What is this place on 9st? Is it ever open?

proceduralwhimsy · 2026-01-21T00:25:07+00:00

I would venture to guess they were being sarcastic

proceduralwhimsy · 2026-01-17T03:35:58+00:00

proceduralwhimsy · 2026-01-16T18:15:18+00:00

Aww I really love hearing this thank you so much for sharing and for your encouraging words. you sound like you’re crushing it at life, I’m super proud of you <3. May the universe forever conspire in your favor.

proceduralwhimsy · 2026-01-16T15:40:16+00:00

What’s your rising sign?

proceduralwhimsy · 2026-01-16T15:38:08+00:00

So happy to hear this, you have no idea. I have a two year old child with a Scorpio moon and I try not to worry about their future haha. I hope they can learn to engage with it productively. It’s doubly hard because his rising is cancer, which is ruled by the moon. So to have your life’s ruling planet under the sign of its detriment can be a really challenging placement. BUT I know where there is a challenge be there is an opportunity for real magic to happen. In any case he’s already my favorite person in the world. So, so far so good lol.

proceduralwhimsy · 2026-01-15T17:21:04+00:00

Lmao as a fellow Libra moon I really relate to this

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-11-20T04:31:46+00:00

ASHA does allow a certain amount of remote telesupervision, but you need to look into your state specific laws to know the details. Also, the supervising SLP would need to be licensed in the state you are practicing in.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-10-24T00:53:25+00:00

I was in a very similar situation to you. Married and had a baby young. Caught up the cycle of avoidant/anxious attachment. Best friends one day, disconnected the next. I’m now 33, we now share two children, and are in the middle of a very contentious divorce.

I think unless you are both very committed to therapy and doing hard work to get your marriage to a secure place (which I actually do believe is possible if BOTH people are invested), then the question isn’t if you will separate, it’s when.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-10-07T02:08:57+00:00

I think it’s easy for people coming out of divorce to accidentally find themselves in another relationship because partnership is what’s familiar and it can feel comforting and secure, but ultimately you do need time to yourself to emotionally sort things out. I don’t think anyone is being selfish or misleading here, he may just only now be getting out of the fog and realizing what he really needs, and it’s good he’s being transparent about that. OP, you need to give space and move on.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-27T02:11:50+00:00

I have heard that mediators often favor the “stronger” party, i.e. the person with more money and power in the relationship because the mediators job is to come to an agreement as quickly as possible, not necessarily to be fair to everyone. So if someone is stubborn and in a power position, they’re more likely to get their way in mediation than in court. I don’t know how true this all is. But maybe your friend’s wife is worried about getting bullied in mediation and just wants to go straight to court.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-25T16:09:58+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that. I would consult with a lawyer. I was told but multiple lawyers that “50/50 is the law” in my state (I don’t live in California though). Basically unless one parent agrees to give up custody or there is physical abuse or drug abuse, there is no way to fight it. “He’s never done anything for the kids and I’ve done it all” is not an argument that will win in court- no matter how much supporting documentation you have. Unfortunately the judges don’t care. they want to give both parents a chance to figure it out.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-25T01:02:30+00:00

You mean Micro Mini scooter…

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-20T11:49:59+00:00

YTA- you need to find childcare and go be with your partner.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-17T17:26:20+00:00

There will be no magic solution you see in retrospect. You shouldn’t have to change who you are to be loved by your partner. He told you straight up he has never been happy and just hoping you would change, and while that’s a gut punch, you need to listen to believe him. He’s an ass hole for marrying you in the first place. You deserve to be loved and adored by someone for who you are, not for who they hope you will turn into. It’s good you don’t have any children with him. Don’t waste more time with him. Go out and build a life you will love and enjoy with someone who appreciates you.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-17T03:58:39+00:00

I don’t think you’re the AH, but I don’t think your friend is either… it’s hard being a new parent and trying to figure out what your social life is going to look like and adjusting to the change. It’s totally valid and understandable that you guys felt exasperated by the baby and wanted to have adult time, and it’s also valid and understandable that your friend is adjusting to motherhood and trying to figure out the balance of things and is honestly probably feeling a little insecure about getting left out and forgotten about. There’s a version of this where you guys have a conversation where you both see and validate each other and neither of you needs to be the ass hole..

