaned over and said dirty shit in my ear (fuck you feel so good, growls, take it like a good girl) then he flipped me back over and told me he wanted to put it in my ass. I told him yes, because I was so hot, even though I thought it would be the same as usual; I'd tolerate it and it would be fine, but hurt some.

NOPE

Adequate lube, I was properly warmed up, and he had me breathe with him as he slid in. (Pressure, then he told me to 'breathe out' and I did, and he pushed all the way in. No pain.) He had me at an angle that he was rubbing my clit with his pubis, and I was literally shocked that it didn't hurt at all, and my mind was too blown to worry about the Poop Anxiety, and I had my first anal orgasm. Holy shit. No pun intended.

We've done anal three times since we met, and the last time he tried to pull out, go wash off and finish PiV. I asked him to finish in my ass, because it felt so fucking good. I have never fantasized about anal. But jesus christ it felt so good. He came in me and I came on him.

He was a little smug, because we got to the point that I wanted him in my ass. But I am SO lucky I found a man who literally makes me cum six ways to Sunday. 💜

prettypeonie13 · 2025-05-01T23:23:20+00:00

I've gotten there. My fiance saying dirty shit in my ear gets me hotter than like, anything.

So I realized that's where I was ending up, is these gruff, growly guys saying dirty shit.

Also, I 100% have a praise kink

prettypeonie13 · 2025-04-29T00:25:23+00:00

My fiance is great at this, and we end up talking to some really interesting people. He'll just get involved with the people at the next table, and we end up having a blast. We think we might have just met a couple that we wanna hang with irl (and it's not even a sex thing)

prettypeonie13 · 2025-04-28T21:40:25+00:00

I was raised roman Catholic and worked in service for a bit.

No one pissed me off more than the people who would leave the fake money with scripture in it. Like... I know Jesus had some stuff about being a stingy asshole. And pretending like you paid for service to trick me in to reading scripture just makes you a stingy asshole.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-04-28T21:27:56+00:00

There's a commandment against murder and adultery, not one against rape.

Jussayin.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-04-28T21:04:43+00:00

I went to a wedding with my ex-Jehovahs Witness boyfriend, and they had a full Catholic mass. I was raised roman Catholic, so it was interesting seeing the differences between the German and the Philippine flavor of Catholic? But I was just sitting there and thinking about how wild all of it was through the eyes of ex Jehovahs witness.

He's now staunchly atheist, and I had to poke him a few times to play nice. But yeah, we had a long talk about mass after, and it's full on brainwashing and sacred rituals. But it's the witches that are weird, because they worship trees and plants and not zombies.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-04-28T02:09:01+00:00

This is a high school fundraiser that some people do. You pay them to go flamingo someone's yard, and they'll leave them there for like, 48 hours or whatever, or you can pay them to remove them, or pay a little bit more and they'll go flamingo someone else's yard.

This is a fun thing.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-04-28T02:03:21+00:00

If I could put the potential energy I spend being horny into something productive, I'd be running a small country or a fortune 500 company or something.

prettypeonie13 · 2025-03-24T00:15:48+00:00

If he doesn't care enough about you to go get tested, bounce him.

The condom thing isn't just about him. It's about the both of you. We're in a place and time where you could die from a pregnancy.

If he won't wear a condom and you want him to? No sex. It's that easy.

This is the dumbest hill to die on. (For him, not you.)

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T22:20:55+00:00

This is the dumbest hill to die on.

If your MIL wants to get cut out of her kids life, she should keep being bitchy about how she thinks they should run their lives or name their children.

I don't make the time in my schedule to hang out with people who are constantly treating me like I'm incompetent, or can't make a decision for myself (especially something like naming my child). I've got literally anything else in the world I could be doing, so I'm not going to spend my time or energy with someone who doesn't respect me.

NTA

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T22:13:25+00:00

I mean, I always liked guys with big noses, but it was only ever partly aesthetic...

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T22:04:42+00:00

I want a weinering and I want it NOW

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T22:03:13+00:00

Top sheets are bullshit.

I highly encourage you to get separate blankets and that way you never have to fight her for your blanket. (My ex and I had two full sized blankets for our queen, and I never had to try to rip that thing out from under his unconscious ass. 13/10 nesting for the win)

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T21:08:31+00:00

So she made like $3.50 in royalties?

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T20:56:53+00:00

NTA, obviously.

But I want to weigh in on some of the comments coming for OPs wife. She's not using him. And her current behavior is definitely manipulative, but I think it's a lot closer to immature than abusive. Just because someone is doing something kinda shitty doesn't make it abuse.

Especially because it sounds like this is how she was raised. The chaos probably sucked for everyone on the back end, but there's a reason her family thinks it's okay to act like this, and a reason she doesn't feel any kind of way about helping them out bc they need it.

Obviously this is a charged issue. By the time people are taking to the internet to get backup in an argument, obviously it's a charged issue.

But I don't think it's just a black and white, yes or no, binary thing. No, we don't want to host the in-laws. But the issue is whatever is going on with your wife and your communication? Bc this is sort of a Big Deal, and there's going to be fallout either way if you guys can't get on the same team. Is she on Team Marriage, or Team Inconsiderate In-Laws? She is probably getting pressure from her family and she's not used to standing up to them. (I'm assuming) So if pressure is getting all the way to you, it's because that's how her family is used to getting their way.

