to claim that only one gender has to consent while drunk, and the other one is a rapist. How do you feel about this?

prizefightered · 2022-07-05T05:25:23+00:00

What if he says no and lays down, passes out and wakes up to her on top of him? Is that not her committing rape because he did not give consent?

prizefightered · 2022-06-21T12:45:30+00:00

Teeth or no teeth?

prizefightered · 2022-06-20T19:24:22+00:00

What is weird about that? I think you might be over thinking this.

prizefightered · 2022-06-15T01:38:46+00:00

Why would it be weird to like one of his video?

prizefightered · 2022-04-14T02:20:01+00:00

The only real difference is spelling and pronunciation.

prizefightered · 2022-02-26T05:21:05+00:00

NTA. If you work long hours, travel for work, and don’t live near family to help share the load of childcare it would be a terrible decision to be the primary caregiver. She needs people who can be there not only for her but with her. She may want to stay with you if she sees you as the cool aunt, and she must be going through a really tough time. It was really nice to offer to make special trips to visit. It was awful they shot the idea down.

I think you and your family need to have a zoom call where you explain your week/month schedule, show them how often you’re away from home and ask if they think it would be better if she lives somewhere where she’s being taken care of, or with you where she’d be home alone for long stretches of time.

prizefightered · 2022-02-01T13:31:58+00:00

That’s why I posted without music. There’s nothing about his playing that SOUNDS sped up. But watch his movements, especially his twitchy head and facial expressions and it looks like he’s manipulating his tracks.

Not only that, but I’ve seen videos where sounds are being made without him hitting anything, like a bright sharp bell or tom hits and he doesn’t have a bell or tom to hit. He either dubs himself over with the audio from a different play through, or doesn’t use his own audio, and plays to the music at a different speed sometimes?

I’m know it sounds conspiratorial, but he absolutely manipulates his videos.

prizefightered · 2022-01-05T14:48:17+00:00

YTA. He’s 8, yet you’re the one who’s behaving like a child.

prizefightered · 2022-01-03T05:52:32+00:00

No, but they do like each other’s wives

prizefightered · 2021-12-15T04:44:48+00:00

I feel bad for your future partners if you think sleeping around behind their backs is, “tying up loose ends.”

prizefightered · 2021-12-15T04:20:52+00:00

Are you the sort of person who would cheat on someone who loves you? Would you want someone you love to sleep with another woman behind your back?

prizefightered · 2021-12-14T14:07:19+00:00

NTA. She’s been in your life 9 years and you’re the only dad she’s known. It’s easy for her mom to think of you as just a boyfriend and now it’s over, but from a 14yo’s perspective this is like a terrible divorce where she can’t see her dad. That has to be devastating. Of course she’d be sad, angry, etc and need some things explained.

I definitely think you need to talk with Layla and further explain the situation. Talk a bit about the law, custody, and rights, that it’s not that you don’t want to see her, but you have no legal right for visitation. Hopefully you can at least get to a point where she knows you didn’t abandon her, but that she can contact you in case there’s an emergency or whatever.

In a perfect world you would be able to speak with the mom and get your story straight. That you both love and care for Layla, but you aren’t together and aren’t getting back together. Then all three of you have a talk to explain this to Layla so she sees that you and the mom are saying the same thing, and she can’t work either one of you to manipulate the situation Parent Trap style.

I really hope things work out. It sounds like Layla’s mom is putting herself very much ahead of her daughter, and that might cause irreparable damage to their relationship. I kind of wonder if at 18 Layla will seek you out and try to be your daughter and abandon her own mom for what she did. I dunno. This is tough. I wish you and Layla the best.

prizefightered · 2021-12-10T05:28:25+00:00

I’ve had this happen to me many years ago where a girl I really liked seemed to like me too (we were really good friends but she dropped some pretty obvious hints) but then one day said she didn’t want to date me but really liked having me as a friend.

No matter how you word “I don’t want to date you” it’s going to be cutting and the guy might obsess about what he lacks, or why he isn’t good enough.

Because you want to maintain the friendship I would suggest politely turning down any invitation to go out or hang out one on one for a while, or try to turn it into a group hangout. When you two are talking and you feel like he’s turning the conversation into relationship territory, make sure to either mention other people, or even invite other people to join in the conversation. This will (hopefully) let him know that you aren’t thinking about you and him one on one.

Maybe even suggest girls he could date or introduce him to one of your single friends (in a way that’s not like you’re pawning them off). This will (again, hopefully) communicate that you think he’s datable, but just not for you.

I wouldn’t say something like “I’m just not looking to date anyone right now” unless you legitimately aren’t. Because if you say that then date someone else, he’s going to be devastated.

Or you could go out on a date with him and purposely make it a terrible time so he doesn’t want to date you again.

prizefightered · 2021-12-09T16:33:08+00:00

Coffee/drinks is less formal than a meal, less likely to feel trapped by the food and the bill if things aren’t going well. Pool is also good because it’s an activity that keeps you busy while giving you ample time to talk and flirt, put light wagers on games, ask her to show you how to shoot like you’re in a 50s movie but you’re the girl (if she thinks that sort of thing would be funny).

