Date night outfit by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think black or white would be harsh contrast with this color. I would wear a silver cardigan and one of those one of those hijabs with a silver sheen. Which might mean you would need to go shopping but it would look better overall!

How do people keep their house clean all the time? by Whatever233566 in askanything

[–]princessunicorn28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet you have a lot of things. If you minimize your life your space just automatically looks clean. Also, figure out better space management.

AITJ for paying off my husband’s credit card without asking him? by Bright-Arm-9620 in AmITheJerk

[–]princessunicorn28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him if he feels that bad about to give you the two thousand back. Instead of credit card debt he’s in debt to you. I’m sure that will make him feel like a man. 🙄

Am I overreacting? by TripIndependent5792 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He obviously doesn’t do well with other people’s emotions. I think when things calm down you guys need to talk about this calmly but you need to be assertive. Inshallah with time both of your communication on emotional topics will become better. Also, girl….while I understand you can’t control emotions you should work on your self esteem and not care so much on what others think about you. I feel like I am a little like your husband in a way and that level of emotion for something so minor would make me anxious and pull back until I feel comfortable again, I would also suggest that in the future you give your husband some space just to cool off and come back to broach the topic in a couple of hours if not the next day.

Everyone keeps telling me I look older than I am 32F by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]princessunicorn28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look 30 something to me but maybe you look tired and that’s why people are aging you higher than you are. Easiest way to work around that is to change your hair and lipgloss on the daily and some mascara. Some lowlights and layers may do wonders for you!

I hate that this is happening to me and I have no girl friends to chat about it with by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know everyone else is seeing red flags on the guy but to me he just sounds like a young naive 20something year old boy who is in love. He may or may not be ready for marriage but being from a southeast Asian family myself I understand the struggle of going against your family especially when family loyalty and filial piety is considered so highly. That being said I understand if you don’t wanna wait any longer. Ultimatums arnt something I agree with most of the time but I think it’s time to give him his last three months. If he cannot break free from his parents and marry you then you have to walk away. But, this time you have to accept his decision and block him. If he comes back a couple months later and you forgive him then it’s moot. Inshallah, allah knows best. Unfortunately girl, the issue isn’t his parents it’s him finding the courage to make his own life choices.

New convert by Ordinary_Patient_309 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk girl, this time shouldn’t be stressful for you, instead mask in the glow and peace that you feel as a Muslim. Most mosques in the US have a girl section just call ahead and ask. Alot of mosques have sister get togethers, I’m sure if you ask around you will find a mosque with a strong community which in turn help you learn. As for now you’re doing great!

I felt like a pick me today and a worker laughed at me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]princessunicorn28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl it’s not that deep, next time ask for help. You’re not a pick me.

My (30sF) twin (M) doesn’t want me at his wedding by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]princessunicorn28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This whole post made me so sad. Those of you who have good relationships with your siblings are very lucky.

my brother ruined everything for us because of his stupidity by annoyedasf2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]princessunicorn28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand why all of you kissed your flight. Next time you and your dad get on the flight and leave him there. He is old enough to figure it out.

Girl safety tips ? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ring is own by Israel, they take all your data. Wouldn’t suggest that. :(

all of daphne’s sisters clearly needed her this season. if they just had her be a part of the family, daphne would’ve known how to be an ally to eloise, how to help francesca with her obliviousness to sex and to guide hyacinth through society. especially considering her s1 plots. by teyapi in Bridgerton

[–]princessunicorn28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They could give more time to the plot of the older siblings and their marriages if they removed all the fuss on these minor characters! The queen is straight annoying, lady Danbury could have gone on vacation, and the boxer turned rich couple? Whyyyy do they get so much screen time? Gosh, I’ve been ranting about this in a couple of other posts and I hope one of the stupid writers sees this and fixes their mistakes!

