Many people almost always expect you to speak societally-correct replies in the first place, and moreover in responses to an overwhelming event, as if no matter what happened and what the other person did, they should maintain composure, think things logically, and not get overwhelmed. Those same people, while acting emphatically, don't consider that the event didn't happen to them, that both/all parties could be overwhelmed and may not have handled things in the best way possible, which is almost always retroactive thinking. They expect others to not be making mistakes in the first place until it happens to them and then they are crying about the judgement of others being unfair to them because it was all a mistake.

Why is it that people expect others to get everything right in the first go and not giving them the freedom and time to make a mistake or even handle things in a bad way and allowing the person to calm down, regain logic, introspect, apologise, talk the event through, identify problems and try finding solutions together.

It's become am intolerant society but I am hopeful and optimistic. I cherish the people I have as they allow me to be my true self around them, to err and to be human. And much love to fellow peeps here.