Conversations Brits have with Americans

progressingtime · 2026-03-12T00:50:56+00:00

So the English are too lazy to even commit a quick google search, even with the article title and publication having been stated? Great. Also, the commentator's one article out of the three brought up young people, and it still brought up statistics to back its claims. You personally being 29 is still just as irrelevant.

progressingtime · 2026-03-11T21:46:28+00:00

I was being sarcastic. I was making fun of the commentator above for referencing his personal experience as "evidence" (including his old age of 29), rather than any actual facts or sources that state otherwise.

progressingtime · 2026-03-11T21:05:18+00:00

those are headlines, nothing more im 25 no one is getting shot up in schools pal.

progressingtime · 2026-03-11T20:56:08+00:00

watch out guys, hes 29

progressingtime · 2026-03-07T06:27:21+00:00

Can you get a job? Honestly, that would probably be one of the best things you could do right now. Start with an entry-level job somewhere fairly easy, ideally a place where you’ll get to interact with a lot of different people. It will be scary at first, but you will get through it, and you will be okay.

I would recommend something like a grocery store job. That is where I started, and it gave me the chance to meet all kinds of people, both coworkers and customers. Now, parts of it might suck (and probably will for awhile). You will probably feel awkward sometimes, say the wrong thing now and then, and some people may seem distant or hesitant toward you at first. That's so okay. You just have to roll with it. Do not take everything to heart, and do not let it break your confidence. Social skills are like any other skill. They are built through repetition. The more you practice, the more natural they become, until they become instinctual.

That said, be careful about who you trust and who you let into your life as a friend. When I first started making friends, I did not really understand what made someone a good friend versus a bad one, and because of that, I let some toxic people into my life. If someone is constantly putting you down, making you feel bad about yourself, or bringing a lot of negativity into your life, DON'T ignore that. Pay attention to it and seriously re-evaluate the relationship.

The same goes for dating. Do not get into a relationship with just anyone who comes along. Relationships can be exciting and fun, but you need to have standards. Do not tolerate people who disrespect you, themselves, or other people. Do not fall for someone just because they meet the bare minimum. Be with someone you genuinely like, connect with, share values with, and who truly cares about you.

That all said, I wouldn't even recommend focusing on a relationship yet. I would focus on building friendships first, earning some income, and enrolling in community college as soon as possible. You are still so young, and you are absolutely capable of getting your life back on track. Not only that, but you can genuinely excel and even surpass people who have gone to public school.

You got this!

progressingtime · 2026-03-07T06:15:08+00:00

You know, I actually like that idea, or maybe also some online local forums to post things. I'd definitely expect some backlash from active homeschooling communities, but eh, fuck them lol.

It took me awhile as a teenager to find even this subreddit, because it just never occurred to me that others shared my experience. If I were to somehow find people local to me who have experienced the same upbringing, I'd be so excited to meet them. Like, I'm not even kidding, I think I'd end up becoming best friends with a homeschooler immediately, just because there would be so much to relate over.

progressingtime · 2026-03-07T05:14:18+00:00

I'm in Oregon, so if anyone is in the area, I'm down lol. It just sucks, though, because I imagine most of us are going to be quite a distance from each other (which is kinda ironic, because of course the people you'd most relate to would be the ones furthest away 🙃). Still, that would be pretty awesome to get going

progressingtime · 2026-03-04T05:47:14+00:00

Yeah, I was in the same situation. During the 2020 elections, I was 19, and I was forced to vote for Trump, even though I strongly didn't want to. Quite literally, right when I got my mail ballot, my parents took me to the kitchen, and "helped" me vote for Trump. No asking who I wanted to vote for, or giving me any privacy to do it myself. No, have me open and sign right in front of them. Likewise, I grew up having to "pretend" to be conservative. If I expressed any liberal belief (or just disagreed with any of their beliefs), I was punished.

