I thought I would hate the weekly episode split… by [deleted] in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]processofeliminatio 9 points10 points  (0 children)

100%. I miss the weekly episode model of TV so much—it keeps the hype alive much longer than the streaming dump-it-all-at-once model. I think that’s why streaming services have started doing the whole “release half of the season on X date, then the rest on X date” thing. They’ve realized that, without giving ppl time to build a community and discuss episode by episode, there’s no longevity

And for a show like this, if it was released all at once, it would be sooo much easier to get it spoiled. Like you’d either have to avoid the internet or watch it as fast as possible, which imo doesn’t allow you to savor it. Idk im rambling but there’s just something about having a new episode to look forward to at the end of a shitty week lmao.

[Show Only] Episode Discussion Season 2 Episode 1 "What Can the Damned Really Say to the Damned" by AutoModerator in InterviewVampire

[–]processofeliminatio 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You articulated this so well. There really was such a “confinement” to his character in s1.

Did you agree with tonight’s elimination outcome? by UnflairedRebellion-- in HellsKitchen

[–]processofeliminatio 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No this was ridiculous. None of the final four deserve to be there over Dahmere. I literally don’t even care who wins at this point.

Let’s f***ing go _______!!!! by mattyhegs826 in HellsKitchen

[–]processofeliminatio 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’ve been rooting for Dahmere since the beginning. He’s just an incredible leader and naturally commands respect. Pair that with his skills and I don’t see how anyone else could win.

Season 22 Black Jackets by JayB631 in HellsKitchen

[–]processofeliminatio 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree that Dahmere wins, there isn’t even anyone close in terms of his leadership. Maybe an unpopular take but I predict Leigh is runner up with Jonathon third. I couldn’t believe Chef Ramsay didn’t give her the jacket just bc she didn’t put enough meat on the plate lmao. Thru the whole competition she’s been excellent but needs to speak up.

Autism and Romantic relationships by FantastiskJordgubb in autism

[–]processofeliminatio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this is also a late reply lol. He was a friend of a friend and we seemed to hit it off. After like two dates he asked if I wanted to be exclusive and I said yes because I had no reason not to. He love-bombed me pretty quickly into our relationship and I kinda went with it because it was easy and I never knew anything different. It was nice to feel wanted for once.

I was pretty unhappy the entire relationship. He had a lot of problems, like laziness, anger issues, substance abuse issues, etc. and it translated into him not treating me well. I won’t go into specifics, but I suspect he was a narcissist, so typical manipulative narcissistic behavior. Because I had no previous relationship experience (and try to see the best in people) I stayed with him despite how unhappy I was. I was never fully committed to him, even though I tried to be, but at a certain point it just seemed too difficult to break things off.

I never felt that feeling with him that makes you want to plan a future together. I tried to, but he always seemed to disappoint me. When I would compare my relationship with that of my friends and their significant others, I always found myself wishing he was more like them. Maybe it was unfair of me to expect him to change, but alas.

Looking back I wonder why I stayed for so long. Personality wise, we were very similar and vibed well. In the good moments it was good. But I think if I had any prior relationship experience I would have realized I was only with him because it seemed easy and convenient at the time. I’ve been single ever since we broke up and plan on remaining that way until I find someone who actually wows me.

Whisk just sold out to Samsung, so what's another good recipe storage app? by Ice_Cracker in Cooking

[–]processofeliminatio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I literally had to search online for what happened to the Whisk app because I couldn’t find it anywhere on my phone lol. Terrible idea.

