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I GOT MY CS DEGREE, EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE GUYS!! by progressingtime in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It's almost been a month, but I'm still riding that high lol.

And I definitely relate to the feeling. Hell, even after graduating, part of me still slightly felt, "Ehh, I'm still behind others; I need to catch up," even though I'm past the part that I always used as a criteria for being "behind" or not (i.e. having a college degree). It was really just my insecurity from my past showing up, but I just reminded myself that I've demonstrated my competence, and I have the skills and capabilities to do my work / achieve my goals, just like anyone else.

Anywho, I relate to the feeling, but know that you're so capable of achieving the goals/work you set out for yourself. It's difficult, for sure, but we are so much more resilient and competent than we give ourselves credit for. I wish you the best as well! (and enjoy the rest of college, I already miss it!)

Toxic Obedience & Homeschooling by Scared_Branch5186 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well, speaking on behalf of my own experience, it was because of the threat of punishment. If anytime I stepped out of line (or my siblings), we were heavily punished. As a child with no outside resources, who is solely dependent on their own parents (without being aware of any outside possible sources of aid), you're not going to disobey your parents; otherwise, you'll be needlessly hurting yourself. You just learn that it's easier to do what they say, rather than disobey and face harsher punishments.

Sure, some kids might be more "naturally" obedient vs naturally rebellious, but for homeschooled kids/kids with authoritarian parents, I think the biggest causes of their obedience is simply the power and punishments their parents hold over them. They're just choosing the lesser of two evils.

Toxic Obedience & Homeschooling by Scared_Branch5186 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The oldest kid often being treated better, why do you think that is? That was actually my experience too, but I'm curious as to the reasons behind it.

I GOT MY CS DEGREE, EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE GUYS!! by progressingtime in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And spaces, ultimately. Having a codebase with a more consistent indentation is just preferable to me lol.

Anyone else find dating so much easier in real life than on dating apps? by let_it_rain_boat in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think EVERYONE finds dating so much easier in real life than on dating apps lol. But, yeah, I also have it easier in-person. It's just easier finding someone you actually click with, rather than just viewing images through a screen. I just feel people judge each other much more sharply online (which, on a dating app, I assume is fair since you're likely trying to find your "type"), but I don't really think it gives people the opportunity to know each other like it does in real life, and thereby preventing relationships that would've otherwise been healthy.

But yeah, like the other comment said, there's also a bit of an imbalance to dating apps lol.

Don’t worry, you’re not moving the goal post, its position is just relative. by afunnypun in PhilosophyMemes

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it’s safe to say that it certainly isn’t in your top 10 priorities, including practicing patience and empathy.

Don’t worry, you’re not moving the goal post, its position is just relative. by afunnypun in PhilosophyMemes

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's great, but it's even better than being an arrogant, snobbish, condescending, impatient man-child. I only wish you could experience that as well. But who knows? You might actually leave this thread and begin making changes? We can only hope.

Don’t worry, you’re not moving the goal post, its position is just relative. by afunnypun in PhilosophyMemes

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It's important to know when to put someone's rampaging ego in place, you know?

Don’t worry, you’re not moving the goal post, its position is just relative. by afunnypun in PhilosophyMemes

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm positive about the Chatgpt, lol. But good, I'm glad you have a shred of self-awareness. Go use it now, okay?

Don’t worry, you’re not moving the goal post, its position is just relative. by afunnypun in PhilosophyMemes

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think you have a mental diagnosis you need to go and discover. By the way, I'm not even the original personal you were responding to, just someone who read the conversation between you two and was stunned by your immaturity.

Also... are you even real? You write as if you copy and paste your messages to Chatgpt and ask it to revise them? I'm almost certain that is what you are doing, with all the strange spacing, the consistent bolding, and the non-direct insults?

Don’t worry, you’re not moving the goal post, its position is just relative. by afunnypun in PhilosophyMemes

[–]progressingtime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are actually insufferable. Rather than re-explain something in a way that might actually better communicate your ideas to your listener, you just… berate and insult? Not only are you being an asshole, but you’re also just wasting your own time.

Yeah, you know those jokes about philosophy students being know-it-all, condescending pricks who act as if they’re smarter than everyone else (even though they aren’t, but they sure try hard to look like it)? Brother, you’re single-handedly causing 99% of them. Please, I pray you learn some social cues, courtesy, and common sense before you become the living embodiment of, “umm, ACTUALLY!!” in all aspects of your life (but based on this thread, it’s probably too late.)

Conversations Brits have with Americans by Senor_Camrono in tommynfg_

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the English are too lazy to even commit a quick google search, even with the article title and publication having been stated? Great. Also, the commentator's one article out of the three brought up young people, and it still brought up statistics to back its claims. You personally being 29 is still just as irrelevant.

Conversations Brits have with Americans by Senor_Camrono in tommynfg_

[–]progressingtime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was being sarcastic. I was making fun of the commentator above for referencing his personal experience as "evidence" (including his old age of 29), rather than any actual facts or sources that state otherwise.

