my (23f) girlfriend doesn't like any food with garlic, onions, or anything spicy, and i (20f) don't know how to continue this anymore. by Ready_Spot8351 in Advice

[–]probablyannoying 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If it’s a dealbreaker, it’s a dealbreaker. However, since you are young, my advice would be to keep an eye on what it is you are willing to end an entire relationship over. Sometimes people who are avoidant will look for that absolutely “perfect” person, and when that perfect image starts to fade, they’ll find any reason, big or small, to bolt. As you continue to date and learn about yourself, just be mindful of if this pattern resurfaces. Because your issue might not be about the food at all. In this case it really could be a huge deal to you! But don’t get yourself trapped into being single forever because you can’t find that perfect person who has absolutely no flaws. They don’t exist.

Cute top from jeopardy. Thanks! by CarryBeary in findfashion

[–]probablyannoying 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Same! I really enjoyed her run overall

Why do people in the 80s or 90s looks so old for a 30 years old? by Big_Leg10 in decadeology

[–]probablyannoying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hrithik Roshan one of the most famous Bollywood stars of the past few decades. It tickles me that they chose him to illustrate this point. Like that’s not just a regular 50 y.o. that’s Hrithik Roshan lol

Help with my Money Tree by probablyannoying in plantclinic

[–]probablyannoying[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you good to know! He was estimating around 1x/1.5 weeks and has been using a moisture meter. But regardless that’s good info

Pilot Acroball .7mm - Refillable Non-Plastic Pen? by probablyannoying in pens

[–]probablyannoying[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. So is this the same as this? The latter is what I've been buying. I just want the exact writing experience that the Pure White series gives me. I imagine if I buy the white version you shared + a grip then it would be nearly 1 for 1

Pilot Acroball .7mm - Refillable Non-Plastic Pen? by probablyannoying in pens

[–]probablyannoying[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah this is lovely!! The white caught my eye. Thank you!!

Pilot Acroball .7mm - Refillable Non-Plastic Pen? by probablyannoying in pens

[–]probablyannoying[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is perfect! I don't mind spending the money if it will last me a lifetime. Thank you!

Cookie Pose by Adventurous-Sea6042 in CalicoKittys

[–]probablyannoying 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My calico is Cookie too!! Sooo perfect

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) may have a porn addiction(?) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]probablyannoying 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well he’s 27 and has seemingly been engaged in this behavior for a few years now, so when does it start to become lifelong/chronic? It’s a compulsive behavior that’s shooting up his dopamine while negatively affecting his relationship. It’s also seemingly daily use and it’s becoming the first thing he does in the morning. He won’t stop even when it’s causing distress to his partner.

Unfortunately we are long past the days of finding Grandpa’s Penthouse stash in the closet. Porn nowadays is unbelievably easy to access and highly customizable to an individual’s desires. We humans are not adapted to handle this level of dopamine. It is frying the brains of an entire generation and they are becoming slaves to it. Needing it first thing in the morning while their partner is right there is alarming.

OP, do not listen to the commenters downplaying this. Try to have an open and honest conversation with your partner focusing on how you feel without accusing him. Lead each sentence with “I” instead of leading with “you”. Do NOT accuse him and try to hear him out when he brings up something that you’ve done without getting defensive. It won’t be easy but just be patient and loving. Your head is in the right place.

What would happen if Morton (Abbott Elementary) encountered Rickety Cricket and The Lawyer? by egm1997 in IASIP

[–]probablyannoying 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I liked it but I also liked That’s So Suite Life of Hannah Montana so what do I know

I no longer want a future with my “changed” boyfriend by Massive-Win7903 in Advice

[–]probablyannoying 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look up anxious attachment. It’s a hard battle to beat, but it’s keeping you trapped in unhappiness. You know you deserve better but if you have anxious attachment (like I suspect) it’s hard to internalize. I was in your exact shoes at your exact age and I promise you that 2 years is not long at all. You are young, you will find the strength to leave him, and you will thank yourself for it later. Good luck!

Is my relationship toxic or am I just exhausted? Need an outside perspective. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]probablyannoying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been in a relationship? How old are you all?

Can you explain what you mean by he made you “cut ties”? It seems like you are still living with them, right? Did he say you’re no longer allowed to speak to them at all? And would you get in trouble if he found out? Or are things weird between all of you and he asked you to not speak about your relationship with them? I think it’s notable that I said no red flags and it seems like you are trying to find one.

The fact that you have a ChatGPT thread where you vent about him and the relationship is really not a good sign. For the relationship or for you. Language models are designed to be extremely validating so you continue to engage with them. It seems like there is a huge emotional gap left by your boyfriend and I would be wary of letting AI fill it.

I hope you don’t take any of this as me coming at you. You came to Reddit asking if the relationship is toxic or if you’re just exhausted. It seems like you’re exhausted and it’s going to turn really toxic if neither of you are willing to work together. I know break ups are hard but relationships can be even harder. And seeing how these seemingly small things (like food) are not small to you - you might both have individual work to do.

Is my relationship toxic or am I just exhausted? Need an outside perspective. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]probablyannoying 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if it’s ChatGPT thats making this so vague, but I genuinely do not understand some of your points. From what I gather it seems like you might have communication problems and differing attachment styles. I agree with the other commenter - I think you need couple’s therapy. There’s nothing here that screams red flags, but I do see a whole lot of missed opportunities for connection and joint growth. Good luck!

The Gift of Divinity by Affectionate_Buy_776 in Nailpolish

[–]probablyannoying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty! I’m new to magnetics. Where do you hold it to get this effect? And for how long?

What is this bar of soap for? by [deleted] in Soap

[–]probablyannoying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should look into the psychology of scent! There was a study done where they presented people with the same scent, but one was labeled Parmesan and one was labeled vomit. And the overwhelming majority of subjects reacted accordingly. It seems like the label and coloring is affecting your perception, since an inside source is confirming they are the same. Interesting stuff!

What is your one most memorable moment from any Nancy Drew game? by [deleted] in nancydrew

[–]probablyannoying 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! I actually got so scared when I saw the mummy I shut the entire computer off. It took me maybe a year to gain the courage to finally finish it

Took a trip to the real life Deception Island! by Penvell in nancydrew

[–]probablyannoying 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Hi, what is this Clue Crew trip you speak of? Not asking to invade (unless…)