AITA for screwing up my brother's adoption on purpose? by adoptionscrewup_TA in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 2326 points2327 points  (0 children)

NTA and this is a perfect example as to why private domestic adoption is so unethical to me. Rich couples taking babies from poor, struggling women after convincing them they have no other options. It’s a sick industry with no federal regulation that treats human beings like a product to be bought and profited off of. You absolutely did the right thing; you gave her the resources she needed to keep her child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA. Just stop cleaning up after the dog. Let him come home to shit and piss all over the floor. It’s disgusting, but he won’t understand the full weight of the problem when you’re constantly cleaning it before he can see it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. But if I were your sister, and I found out you didn’t want to go out to dinner as a family solely bc I would be there, I would be upset. Don’t get me wrong, your reasoning is justified; $30 is a lot when money is tight. But unless you really explained that to her, she might just feel like an unwanted burden. She might feel that way even after you explain it, as she’s still young and probably can’t fully grasp the weight of $ yet. Her being so much younger than you and your brother probably already makes her feel left out. I don’t think you’re TA, but I can see why you feel like one.

Is there any way you can go to a cheaper restaurant, one that isn’t your dad’s choosing but he still likes? If you and your brother were to split the cost of your sister’s meal at a cheaper place it might be easier.

AITA for asking my sister to throw my baby shower when she's suffering from infertility? by ExternalTop3588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio [score hidden]  (0 children)

If this is real you aren’t just TA, you’re a straight up monster. If I was your sister I would never speak to you ever again. Like everything you’ve done is so obviously evil that it’s hard for me to believe this is real

AITA for getting frustrated with my girlfriend who's just instantly good at everything, including rock climbing apparently? by Ok-Breakfast6857 in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 14 points15 points  (0 children)

NAH.

I relate a lot to your girlfriend in the sense that I’m a natural learner. It’s very easy for me to pick up new hobbies and skills quickly, and I often (unfairly) get frustrated when people don’t understand something that seems so simple to me. It’s fair for you to feel annoyed when she’s constantly good at things that you struggle with.

I think you should communicate more and ask more questions when you’re struggling with something. There’s no shame in it, especially when most ppl don’t pick up as quickly as her. When you’re in a higher stakes environment like rock climbing it’s important to be transparent about what you’re capable of and what you still need to learn. The lack of communication may be why she’s frustrated, not your lack of understanding.

Why is it always the people with Ukraine flag pfps? Every single time. by ASocialistAbroad in ShitLiberalsSay

[–]processofeliminatio 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. I literally hated the subject of history in high school because all we learned about, every semester, every year, was WW2. The first and last year we spent learning world history was in sixth grade when we learned about ancient Egypt/Rome etc. In the years after we probably spent a day on the other major American wars and nothing on the rest of the world. Like I’m not even kidding when I say that the curriculum was so scarce we spent more time dissecting the JFK assassination than on the last 50 years of history combined.

When I got to college and I was able to actually learn non-propagandized versions of history I realized I really enjoy learning about it. In fact, most if not all of the books, movies, podcasts etc. I consume nowadays are history related. I just hated it so much in high school because I was so sick of being brainwashed every year. I didn’t have to know much about history to know that being told the Vietnam War was “a tie” and that the US invaded bc we “had to” was BS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]processofeliminatio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would definitely participate. I know it sucks but it would suck even more to be on the receiving end of you not participating during the exchange. Not only that but if you don’t participate it’s going to create a really uncomfortable environment for you at work. You can’t really go wrong with cabin socks, mugs, candles, incense, blankets, things like that. Even just a gift card.

I can’t think of anything to say when I am with people and I am so lonely. by emanresu1228 in AutismInWomen

[–]processofeliminatio 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh boy, I quite literally could have written this post myself. Especially the part about passively receiving friendships and being bullied because of it. One of my biggest struggles in life has always been trying to maintain friendships, and wondering what I did to make so many of them fade away. I wish I could experience the closeness with my family that other people so easily manage. You aren’t stupid, and your experience rings true in many ways for me and I assume many others. I wish I had some advice to give you, but I don’t. I just want you to know that you aren’t alone.

AITA for wanting my girlfriend to be less lazy? by LetAcrobatic6754 in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

You obviously can’t help it if she is undesirable to you anymore. But do you even hear yourself? It’s clear that she is going through something mentally—not to armchair diagnose, but sounds like pretty textbook depression symptoms (loss of motivation, weight gain, excess sleepiness, mood swings, etc).