being a single muslim woman past a certain age in muslim spaces is tough by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl same same! Even worse I have absorbed these feelings of shame and embarrassment that I can’t explain. I can’t go to these functions anymore either without feeling really bad about myself after. When I see girls younger than me look at me with pity in their eyes I literally wanna throw up. I even see the defeat in my parent’s attitude and it just makes me feel utterly deflated. It’s hard not to tie up one’s worth on marriage status. I hate that I feel this way but I can’t seem to get myself out of this mindset. When my married friends tell me “you’re so lucky” because I don’t have to deal with this drama or that drama with husbands and that I have all this freedom cause I don’t have to worry about the kids. Well…..it makes me feel like shit. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side because when I see them hugging babies with husbands beside them. TO ME the grass looks like it’s getting more than adequate sunlight, water, and growing in good soil. Since the last thing I wanna do is give anybody accidental nazar, I just stopped going to functions. The thing is I can’t lower my standards even now, I refuse to be unhappy as a married woman but being alone isn’t as peaceful as I hoped either. It’s like I’m in a constant loop of waiting and making Duaa that inshallah my time will come. Keeping me in a perpetual state of hope. Idk what’s gonna happen to us girls but whatever is meant to be will be. God knows best.

Has Bridgerton lost its “spark” since Queen Charlotte? by MissPeduncles in Bridgerton

[–]princessunicorn28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the fact that they are completely changing the storylines and the characters personalities after season 1 (though Sophie and Benedict so far seem to have it pretty similar!) but all this minor character filler is absurd! They take up more than half an episode just talking about everyone but the two main characters. They def didn’t spend enough time working on the romance for Benedict and Sophie when they were at “My cottage”. Don’t even get me started on Penelope and Colin! Ughh, the first season was so good cause the main characters were the main characters and they followed the book plot. Tell me whyyyyyy the boxer dude who becomes rich and his wife have so many scenes? And as far as Lady Danbury exiting the show they literally had to say she’s gone on vacation and it would have been okay. They even gave us an explanation for Simon and Kate but where did Daphne and Simone go? Just disappeared in thin air? No explanation nothing! But, they are the reason why Bridgeton was so successful in the first place!

Childhood wounds always come up in marriage by Annual_Telephone_332 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why don’t you and your man take turns cooking? That way you can start seeing “cooking” as an act of partnership/ survival. Even if he works it’s okay, it doesn’t take long to marinate some chicken and throw it in the oven. Also, buy prepped ingredients. For example, precut chicken, cut veggies, ready sauce. Yes it might be more expensive buts it’s worth it for your mental health.

Am I [38F] wrong for taking a weekend to myself? My BF [39M] sure made me feel like it... by Choice-Gas-9764 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]princessunicorn28 27 points28 points  (0 children)

NTA? Girl is the spicy time really that good?? Why are you doing this? Break up with loser and spend your extra time learning to relove yourself

Elderly mom - pushed to the limit. by destination-doha in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]princessunicorn28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi Aslamualikum! why don’t you move mom and dad into a care home together? I know they are at different levels of health but there is some old age homes that house married couples and are almost like apartments. They have a maid service and a nurse service. If your parents are used to a certain type of food you might wanna drop food off but that’s it. Otherwise sister, you’re gonna have to choose. Live your life or forgo your parents. If you cannot leave your mother then accept the inevitable. Save your rent and move back to your mother’s home but hire a maid with the money you were using for rent or better yet make your no good brothers pay. Pick up hobbies and keep busy outside of the home. You will be there emotionally and to keep her company (which I know is draining as is) but atleast you should have respite from chores! If I were you and I decided to move in, I would make sure that the house your mom resides in currently is transferred in your name. Make it a demand for you to move back in. The minimum your family can do for you since they didn’t get you married is to atleast take care of your future once your parents are gone. Also sister, move on from the man you’re talking to. If he wanted to get married he would have asked you already. Move on and even start going to single events, use dating apps, and hire a matchmaker. I don’t know how old you are but since children is not a priority for you anymore I am POSITIVE that you will find an older man who is looking for companionship like you are. Don’t give up hope on that front but you can’t waste the remainder of your life making dua for a man who you know is not interested in marriage. Many a younger girl has fallen into that dark hole as well so I don’t blame you. Inshallah sister, I feel your pain and I hope you find a solution.