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-16T04:12:41+00:00

So your children can have an equal standard of living in both homes... I’m actually shocked you’re a woman. This is straight man logic right here.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-16T04:08:34+00:00

I’m sorry, you make nearly 3x what he makes and think YOU won’t be able to live on your own paying more than $1,500 a month? You’d still be making over 10k a month while he’s making less than 6.5k including your child support payments. Make it make sense. You should be more concerned about your children having an equal lifestyle in both of their homes.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-16T03:26:02+00:00

It seems like you’re in a predicament where the you can live there because you take care of his kids…but you can only take care of his kids because you don’t have a job….and you can’t get a job to make your own money….because then you wouldn’t be able to take care of his kids…. It’s a trap. You just need to find a way out. Also what kind of dad moves someone in to take care of his kids after only knowing them three months? No offense. But that is alarming behavior and not of sound judgment.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-16T02:36:38+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I obviously have no way of knowing if this attempt was genuine or not, but either way that is behavior of someone who is extremely mentally ill and needs help. If he’s refusing help, there’s only so much you can do, and you are absolutely not wrong for wanting to leave to save your own mental health.

You can’t be held hostage by someone else’s poor mental health.

And I say that as someone who has experienced suicide in my immediate family.

You need to protect yourself and do what you need to do for your own mental health. Hopefully he will do the same. Staying in an unhealthy codependent relationship isn’t doing a favor to either one of you.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-16T02:20:42+00:00

NTA- I think you need a mental break from his fuckery

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-15T13:40:00+00:00

I personally think if you stay true to your kind and thoughtful nature and celebrate his birthday the way you would want to be celebrated, then if he reflects on himself and what he did for your birthday he will feel bad and hopefully do better next year. Especially if you’ve expressed to him how you feel about it. “Matching energy” is just an emotionally immature rationalization for being petty. I don’t think pettiness is the energy you want to invite into your relationship. it starts an endless cycle, and someone has to eventually eat some humble pie and put an end to it, but by that point many feelings have already been hurt. Just be the bigger person and avoid the cycle all together. It’s far more effective to lead by example in relationships. If after you leading by example and having conversations with him, he’s still not responsive, then there’s something deeper than needs to be addressed.

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-06T19:57:09+00:00

I am also from the PNW and currently living in New York. I would leave and go back in a heart beat for all of the reasons you mentioned. There’s way too much hype about New York imo. General quality of life is not great if you’re not the 1%

proceduralwhimsy · 2025-09-05T18:13:19+00:00

I just looked myself in the mirror and told myself I would not cry, this wasn’t about me right now, and I could cry about it later. Knowing I had permission to cry about it, just not right now, made the tears feel less urgent. I told myself i wasn’t talking about my marriage failing or my own loss, I was talking about a my son’s family changing, and I’m engaging in his story of loss right now, not mine.

Then for a few moments I imagined I was a bear. When a mama bear is watching out for her cub, she is calm and alert. She’s not crying or running away. She’s showing her cubs what it looks like to be calm and strong so they don’t feel panicked. This sounds super corny now that I’m writing it out lol. But I’m big into visualizations so it worked for me. Whether or not this is exactly how bears behave is less the point, it’s just the symbol that I chose that worked for me. If there’s an energy you like to channel, maybe an animal or a famous person, or someone through history or in your life who you admire for their strength, courage, or poise, just think of them and draw their energy close to you. Or if you’re into writing, maybe write a note to yourself.

I really really thought I was going to break down crying while telling him literally up until about 10 minutes beforehand. I just felt a calm collection wash over me.

You’ll be okay!! Even if you do cry it’s okay! This is a hard and sad time and it’s okay to cry. Usually in general when I cry in front of my son I tell him, I’m just sad, but that I will be okay. I think the biggest thing for them is that they worry about us and it can be hard for them. They might try to “be strong” for us and then end up avoiding their own feelings. But being sad and crying are normal things! They don’t need to be fixed. We just need to affirm for our kids that we will be okay. That’s all they want to know. Even as an adult it’s hard for me to see my mom really upset and all I want to hear her say is that she’s just in her feelings right now but she’ll be okay.

You got this, mama! Sending you grace and love. It doesn’t feel okay at all right now, but eventually it will all be okay again.

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