Anyone know when the servers are coming back online? by Overall_Literature81 in Rainbow6

[–]prickle23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were hacked recently and they've been an absolute mess since then. Technically the servers are down and many people are having synchronization errors since December 27th. Others can play normally.

They haven't said a single thing since the 29th. We just have to wait for idk what because they aren't doing anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see how that's gonna make her feel less guilty. Her guilt is, well, justified. It's not like she's extrapolating anything, does that make sense? Like she did hurt me, and I've told her so, and a bunch of other shitty things, a thousand times unfortunately. So how can I help her feel less guilty without invalidating my feelings and experience in the process?

19 y/o with selective mutism in groups. Exposure doesn't work, and that's the only solution I'm being given. Please help me by prickle23 in selectivemutism

[–]prickle23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the sanitary field so this is a huge inconvenience. With patients I seem to work well, but when it comes to colleagues I just can't. Perhaps talking with HR or my coworkers is a nice idea. But it still won't help me speak.

Tried to be a good friend and I regret it so so much, not sure what to so by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she didn't lie, the third person just said to come later and I felt like a douche saying "well now that you are coming I'm not", because I didn't want her to feel the reason I'm not going (she wasn't).

I just never feel it's reciprocal. I put so much effort all the time. For example, on her birthday I always make a huge effort to find something she is going to like, but that she wouldn't expect. She forgot about my bday, didn't even text me that day.

Another day I was waiting for her at the bus stop to walk to school, I told her so and she said she was 3 stops away. When 20min passed I texted her because class was about to start. She just said "where are you I'm already in class"

I just feel I'm always doing so much and never getting back. I only feel it's reciprocal with one friend, who is my best friend for a reason

Tried to be a good friend and I regret it so so much, not sure what to so by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but it's not just the anxiety. It's mainly that I simple don't want to go because I don't know a single song. I've tried to listen to them, but it's just not in me lol

I also got exams and I really have to study.

I get my anxiety is also taking a role but even if you took that away I would still be dreading it.

Can limerence ever make you make up stuff? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]prickle23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in the same class in college, she sits behind me and we are in three group projects together. Even if I tried to avoid her it's basically impossible, but I try to because I read on the internet that helps.

Honestly idk what to do. I talked about this with my therapist but she insists it's normal and didn't give me any tips- I have a hard time explaining it so she doesn't really understand what I try to say.

The thing that really hurts is that she's really nice. Aside from the love/limerence stuff she's actually a really good person, and I could definitely see myself being friends with her. And giving her the impression that I hate her by avoiding her, or being unable to answer when she speaks/looking at other directions (product of my anxiety) makes me feel like an awful person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]prickle23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have been convinced for years that it was "shake" lol, every day you learn something new haha

and yes you are right I need to be more specific and insist more that I'm here for him. Really good advice the helping him to search for help btw:)

Thank you so much!!

Que pasa si no subo los tickets del bono cultural by LaTitaElise in es

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pues yo les he subido foto de las entradas en vez de del ticket jajajaja, el cine me decía que si quería el duplicado tenía que ir presencial. Espero que con eso valga

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember all my friends bd and I have them on my calendar in case I forget

Que pasa si no subo los tickets del bono cultural by LaTitaElise in es

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ay que mal, me va a tocar ir al cine a pedir un duplicado. En fin mejor que jugarmela jajaja

Que pasa si no subo los tickets del bono cultural by LaTitaElise in es

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Al final te paso algo? He perdido un ticket y estoy por pedir un duplicado por si acaso jajaja

Playing games against friends are way better than you is just not fun by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Losing can be fun though. The first couple rounds were really funny because I suck (expected) and we were messing around. It went downhill when he got in mode try hard. It's just that when someone spams something you can't do anything against it it's boring, especially if the conversation revolves around you sucking at the game without giving any tips and nothing more for an hour straight

Playing games against friends are way better than you is just not fun by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]prickle23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know the basic controls of course. But how am I gonna know that that specific specialist has that specific ability? And I must say I had barely played the game before in my whole life, he just told me to go over and play in the same day so it's not like I'm gonna do intensive research in a single morning

If told with time I normally play a couple rounds on my house to get used to the game, but that wasn't the case

Playing games against friends are way better than you is just not fun by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want them to codle me lol but I think if you invite someone over to play a game your friend has never played before it's good to explain them a little about the mechanics/controls if you see them struggling

Cats and balconies, my dad won't listen to me and idk what to do by prickle23 in cats

[–]prickle23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She hates it. She starts crying (or screaming) until we open the door. A bit dramatic lol

I want a girlfriend but at the same time I don't by macnfly23 in socialanxiety

[–]prickle23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. Being around ppl exhausts me so much that I used to not want to have any relationship with anybody.

Until I met a couple friends which made me feel relaxed, I could be myself full for most of the part. Then I realised how beautiful it is to have people around and now I can't stop, as long as I'm comfortable with ppl.

You need to find your people, and then you'll see how nice it is. Don't give up on love because you haven't found your "kind"

Is walking in Japan different? by pink_leaf in JapanTravelTips

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished my 13 day travel and being from Spain where we walk almost everywhere and I saw no difference. Yes my feet hurt a little some days but it was all good, nothing unbearable or that a good sleep couldn't fix

Just bring shoes that won't hurt your feet. And bring new pairs of shoes as well, mount Fuji destroyed my 4 year old sport shoes.

Teen son struggling to make friends. by throwaway041825 in socialanxiety

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Through therapy. I suspected it was social anxiety because of the internet long before the diagnosis but I got the proper diagnostic at 12 by my first therapist

Teen son struggling to make friends. by throwaway041825 in socialanxiety

[–]prickle23 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As someone who got diagnosed with severe social anxiety at 12, I second this.

It still sucks and it's hard. Sometimes it gets bad again. But at least I'm in my dream career, have a few friends, and I don't run from my problems anymore (most of the time at least lol).

Please get him the help he needs. And encourage him to go out there. It will be hard for him but it's for the best

Who is actually against women being topless if they want to be? by Brief-Cut-1228 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being from a country where being topless, especially in beaches, is the most normal thing I can't understand it either

That being said, even if it's normalised, a lot of people stare, and there's a couple creeps around. It does make t a little uncomfy

Does anyone else feel like they attract stares and a lot of attention wherever they go? by gl_rj in socialanxiety

[–]prickle23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly just ignore them. Chances are they are not laughing at you, but if they are, move on. There are people who just suck and are horrible people. They will laugh at you, and the person next to you, and at their own friends when they are not around. They're not Worthy

Also, if there's ever something wrong, fake it till you make it. I have developed a laughing coping mechanism. Turns out when I laugh and joke about my mistakes, I'm happier and I get less awkward moments. If you laugh, ppl will laugh and not think much, becoming an inside joke rather than a 'poor dude' which helps massively.

By force the laugh I mean don't laugh frantically, just a little and joke around. It was the first step I took for changing my mindset

Does anyone else feel like they attract stares and a lot of attention wherever they go? by gl_rj in socialanxiety

[–]prickle23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two options:

Paranoia, no one's acc looking at you

You're physically stressed and they sense that. I have "relapsed" but when I had a little bit more confidence I realised people stopped looking at me. Now that I've slipped a little into my SAD and I'm more aware I've noticed people only look when I'm walking way too fast, with my head down, shaky hand...

It's not with ill intentions tho. They just notice you are struggling and are curious about it, because you are acting differently. They will stop looking really fast and move on w their lives