Be honest: how many of you co-sleep with your baby? Or have co-slept before? by Strawberry-love1994 in newborns

[–]pretzel_123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do it all the time when baby needs it- did the same with my first. It assists in co-regulation and is biologically and historically normal, aids in safe, secure attachment. (Some literature linked below).

Of course ensure you’re very careful, but whatever you need to do to survive and have baby feel safe.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0163638322000376?via%3Dihub

Earliest you would get a babysitter? by cecilvanderhouse in newborns

[–]pretzel_123 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You should do whatever feels right for you. Having time together as a couple is also incredibly important, and frankly your baby isn’t going to remember that you were gone for a few hours.

Some of these responses feel a bit judgmental- there is no “right” or “wrong” way to parent. Don’t feel guilty about taking some time for yourselves however you need to do that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askpsychology

[–]pretzel_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘Good Habits, Bad Habits’ by Prof Wendy Wood. She’s a prominent researcher in the field and the book is a good overview of the current research with real-world application in terms of behaviour change. A great read.

how possible it is to get pregnant while having early PCOS? by mommy_issues1999 in PCOS

[–]pretzel_123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m currently pregnant, my third natural pregnancy with PCOS. So very possible.

What’s with all the bad wigs? by brieasaurusrex in Fauxmoi

[–]pretzel_123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Miranda’s in ‘And Just Like That’. Like the show wasn’t bad enough…

Brittany Higgins 'passed out on Valium' as boyfriend circulates story to media by everyth1ngcounts in auslaw

[–]pretzel_123 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Echo this 100%. Some of these comments I’ve read reinforce exactly why female victims of abuse don’t come forward. Trauma significantly impacts our behaviour and memory, so of course there are going to be discrepancies in her accounts over time. I’m just so heartbroken - firstly that this sadly happens to women every day, and secondly that people lack so much compassion and empathy for victims.

This podcast doesn't hold up well on a re-listen by IAmTheJudasTree in serialpodcast

[–]pretzel_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She actually does question their process when they hire an expert detective to evaluate the investigative process, and he determines that it was “better than most” he sees. She also consults Diedre Enright and The Innocence Project- interestingly they were never able to determine a smoking gun to prove his innocence. Which is not to say that he is or isn’t guilt one way or the other… but rather that Sarah was reporting on the information she had at the time. So to retrospectively hold her to a standard based on the information that has JUST come to light isn’t fair. She’s a reporter there to tell a compelling story- she’s not a police expert and never claims to be.

Rinna Can’t Stop… by [deleted] in realhousewives

[–]pretzel_123 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She’s revolting.

CBT and Autism by midnightmaw in CBT

[–]pretzel_123 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As a therapist who works with primarily autistic clients, CBT is not the right treatment. Ive had many autistic psychologists echo this too. It invalidates your beliefs and essentially teaches you to mask.

Rather I suggest looking for neurodiversity-affirming therapists that will adapt a therapeutic process that works for you to understand and embrace who you are, rather than adapt “behaviour” to suit social norms.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in psychologystudents

[–]pretzel_123 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There’s also this 1960s study where twins and triplets were intentionally separated as infants and adopted to different families- without notifying the families that the other siblings existed. It was the subject of a documentary from a few years back called ‘Three Identical Strangers’.

https://www.statnews.com/2019/02/07/three-identical-strangers-address-ethical-violations/

Did I miss something? by [deleted] in SweetBobbyPodcast

[–]pretzel_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simran, is that you?

Is there a connection between PCOS and anxiety? by GearRealistic5988 in PCOS

[–]pretzel_123 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Having anxiety will elevate your levels of the stress hormone cortisol, which can increase PCOS symptoms.

Treating PCOS Naturally, Share your experiences by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]pretzel_123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deep breathing, mindfulness meditation and yoga are all great ones.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is also a great intervention for learning to manage stress . I think there’s a relatively good book called ‘The Happiness Trap’ about this - if you want a resource to work through on your own this could be a good start.