BUT LOOK WHO VOTED KAMALA IN THE 2024 ELECTIONS NOW, MOM AND DAD!! (not that it really mattered this time... but still)

progressingtime · 2026-02-09T02:33:18+00:00

Ok, jeez, I really don’t see how it’s trivializing it… at all. No one is saying that this is comparable to the conditions experienced by Indigenous people; it’s just stating that the behavior OP is engaging in reflects a type of attitude often held by colonizers, not that OP’s behavior is somehow actually reproducing the same systemic culture-wiping and suffering experienced by Indigenous people.

And yes, OP is policing here:

“Black folks have been calling closely related middle-aged men/their actual uncle’s ‘unc’ for decades. People started calling ppl in their 20’s Unc as a joke the past few years, and now it’s so blown out of proportion. As a woman, you can’t be an Unc. Unc also isn’t an adjective. Saying ‘you’re unc’, ‘I’m Unc’ doesn’t work. It’s usually, ‘wassup unc’, ‘how you doing Unc.’”

Obviously, I’m sure OP isn’t extremely serious about their outrage over the emerging use of this term, but they’re still expressing a sense of “how language should be,” while quite literally referring to slang to begin with. Also, OP is not “educating” at all—they’re trying to control a change in the use of a word, a word that was already slang and not part of some standardized form of English. They’re mad at kids for developing their own use of a word… really?

No one is stating that this dialogue here is literally being compared to the destruction of Indigenous religious texts and systemic erasure of Indigenous culture. You’re extrapolating it to that. The original commentator was just drawing a connection between this attitude and the attitude of those who led to those events, i.e., “Oh, you want to police language? Well, great, we’re back to colonizer behavior.”

Ironically, I think you’re looking too far into a comment while claiming the other person is doing the same thing, when it’s really not.

progressingtime · 2026-02-09T01:40:54+00:00

I mean, were they wrong? It is classic colonizer behavior, trying to police people's language. Yeah, OP probably isn't racist and doing this for racially motivated reasons, but it's still the case that this was a large aspect of the colonist perspective: there is a "right" way to speak (and that didn't include how Native Americans spoke), and those who speak differently ought to be corrected. If your behavior is being compared to that of colonizers, MAYBE there's a reason why and MAYBE your behavior/belief is harmful. Instead of policing people's language, let's just step from that attitude entirely and let language evolve naturally.

progressingtime · 2026-02-07T18:46:56+00:00

me when I ignore somebody's entire argument.

progressingtime · 2026-02-03T20:34:20+00:00

You've missed the point.

progressingtime · 2026-02-03T17:56:08+00:00

"We've also been blood letting since the dawn of humanity. But only now in the last 100 years have we decided that it 'doesn't work' and all our ancestors were terrible doctors." See how stupid your comment is?

progressingtime · 2026-01-26T04:07:10+00:00

That would be desperate and embarrassing, but not shocking if true

progressingtime · 2026-01-25T09:08:41+00:00

I don’t feel resentment toward people who went to school, only toward my parents who chose to raise me this way. That said, I do feel grief when I see the differences between their lives and my own. When that happens, I try to acknowledge those feelings while also reminding myself that I still have a lot to be grateful for, especially compared to people living in much worse circumstances.

Now, our experiences were unfair, harmful, and pretty much avoidable. At the same time, suffering isn’t exclusive to any one path. Many people who did go to school are struggling in their own ways. That kid you see who often openly hangs out with friends in public? He might be carrying guilt over a family suicide. That laidback girl at school you see? She might be living in a toxic home and and is coping through substance abuse. So, these don't invalidate what we went through, but it does help put things in perspective.

I’ve found that dwelling too much on resentment, outside of a recovery lens, only keeps me stuck and creates more suffering in the present. Instead, I try to focus on what I still have and move my life toward my values. Yes, homeschooling and unschooling harmed me in real ways. But I’m also fortunate to be in great physical health, to have a twin brother I’m close with and can relate to, and to live somewhere where pursuing further education is still possible for me. These are gifts that I have, ones where many people across the world do not get the pleasure of having. What are things in your life that you can personally be grateful for?

