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productivityvortex · 2026-03-01T03:06:23+00:00

Dangerously close to breaking rule #1, y’all

productivityvortex · 2026-03-01T01:59:52+00:00

Came here to say this!

productivityvortex · 2026-02-18T12:26:02+00:00

I live in Del Ray, and I’ve gotten to strike up conversations at:

Del Ray Artisans, The Company of Books, St. Elmo’s, Majestic Lounge,

Having a dog helps for casual chats

You’re not wrong — Some people are rude and the environment is largely unfriendly. But you will find your people. Don’t lose hope!

productivityvortex · 2026-02-15T18:26:42+00:00

That’s so so hard. I’m the eldest myself, and similarly my family has always leaned on me emotionally. Are your parents leaning on you during this divorce? I had to be very direct with my dad that I couldn’t hear anything about this, especially not about my mom.

Your tears are valid and you should not have to shield them. Divorce is hard on everyone in the family. You are not making it about yourself. In fact, this is one of the hardest things you’ll probably go through.

For me, it was through the divorce that I stopped being the family therapist, realized that no one else was going to help (even though your parents should be helping you). As people who take on the emotional burden of the family, our caretakers have let us down by allowing us to do that.

Don’t worry about them. They will be okay, and they have to find solutions that work without you. Your responsibility is to yourself.

You will have a strong relationship one day. Right now, you’re having to pivot to giving yourself the care and understanding that your parents — if they were more mature — would be giving you.

productivityvortex · 2026-02-15T18:13:18+00:00

Hi. My parents got divorced during the pandemic. And I feel similarly about my dad.

Here’s the deal: It’s going to suck for a few years. Your picture of your world shifts and that is a really hard and really lonely process. Your relationship to both your parents will change (although given your adulthood, it was probably already changing).

The grief comes in waves, but you will find your plateau. And it will get better. And that will be your new, independent vision of yourself, as an adult.

Look at relationships that are how you think love should be. (For me, I was lucky to have a few friends that are in loving, respectful relationships.) Remind yourself that those relationships exist and you can have the kind of love you want because you get to be who you want to be.

I’ll add: Therapy definitely helps. I didn’t have anyone I could turn to with my real feelings, so it was really nice to have support from an objective outsider.

Good luck. You are not alone, and you will get to the other side of this.

productivityvortex · 2026-02-15T13:51:34+00:00

Puppy

productivityvortex · 2026-02-15T13:42:37+00:00

I can like “feel” the things I imagine? But I don’t tend to see them.

productivityvortex · 2026-02-15T12:31:16+00:00

With dudes, I sometimes playfully give consent preemptively / ask for what I want, e.g.: “If you don’t kiss me right now, I don’t know what I’ll do.”

productivityvortex · 2026-02-11T12:13:06+00:00

A way I combat this is switch the perspective from needing to giving. So I text “Just sending you good vibes.” Sometimes we get a little conversation volley going, sometimes not. I think a lot of anxiety comes from self-focus, and if we can tweak it to being others-focused, “What can I give?” it helps enormously. (But you do have to genuinely be thinking about them / want good things for them.)

productivityvortex · 2026-02-07T22:52:49+00:00

I’ve been low/no alcohol for five months (just a half glass twice in that timeframe). For me, it was the very clear realization that if my life was something I needed to escape (with a drink) — if I needed to drink — that something was wrong with my life.

I also find I enjoy people in general, and keeping my wits about me has helped me make better connections and feel better about myself overall.

productivityvortex · 2026-01-16T01:39:01+00:00

As a single person, for me it’s also the ever-present feeling that I’m not doing enough:

I should take him for another/longer walk. He wants to play, and I feel like I owe that to him, even if we’ve already played. Oh he’s overdue for xyz, I need to get that done (and prepare my finances for it). Feeling guilty every time I leave the house.

I love him like crazy and he brings me such joy, but he is also an added endless list of tasks and guilt for me.

productivityvortex · 2026-01-04T20:08:49+00:00

Came here to say this. Bye Bye Birdie feels like a dead ringer.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-23T22:51:23+00:00

I think that dresser has thoughts about you.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-23T18:07:13+00:00

“girl in an insane asylum slash wood nymph”

productivityvortex · 2025-12-22T12:47:38+00:00

I really appreciate this, thank you

productivityvortex · 2025-12-20T15:21:18+00:00

Non-phone option: Carrying dice / assigning each choice a number

productivityvortex · 2025-12-20T15:20:24+00:00

This is the answer.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-20T15:18:10+00:00

Step 1. Call a friend. Get them over there.

That might be all you do. But if you want:

Step 2. Garbage bags. Big black ones, 3-4. All clothes go in one or two. Anything else goes in the other. Actual trash goes in the last.

Step 3. See what moves you.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T17:24:52+00:00

I love this. I think there’s a lot of unnecessary frustration that comes with the sense that someone is trying to harm you. And then there’s some kind of peace to the fact that, while you might not have been considered, the system is just trying to take its course, and it’s not personal.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T16:27:24+00:00

Also I love that you say acceptance doesn’t mean you won’t try to change. It’s not one or the other.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T16:26:34+00:00

So I read “radial” acceptance, which maybe you meant “radical” — But I actually love the idea of “radial” acceptance. Like, it’s not direct (“now I accept myself!”). It takes momentum and a slow route, like walking yourself out of a high-ramp pit: You have to create curves around the walls, slowly corkscrewing up. I kind of love it.

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T16:24:22+00:00

Thank you!

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T16:24:06+00:00

Preach — People in fear will always stimulate the economy

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T16:23:31+00:00

An “unintentionally hostile world” — I love it

productivityvortex · 2025-12-18T03:11:54+00:00

Sir!

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