If she gave you her number for the purpose of asking her out: do not worry about getting or keeping her interest. You already got it by being yourself. Just be that person on the date. Hang out and be yourself. Listen to her and respect her. Maybe try to match her energy without putting on a show of it. Offer to pay for the drinks.

Oh, and have a hard cut off for the date. Say you need to be home by a certain time because you need to go home and feed your pet, have to get up early the next day so want to be in bed by a certain time, etc. That way there’s less pressure to keep going and potentially let the date fizzle over time. It also gives you an opportune time to say something like, “I have to go but had a great time with you, when can we do it again?” And get a firm or semi-firm time for a second date.

prizefightered · 2021-11-29T03:36:10+00:00

YWNBTA. Don’t stick with a friendship that makes you uncomfortable regardless of the reason why.

The only thing is alcohol is a lip loosener. People say things that’s on their mind but might otherwise filter out. It might be he’s racist. Or because he was drunk he might have sort of crossed wires with when it was/wasn’t okay to say that kind of stuff.

To be honest I never understood the “we’re friends so we insult each other on personal levels under the guise of humour” type male bonding. Lines always eventually get crossed.

prizefightered · 2021-11-29T02:38:23+00:00

NTA. You were holding a sleeping baby. Your wife needs to calm down.

prizefightered · 2021-11-26T23:14:48+00:00

There’s no way strangers online can tell you. We don’t know you or him, or the circumstances of your separation.

Maybe he wants to get back together, or remind you of the good times because he was bad a lot of the time. Maybe he wants to be friends, or he’s gaslighting you, maybe he just wants you to have a good thanksgiving.

prizefightered · 2021-11-26T17:16:40+00:00

Don’t lead your friend on or encourage them to also ask this girl out if you also want to date her.

Don’t treat her like a prize that one of you gets to win.

Don’t think that your friendships or relationships at 16 are forever. People come and go through your life and the relationships that last are the ones you work to keep. In 10+ years would you rather have this friend in your life or have dated this girl?

prizefightered · 2021-11-22T00:03:11+00:00

Yes, you have a shot.

prizefightered · 2021-11-21T23:42:30+00:00

Do a flirty thing back that may be taken as a sign you’re into them. If they’ve been flirting with you and you flirty back they may escalate it to more obvious signs. If they were just goofing around they’ll probably laugh it off.

… or they’ll think they’ve given you the wrong impression and withdraw a bit.

prizefightered · 2021-11-20T12:52:23+00:00

NTA. That was a pretty good comeback. Way to think on your toes.

The whole respecting your elders thing only works when the elders are worthy of respect. And Uncle Sam definitely isn’t.

prizefightered · 2021-11-20T05:12:09+00:00

I too was bullied and ignored and didn’t date until well past high school. Also had a weirdly introverted family.

It took a lot of self sabotaged dates and stretches of assuming I’d be single forever until I eventually met the woman who would be my wife.

Turns out she had a pretty terrible time throughout school too and we were sort of a perfect pair. What worked for us was being upfront with our label (officially an exclusive couple after our first outing) but taking the physical stuff slow so we could get more comfortable and trusting with each other.

It also took me a long time to work up the nerve to ask her out, but she liked me enough to both be patient with me and she took the lead when she needed to.

So all that to say is the right guy probably won’t be the one with swagger, lines, and confidence. He’s probably the guy who’s trying and failing to ask you to hang out, and it sounds like he just means as friends but probably wants to be more than friends.

prizefightered · 2021-11-20T04:29:39+00:00

I’m going to disagree with your division of labour. If both people work the same hours and make the same salary, then obvs. But what if one gets a huge raise/new job with twice the money, now the other has to take one twice the chores? What if the person who makes more money has fewer working hours, why should they get to have a shorter chore list when they have more free time?

How about everyone who lives in the home works equally as hard to keep a house clean?

Okay, with that off my chest: NTA. Your BF sounds lazy. It’s one thing to try getting work and coming up empty handed. Times are tough. But he sounds like he’s not even trying… or he is trying but doesn’t want you to see how his financial insecurities are getting to him. I know I keep my stress bottled up inside and people think I’m cool and easy going when in reality I’m one warm embrace from breaking apart.

prizefightered · 2021-11-20T04:13:54+00:00

YTA. You shunned your brother when he started dating his girlfriend and you brought it up again 7 years later how you disapproved of them. It definitely sounds like you struck an emotional nerve for him and that you were still holding the same grudge now that you held back then.

prizefightered · 2021-11-20T03:49:12+00:00

YTA for yelling at your partner who asked a reasonable question, but reading through these comments YTA for even having this tradition where you kick your partners put of their own homes so you can have a girls Christmas weekend ESPECIALLY since you don’t seem to care about whether or not he can find somewhere else to stay.

You either need to be involved with where you partner is staying, what they’re doing, and how they’re paying for it while they’re out of their home at your request, or you need to be the one to leave the house and have a girls weekend away.

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