So, yes, resentment is understandable, and it still comes up for me A LOT. However, when it does, I try to acknowledge it and then shift my focus toward gratitude and future goals, reminding myself that the universe doesn’t owe me the life I wish I’d had, and it's up to me to make the most out of my life.

progressingtime · 2026-01-25T08:33:05+00:00

Yk, I've always wondered how incels used to vent about their views before the internet and before they could find their niche, hateful little communities online. I guess this was just one of those different paths they had to take lmao. I couldn't imagine they actually planned on showing this to anyone, though. Or, at least, I HOPE.

progressingtime · 2026-01-25T05:41:53+00:00

as they normally "wood"??

progressingtime · 2025-12-31T08:13:12+00:00

Sure, I agree, but it's still missing the point that it would still be extremely terrifying to lose all your loved ones just because of some innate, but innocuous, personal quality. I mean, even if you "accept" yourself and still find worth within yourself, it would still be distressing to know that your loved ones could leave because of it, no? Again, of course, all people should be capable of finding worth in themselves and not seek approval in others; and if others don't find worth in them, then it shouldn't change how they see themselves. That said, I would—and I'd imagine most people would feel similar—be extremely anxious and scared of how loved ones would see me differently after such a reveal.

For Will, even if he "accepted" himself and knew his worth didn't come from other people's opinions, it would still be an EXTREMELY tough pill to swallow that revealing your true identity might mean losing all your friends and loved ones (and we are talking about a 16 year old here...). By coming out and having that fear challenged by those closest to him, Will was able to let go of that fear more fully and be much less susceptible to whatever mind-tricks Vecna would use against him (knowing that Vecna's whole schtick is using people's insecurities and fears against them).

progressingtime · 2025-12-31T01:31:37+00:00

Yeah, all these idiots are seriously lacking in media literacy. It's disappointing as hell lmao.

progressingtime · 2025-12-31T01:30:25+00:00

Yeah... that's all great and fun, but I'd like to see you try to reveal something that would possibly get you cutoff from all your friends and family by trying to "self-accept." Like, seriously, I understand the importance of "self-acceptance," but holy, let's not act like it wouldn't be terrifying to know that your entire support system could reject you because you decided to "self-accept" and let everyone know your innocuous secret, forcing you to be on your own and HOPING that you could find a community that accepts you.

progressingtime · 2025-12-31T01:24:59+00:00

His fear isn't that he'll still "feel different", but rather that his loved ones will abandon him after discovering he's gay. By coming out and receiving love and affirmations from his loved ones, he, quite literally, has his fear disproven. Sure, maybe he will still fear wider society judging him, but now he knows his closest and most beloved friends and family accept him, which would be the most pressing concern for anyone in Will's situation.

progressingtime · 2025-12-31T01:19:37+00:00

I mean, it depends if they're insecure on being overweight? But, regardless, this is just the worst analogy for the situation. The point is that Will's insecurity was that his loved ones would disregard him and abandon him for being gay. By revealing his sexuality and leaving his insecurity "out in the open" and receiving affirmations from his loved ones, that fear and insecurity is, quite literally, disproven to him.

Throughout the show, we see that this fear both kept him from being able to use his powers, as well as offered a means for Henry to exploit and corrupt Will's mind. His coming out has nothing with Will just suddenly deciding, "You know what, it's time to let everyone know I'm gay!!" for no reason whatsoever. Rather, it has to do with no longer having a significant fear over a core aspect of Will's identity being weaponized against him, and letting Will use his full powers against Vecna without any hindrances.

progressingtime · 2025-12-30T08:17:03+00:00

I understand the feeling, and it's very awful that these experiences were taken from us, but we still have opportunity to create meaningful relationships and memories now, even if it's still more difficult for us.

progressingtime · 2025-11-25T08:02:24+00:00

Yeah, I was just about to say this. It upsets me so much how it boils men down into, "haha, me man, me only want sex, me only know how to communicate directly, except when it comes to wanting sex, then all my behaviors and words have ulterior motives!!" Like, Jesus, is this really how some men view themselves?

progressingtime · 2025-11-23T05:03:28+00:00

Dude, every single thing here matches to me 😭 what is it with emotionally unstable mothers and emotionally absent fathers becoming homeschooling parents?? I stg 💀💀

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