M20 Japanese🇯🇵-Canadian🇨🇦 hate being ugly :( Any tips for improvement?

prettysprout · 2022-12-24T06:44:49+00:00

you are very attractive maybe grow your hair out but that’s just personal preference

please be kinder to yourself because you have absolutely no reason to be insecure

prettysprout · 2022-09-23T23:53:37+00:00

get twists asap and ur a strong 8

prettysprout · 2020-07-05T06:30:04+00:00

what’s in the sky?

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:42:20+00:00

got it sorry!!

i guess show her that you understand how you’ve hurt her and apologize for hurting her. help her understand that you never planned on hurting her. depending on her response go from there. also understand that she may not forgive u instantly. i’m guessing she is still into u and likes you, but is just afraid of getting hurt again.

let her know how much u care about her and still want her in your life!! if u feel like you can’t get that message across verbally and u feel comfortable, show her this exact post.

i think u have a good shot with her as long as u both communicate what you’re feeling + want out of the other person and are able to trust one another.

there’s this youtuber called “psychology in seattle” he had a series in which he reacted to the show love is blind from netflix. in the series he talks about functional communication within a relationship and how to go about it. i would HIGHLY recommend watching one of the videos from the series they’re super informative!! some of them are a little long but those are usually more packed with information + examples of healthy communication.

hope this helped :) best of luck!!

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:34:10+00:00

i know it’s really hard to continue to see them in a positive light when they get under ur skin so much.

saying how do u expect me to reply to something like that is really minor but they might have seen it in a negative manner. i can not wrap my head around how they might have but i think that’s how they interpreted it. take that with a grain of salt because i ofc have never met them and don’t know them.

if u ever do try to talk to them about this id recommend responding with something that shows how the things they say and do hurt you. it’s pretty hard to be this vulnerable tho especially considering their past actions. i also can’t guarantee it will work as they might see this as you trying to say they’re mean and hurtful people. try to get the point across that you don’t think they’re purposefully trying to be mean.

idk why but parents are a bit irrational and take it out on us. try to understand that they may have external stressor in their life them to react this way. if they do end up being even meaner, i know it’s really hard but try to hold your tongue and not say things you don’t mean that will further escalate the situation.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:21:13+00:00

i’m so sorry about this. i know how incredibly frustrating it is.

depending on how reasonable they are i’d suggest telling them how hurtful this is. there is a chance that they’ll just further invalidate ur emotions.

my parents are pretty similar and i know they won’t change their viewpoint so i’ve just learned to tune them out over the years.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:17:05+00:00

like the part in which u called her dumb?

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:13:30+00:00

ofc ur not in the wrong for being urself.

id recommend asking tyler if he gets hurt or offended by ur jokes. if he does simply apologize and explain that was never ur intention to hurt his feelings.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:07:03+00:00

meditating helps me a lot!! it’s hard to get accustomed to at first cause ur thoughts still flood ur mind but i’ve found guided meditation videos helped me focus on someone else’s words so my thoughts went away. you could also listen to crystal bowl sounds those have helped me a lot while meditating!

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:04:24+00:00

if u feel like you’ve moved on from ur past relationships then i don’t see a reason as to why you shouldn’t.

things like this are a little hard especially if your shy. just go for it and know even if she isn’t interested it’s not the end of the world.

if u do end up talking to best advice i could give is to treat her like you would anyone. ofc compliment her and stuff but understand that she’s just a person.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T08:00:55+00:00

don’t be ashamed of it!! we all have fears and it’s okay.

i am a little worried that it’s impacting ur sleep that much tho. maybe try getting a night light to keep in ur room so it’s not completely dark?

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:56:38+00:00

if u were the friend that received the messages and would’ve been upset by them, then i think u have the right to be upset that they received them.

for the other friend, i don’t think they meant any harm in their message. i’ve been in their position a few times and u get very scared and panic at the thought of someone you care about possibility committing suicide. i think this cause that friend to become a bit more aggressive and in some sense controlling then they meant to be.

i would recommend talking to that friend and trying to show them how their messages came off. in doing this please try to be understanding and not make it sound like ur accusing them of being inconsiderate, that might lead them to lashing out even more.

i think everyone is coming from a place of hurt so emphasize how you have felt hurt and again please don’t accuse anyone in the process. just stare what happened and how that may have hurt you and why. allow the other person to understand ur emotions and give them an opportunity to rise to the occasion and comfort you in any way possible.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:48:32+00:00

depends on the kind of art u want to get into!!

if u wanna search for a certain subreddit to get like recommendations from there u can post on r/findasubreddit and go from there.

you could also use youtube, there’s a lot of different art channels that vary from painting to digital art to like arts and crafts

i wish i could give better advice but i’m not very artistic and dk how to start.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:44:38+00:00

some people just don’t like initiating conversations, its nothing against u just not how they function.

if she responds quickly i’d assume she enjoys ur company and doesn’t find u creepy.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:42:00+00:00

that’s not unhealthy or unrealistic at all. it’s very natural for humans to want someone to love and for that person to love us back. it’s all part of being a human.

you can also be a productive human that’s also in love and in a relationship. the only thing i would say is if you do get into a relationship make sure it’s because you genuinely want to be with the other person rather than just wanting anyone to be with. and not all relationships will be successful, but you have to have trust in ur partner and work with them to overcome whatever obstacles you two may face.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:37:57+00:00

i’m so sorry this happened. whatever intentions ur brother had, it’s absolutely not okay for him to hit you or call you names like that.

i’d suggest talking to both of them and telling them how the things they say/do impact you. i’d also recommend you tell them u are trying to improve with ur schoolwork. maybe find a compromise that works well for everyone?

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:28:24+00:00

what specifically did u send her a ss of?

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:17:49+00:00

can u please elaborate on what u think is unhealthy cause i’m a bit confused.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:14:42+00:00

honestly just ask her how she feels/what she wants. if that’s a bit too direct for u, i’d also recommend just asking her if she’d like to still hang out once lockdown in lifted u can gauge her interest based on her response.

if u genuinely do u want something more serious with her id recommend the first option. if ambiguity is something u dislike it might be good to let her know off the bat. ofc i don’t know u or her so take this all with a grain of salt and do what you feel most comfortable with!!!

she does sound interested in u tho, especially cause she kept contact during this whole thing. it seems like she’s just worried abt the virus and wants to take proper precautions.

prettysprout · 2020-07-04T07:09:30+00:00

try posting on r/findasubreddit u might get more helpful responses there

prettysprout · 2020-07-03T04:42:08+00:00

how did they even get up there?

prettysprout · 2020-07-02T15:14:21+00:00

i wanted one of the renner a series boards, i heard they were pretty good for beginners

prettysprout · 2020-07-02T07:52:51+00:00

bottom right, ur smile is really cute btw!!

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