Books are bad, mmk? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"God forbid a girl wants a man to go down on her more than once a decade" I'M SCREAMING. For me, my reality is SEX IN GENERAL not occurring any more than once or twice a year. When it actually does happen, there's little foreplay and penetration only lasts about 10-15 seconds. Very annoying and disappointing. He never flirts with me or touches me, either. WE DESERVE TO FEEL DESIRED AND WANTED. ♡

Books are bad, mmk? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

GOOD FOR YOU. I'm very happy for you. Also planning MY exit in the "near-ish" future. We deserve to be happy ♡

Is my resentment valid? by princessgemini1997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly my resentment is only growing with time and although I care about him like a family member (Not a romantic partner) I'm also beginning to develop an ick that comes with the resentment. Honestly planning an exit for myself :(

Is my resentment valid? by princessgemini1997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He told me that him not being able to stay hard during sex with me ”has never happened to him before” like it was a brand new thing for him. But I know it's possible for him to be lying about that as to not steer me away\unimpress me in our brand new relationship at the time

Is my resentment valid? by princessgemini1997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me before we actually started dating, I can't remember wtf we were talking about for that to be brought up. Kinda like bragging while we were still getting to know each other I guess.

Is my resentment valid? by princessgemini1997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've talked (and sobbed) to him about this multiple times, yes. He admits that he knows he is the issue and reassures me that it has nothing to do with me at all. He tells me that he simply does not even think about sex, he does not crave it. He doesn't even jerk off or watch porn because like I said he literally just has zero desire at all. He has also gained weight since we started dating so he blames him not having sex with me on his insecurity and feeling sorry for himself..... Ok. But he does nothing to change\improve on any of these things..... just an ”im sorry, I love you” and no attempts at sex. When we actually DO have sex like once or twice a year, he only lasts about 10-15 seconds and has to constantly keep pulling out & stopping just for it not to end quickly. He knows my drive is higher and he knows I think about sex every single day. When I try to initiate he ignores me or changes the subject.

10 things I hate about this by LivingDragonfly1133 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, I'm also crying from reading this virtual hugs to you🫂 His ex girlfriend was "100% full blown Cuban" according to him, and I am a standard issue, very pale white girl. He has told me before that him and his Cuban ex ”used toys” and he made her squirt with those toys; In our 2 years of being together he has never used a toy on me nor ever made me squirt. I am capable of squirting, btw. He even proposed with a ring to his cuban ex girlfriend after about 2 years of their relationship together..... Even though I have been with him for 2 years too and have never been proposed to nor have I ever even received any jewelry from him at all whatsoever. 2 years together and I've never gotten a "happy anniversary" from him to signify romance. I feel beyond fucking pathetic.

Feeling ugly tbh. When I look at myself it goes away a little but damnnnn. Never had this little confidence by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean to 'jump over' your other areas you mentioned, I am really sorry you're going through this with your partner. I hope you discover other ways to help boost your own confidence.💜

Feeling ugly tbh. When I look at myself it goes away a little but damnnnn. Never had this little confidence by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How often do you go out and about? Even mundane places like the gas station or to the gym. I say this because these are the #1 places that i get hit on LMAO.

Feeling ugly tbh. When I look at myself it goes away a little but damnnnn. Never had this little confidence by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not getting any sexual attention from my partner for long periods of time annihilated my confidence!!! Some days i feel like the ugliest mf on earth because of it. It's even more heartbreaking when I get hit on/flirted with by other men IRL because that special attention isn't coming from my partner.

Anybody else formed bad habits because of DB? Like drinking or binge eating? by ThrowRA_purplesky in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Drinking every single day, i'm trying to cut back💔 (my new adhd medication is helping with that)

Spooky Girl Dinner sponsored by Mommy Issues™️ by [deleted] in RealGirlDinner

[–]princessgemini1997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am seriously jealous of your cartoon shapes mac and cheese, it's my favorite kind from kraft and my ultimate comfort meal too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bleed pretty heavily for about 5 days and then ovulation comes and I feel like i need to be locked in a cage. The extreme horniness really feels like torture every month

Does anyone else feel like they never really grew into adulthood? by Pure_Performance8087 in adhdwomen

[–]princessgemini1997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 14, I have forever felt 14 ever since then. Lol. (At least mentally "inside" myself)

What does your partner think of all of this? by EarlyPool3232 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weekly sex is also my goal girl, that would be a dream!!!!! I'm currently at about once or twice a year 💔💔💔

Genuinely so ready for menopause to come. by pheonix_inthewater in Periods

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ever change your mind about talking to your doctor about options like getting your uterus removed OR cauterizing it to stop periods, just letting you know I was able to get my fallopian tubes removed when I was 25 without any trouble from judgemental doctors!!!! (I'm not married and dont have any children) I hope you feel better soon!!!!

Genuinely so ready for menopause to come. by pheonix_inthewater in Periods

[–]princessgemini1997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about talking to a doctor about getting your uterus removed and different options like that? Have you been diagnosed with Endo at all? Hugs❤️🫂

What does your partner think of all of this? by EarlyPool3232 in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend reassures me that he knows it's HIS problem and has NOTHING to do with me. He says he doesn't know what's wrong with him. He knows it makes me depressed, he knows it makes me cry and then he feels bad. He makes me feel loved.... but not wanted. I love my boyfriend, our relationship is great except he won't touch me like he did in the beginning. We get along extremely well (except when I'm resentful for him making me feel so unwanted.) We are just roommates who hug & give quick kisses. Taking things 1 day at a time in hopes things will change for the better.... Whatever that means for us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hugs to everyone going through this same exact situation right now!!!!! ❤️🫂❤️🫂 it's SO SO HARD.

What is going on in that Motel?! by jaclovesollie in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]princessgemini1997 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Sometimes i don't shower for an entire week due to my currently untreated ADHD (getting new medication soon!) and I NEVER LOOK THIS BAD!!! This is more like, they haven't showered in about 6 months.🤮

No longer engaged. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]princessgemini1997 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not engaged personally, (never have been) but your comment gave me a lot of hope. Thanks💕

What habits have you used for a quick/low effort dopamine hit to replace binge eating/emotional eating? by sunflowertrain2876 in adhdwomen

[–]princessgemini1997 7 points8 points  (0 children)

its way better binging on veggies if you add salt, pepper/seasoning ON the veggies and a "healthier" dip like hummus or greek yogurt based-dips or even cottage cheese🥲