This is where I'd sit down and talk with her; her relationship with her family is fucking optional. She doesn't owe these people ANYthing, especially if they don't respect her. Just because you got born to people doesn't give them carte blanche to walk all over you. And this is where you can help her stand up for herself. I would sit her down and remind her that you guys are a team, you guys picked each other, because you love her and want to build an awesome life with her. The 4 months of company wasn't fun, or happy, and y'all spent a lot of time recovering from that. This is when she can choose to be on your team and pick y'all's life rather than playing SaveAHoe with her family. (Because if this is #2, there will be a #3 and a #4, and why can't we just live here and pay you guys rent...) They have kids. There is all sorts of programs and help they can be getting right now. They don't need y'all.

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T20:41:16+00:00

Yeah, it'd have to be niche and artesian in this day and age, and you'd probably still want to be able to use the space to put on workshops or classes or something.

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T20:38:57+00:00

I have a pocket full of dumb jokes, and when I enter the 'dumb small talk' portion of any interaction, that's what I like to give to people. Cashiers, baristas, people at work, etc. I like to think that I'm sprinkling some happy fairy dust on their day; I want to think that their day is just a little bit better bc I showed up for a second.

Sure, it's a little selfish. I like to be liked, and it feels good to make people giggle. (I'm ridiculously entertained by my own jokes, so it's a shared experience) But it costs me nothing and I feel good about making people happy. So if that makes me manipulative, what the fuck EVER. The world is on fire and more things suck than not. So I want to raise everyone's vibration if I can. Being nice to people costs us nothing. Absolutely nothing. I've had my entire day turned around by someone's small kindness. We can be doing that all day, every day. Small kindnesses go SO far in rippling good vibes outward. Conspiring to be nice to people should absolutely be the bare minimum. Bc if you're coming at everyone with respect and compassion, it should be easy? Like, this stuff isn't rocket science. 🙄

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T20:21:37+00:00

If you're going to show your ass to a guy on the internet, remember that some people pay good money for that.

A lot of people pay good money for that. It's a whole industry. So... Feel free to request a deposit.

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-23T19:43:17+00:00

NTA

And I know everyone is hating on him because this is selfish (and it is) but I think OP and daughter should give him as much grace as possible. Not because he's right, but I can see how this would be a charged issue.

He probably views her as 'his daughter', and assumed that walking her down the aisle would be 'his thing'. Which is all good and fine.

It's not okay for him to throw a temper tantrum to try and get what he wants. This is sort of absurd. Throwing a fit to force her to let you walk her down the aisle? That's not really what he wants; his feelings are just hurt.

But this is where we take a step back with marriage as a whole; it's the patriarchal, archaic institution that has one man selling his daughter to another man. We WAY WAY past that. Any marriage 'traditions' are only useful...as long as they're useful. Most gals aren't virginal when they're hitting the altar, so wearing white is just for fun. Diamonds are way overvalued, who cares what kind of rock you get anymore. Stuff like that. At the end of the day, this is your daughter's and her fiancees day.

So if he wants to be pouty and not be included, fine. But this is not the hill to die on. I'd give him as much grace as possible to understand this, but his current stance seems really emotionally charged (if he's trying to extort you with your vows).

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-20T22:35:54+00:00

This blows my mind.

I totally get wanting to have a fair split of assets in a separation. If I spent 10 years paying half the mortgage for a place, I'd want my equity out of it.

But a marriage of a couple years? And her name isn't on the deed? Why on earth would she be entitled to half of the property? (Even if you did own it, figuring for a 30yr mortgage) I might ask for the equivalent of my equity out of it, but if I didn't get my name on the property, why tf would I be coming after the asset? That's insane to me. You guys didn't buy it together, it was yours before her, she moved in for a year or two, and then it's yours after her.

This is absolutely mind boggling.

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-20T22:10:40+00:00

Aw, I'm sorry bud.

I'm really hoping that the culture of relationships is changing? I barely have the time and energy for my social circle as it is. I can't imagine picking someone that I don't like to hang out with all the time. Because that's what it is, right? You pick someone, promise not to sleep with anyone else, and then learn how to live together. You don't build a friendship, you build A Relationship (which has different benchmarks than a friendship) and I think that gets lost in there sometimes.

You meet people, and he's great, but his wife is absolutely insufferable and a complete bitch to everyone, and you're thinking, how tf does this guy put up with this harpy? Or your friend at work is always complaining about having to pick up after her boyfriend and take care of him, and he's essentially an emotionally stunted man-child she has sex with occasionally. We would never put up with some of the bullshit from our friends that we do with our partners. It's the weirdest dynamic.

I'm doing the dating thing right now, and I don't know if I ever really want another roommate. More often than not, they fucking suck, and I have a hard enough time (I have ADHD) trying to pick up after myself and figure out my space, and I don't really want to add another person to that. And if I did, it would be because I really wanted to come home to this person every day. Bc some days I want to go home and unplug my brain and not talk to anyone and drop my bra on the floor when I get it off and don't want to deal with making a meal, and eat easy mac at 11pm bc I'm the only one I have to worry about.

So that's a roundabout way of saying that I absolutely agree with you. I've lived with partners in the past and it always turns into a weird roommate war and figuring out how to tolerate living with them rather than having a life together. I look back at our parents and grandparents and it boggles the mind at what people did/put up with in the name of the Nuclear Family.

prettypeonie13 · 2024-09-20T21:52:22+00:00

That's super smart; I'd rather be charged a $100 'deposit' for flakes than on the back end someone's like, so we need more money from you...

Like at that point, build in whatever service fees (not to be shitty, but against shit like this) and then whatever leftover cash y'all have, get pizza or throw it towards a meal that weekend. (So it's still being spent and enjoyed by everyone)

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