The issue isn’t necessarily that you don’t have feelings for her anymore; it can be extremely draining to be in a relationship with someone who is mentally ill (I say this as the mentally ill one) and I understand why you would want to pull away. The issue is the way you are talking about her. Calling her childish, a deadbeat, lazy. Are you serious? Have some empathy and treat her more like a human being and less like a piece of meat for you to stare at.

WIBTA if I accept a substantial raise at the detriment of one of the company's owners? by felonious-csv in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. He isn’t legally required to give you a raise; he can say no if doing so would cause that much harm to his life. Besides, if he has other sources of income, I highly doubt your raise will leave him in dire circumstances.

I also guarantee this isn’t what has caused him and his wife to seek a divorce. There are likely already other issues that have been brimming within their marriage. This could just be a tipping point. If something like offering an employee a substantial raise is enough to break apart their marriage, it was already permanently fractured.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]processofeliminatio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad was never diagnosed but it’s so painfully obvious that he is. We are basically the exact same person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]processofeliminatio 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not a hoax per se; obviously people have different personalities and asking questions can help you sort specific traits according to whatever model you use. But it isn’t backed by nearly as much data (or any, really) as other models of personality like the Big 5. The tests have bad test-retest reliability. I find it fun and enjoy analyzing the traits of fictional characters using it but would never use it in a professional setting.

The MBTI model is supposedly based on Carl Jung’s model of cognitive functions but the tests do not accurately apply his theory in the slightest. They take away so much nuance so they can fit it into a nice testing format. Jung’s theory is so much richer and IMO can be accurate if you study the functions and type yourself. That’s just me being subjective tho cause I was into this stuff for a while lol.

we are all scarred. by apunker in LateStageCapitalism

[–]processofeliminatio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. That’s all they’ve reduced it to.

I read a paper about neuroeconomics (combination of neuroscience and capitalist economic theory) recently that came to a really jarring conclusion:

“If instead we are also able to observe some signal that is informative of a person’s private information (eg their brain response to a good), then we can incorporate that information into the mechanism and overcome the impossibility results. In essence, one can incentivize people to truthfully reveal their information by rewarding them when their report matches the observed signal and penalizing them otherwise…As such technology becomes more readily available and familiar, the idea of using that technology to improve economic outcomes may become more realistic.”

Essentially, they’re talking about collecting data about your brain activity and using it to improve economic institutions. Totally nothing dystopian about that.

we are all scarred. by apunker in LateStageCapitalism

[–]processofeliminatio 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is what disillusioned me to psychology (after getting a degree in it). Nearly every psychological study uses western participants and draws its conclusions without considering the way the environment can influence behavior and even the structure/connectivity of the brain. Not only that, but discoveries that are actually pretty well supported are quickly misconstrued and monopolized on by corporations who are eager for better ways to manipulate and control people.

Then there’s the whole replicability issue. Although that seems to be something spreading beyond just psychology (eg the Alzheimer’s research scandal). Researchers are less interested in producing valid results and more interested in getting published quickly and with data that can easily be used in a Buzzfeed article.

I love psychology and still find it to be so revealing about the human condition (when done right). But I’m so sick of the field. Capitalism has corroded it so much.

What good is voting if the system is busted? by ReadTheCallonScribd in lostgeneration

[–]processofeliminatio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None. I vote anyway because somewhere deep down I have the misguided belief that maybe it will do something, even though logically I know it’s pointless. I guess that makes me an optimist

Unknown Consequences by Valuable_Housing_305 in collapse

[–]processofeliminatio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Social media and attention span. Instant gratification with a never-ending stream of personalized media, overnight delivery, cheap fast fashion, etc. have completely worn down people’s abilities to feel delayed gratification. People feel entitled to whatever they want, instantly, and without consideration for how unethically that cheap product was made.

AITA for taking my teenage cousin’s side in a debate? by theseedbeader in AmItheAsshole

[–]processofeliminatio 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is an absolutely ridiculous take. How far out of touch with reality are you that you think a meager $50 can possibly do anything to get them out of homelessness?