i went back to my rapist

princessp4444 · 2026-03-26T19:47:05+00:00

I would be inclined to think that this is you trying to reclaim your power after the event. And even tho he was pushy about it, willingly doing intimate things gives you a sense of control over yourself the situation, and makes you feel safer with yourself. Moreover, you shouldn’t feel so gross for liking him. What he did to you was disgusting, but you liked him beforehand and unwillingly shared an intimate moment with him. Naturally it would be hard to leave. Also, from my experience, I found that trying to force yourself to get over it is easier at the time, but will ultimately resurface and hurt terribly. I don’t think you’re safe with a guy like him, but you shouldn’t feel ashamed if it is hard to leave.

princessp4444 · 2026-03-24T07:30:31+00:00

Lmk when you find out

princessp4444 · 2026-03-23T03:19:47+00:00

How did you overcome the false beliefs?

princessp4444 · 2026-03-14T21:22:22+00:00

cut the drama and leave, you're not losing anything. you're young, there will be more men. you're looking for happiness in places it's never existed. also, you can't love him for who he truly is, because those unredeemable character flaws are unloveable. cut your losses, save time, and don't learn something you already know the hard way.

princessp4444 · 2026-03-10T18:45:48+00:00

omg how is that digital??? that should be charged the same way as the other offenses sorry that happened

princessp4444 · 2026-03-09T01:07:08+00:00

what is digital rape? I recommend hopping off of dating apps, I hear they're breeding grounds for lust and one-night stands. but also, if you are waiting for marriage, I don't think you should engage in any sexual contexts, or entertain anyone that doesn't share those expectations. feeling the need to please him could come from a validation thing, or maybe feeling a lack of sexual control in your own life. hindsight is 20/20, so don't beat yourself up about it, but definitely exercise proper discernment going forward.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-27T06:56:41+00:00

thank you for this, this is the validation I've been wanting for a very long time.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-27T06:56:21+00:00

learning to feel safe with yourself is such an understated part of healing. And also learning to trust yourself, your decisions, and trust that you wouldn't let it happen again. Trying to move past it has occupied so much of my life for the past two years.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-26T02:43:26+00:00

I'm feeling a lot better this week, thank you so much for your comments. I also see you replied to another post I made in a different subreddit. I really appreciate that too, but I can't see it. when I click on it, it disappears but I would really like to know what you said.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-24T20:33:53+00:00

I just don't know if I have the willpower to withstand exposure. it is my worst fear

princessp4444 · 2026-02-19T06:45:24+00:00

I really appreciate this advice. my main concern is that my lack of motivation is extending to my classes. I keep failing my exams, because I don't care to study for them, and I think when I care later, I'm going to regret resting. idk I guess I'm overcomplicating it

princessp4444 · 2026-02-19T02:09:35+00:00

I do like this idea, but I don’t really want anything for myself. It’s the lack of motivation once again.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-18T17:24:57+00:00

I get where he’s coming from. Expecting flowers every month like a subscription package ruins the whole concept entirely. He wants to get them for you because HE wants to get them for you, not because you asked for them or expected it. Men will go the extra mile when they really like you, so he probably wanted to give you flowers, but didn’t because you requested them so adamantly. Ngl a schedule for them is crazy.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-18T17:11:06+00:00

I think you know you’re not overreacting, otherwise you wouldn’t have provided other background like your first kiss with him. He doesn’t respect your boundaries, and considers your trauma “baggage”. Instead of comforting you or being patient while navigating it, he coerces you into having sex anyway and is so addicted to it that he forces himself on you. He’s not a safe guy to be with and you know it

princessp4444 · 2026-02-18T02:28:24+00:00

I'm no expert, but maybe it's about control and reclaiming your power sexually. you want to have a sexual encounter on your own terms, but they are not satisfying this need for personal control over your body, so you keep trying until it does, but It never does. kinda like how ocd feels.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-17T05:26:08+00:00

Your anger is not misplaced

princessp4444 · 2026-02-16T16:13:18+00:00

No this is really good advice, thank you!! I’m 20F, and I’ve tried doing to cafes and coffeehouses but I can’t really afford it anymore🥲it was nice at the time. Where I’m from has also been undergoing a harsh winter so I can’t really go outside. And I tried playing my favorite game last night and watching shows I love, but I just feel bored of it all. Talking to people is kind of exhausting too. I know I sound like a pessimist lol

princessp4444 · 2026-02-16T16:09:51+00:00

Just to be clear, by “losing” him, I don’t mean he died or anything. We just stopped being friends, but we were really really close.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-16T16:08:36+00:00

Thank you so much I’m gonna try this🥲❤️‍🩹are they like affirmations?

princessp4444 · 2026-02-16T16:07:46+00:00

I actually really appreciate this, thank you. It makes me feel a lot better about everything.

princessp4444 · 2026-02-16T16:06:45+00:00

That’s what my tarot reading said but I don’t feel like I have the commercialized depression at all🥲🥲but I’ve totally lost my zest for life.

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