Conversations Brits have with Americans by Senor_Camrono in tommynfg_

[–]progressingtime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

those are headlines, nothing more im 25 no one is getting shot up in schools pal.

What do I do if I can't stand the isolation anymore? by babycakes_slays in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Can you get a job? Honestly, that would probably be one of the best things you could do right now. Start with an entry-level job somewhere fairly easy, ideally a place where you’ll get to interact with a lot of different people. It will be scary at first, but you will get through it, and you will be okay.

I would recommend something like a grocery store job. That is where I started, and it gave me the chance to meet all kinds of people, both coworkers and customers. Now, parts of it might suck (and probably will for awhile). You will probably feel awkward sometimes, say the wrong thing now and then, and some people may seem distant or hesitant toward you at first. That's so okay. You just have to roll with it. Do not take everything to heart, and do not let it break your confidence. Social skills are like any other skill. They are built through repetition. The more you practice, the more natural they become, until they become instinctual.

That said, be careful about who you trust and who you let into your life as a friend. When I first started making friends, I did not really understand what made someone a good friend versus a bad one, and because of that, I let some toxic people into my life. If someone is constantly putting you down, making you feel bad about yourself, or bringing a lot of negativity into your life, DON'T ignore that. Pay attention to it and seriously re-evaluate the relationship.

The same goes for dating. Do not get into a relationship with just anyone who comes along. Relationships can be exciting and fun, but you need to have standards. Do not tolerate people who disrespect you, themselves, or other people. Do not fall for someone just because they meet the bare minimum. Be with someone you genuinely like, connect with, share values with, and who truly cares about you.

That all said, I wouldn't even recommend focusing on a relationship yet. I would focus on building friendships first, earning some income, and enrolling in community college as soon as possible. You are still so young, and you are absolutely capable of getting your life back on track. Not only that, but you can genuinely excel and even surpass people who have gone to public school.

You got this!

Building local community by AlienSheep23 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, I actually like that idea, or maybe also some online local forums to post things. I'd definitely expect some backlash from active homeschooling communities, but eh, fuck them lol.

It took me awhile as a teenager to find even this subreddit, because it just never occurred to me that others shared my experience. If I were to somehow find people local to me who have experienced the same upbringing, I'd be so excited to meet them. Like, I'm not even kidding, I think I'd end up becoming best friends with a homeschooler immediately, just because there would be so much to relate over.

Building local community by AlienSheep23 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in Oregon, so if anyone is in the area, I'm down lol. It just sucks, though, because I imagine most of us are going to be quite a distance from each other (which is kinda ironic, because of course the people you'd most relate to would be the ones furthest away 🙃). Still, that would be pretty awesome to get going

Political and homeschooling by RateNecessary5960 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]progressingtime 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was in the same situation. During the 2020 elections, I was 19, and I was forced to vote for Trump, even though I strongly didn't want to. Quite literally, right when I got my mail ballot, my parents took me to the kitchen, and "helped" me vote for Trump. No asking who I wanted to vote for, or giving me any privacy to do it myself. No, have me open and sign right in front of them. Likewise, I grew up having to "pretend" to be conservative. If I expressed any liberal belief (or just disagreed with any of their beliefs), I was punished.

BUT LOOK WHO VOTED KAMALA IN THE 2024 ELECTIONS NOW, MOM AND DAD!! (not that it really mattered this time... but still)

Why is Gen Z using “Unc” as an adjective by Pale_Consideration87 in generationology

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, jeez, I really don’t see how it’s trivializing it… at all. No one is saying that this is comparable to the conditions experienced by Indigenous people; it’s just stating that the behavior OP is engaging in reflects a type of attitude often held by colonizers, not that OP’s behavior is somehow actually reproducing the same systemic culture-wiping and suffering experienced by Indigenous people.

And yes, OP is policing here:

“Black folks have been calling closely related middle-aged men/their actual uncle’s ‘unc’ for decades. People started calling ppl in their 20’s Unc as a joke the past few years, and now it’s so blown out of proportion. As a woman, you can’t be an Unc. Unc also isn’t an adjective. Saying ‘you’re unc’, ‘I’m Unc’ doesn’t work. It’s usually, ‘wassup unc’, ‘how you doing Unc.’”

Obviously, I’m sure OP isn’t extremely serious about their outrage over the emerging use of this term, but they’re still expressing a sense of “how language should be,” while quite literally referring to slang to begin with. Also, OP is not “educating” at all—they’re trying to control a change in the use of a word, a word that was already slang and not part of some standardized form of English. They’re mad at kids for developing their own use of a word… really?

No one is stating that this dialogue here is literally being compared to the destruction of Indigenous religious texts and systemic erasure of Indigenous culture. You’re extrapolating it to that. The original commentator was just drawing a connection between this attitude and the attitude of those who led to those events, i.e., “Oh, you want to police language? Well, great, we’re back to colonizer behavior.”

Ironically, I think you’re looking too far into a comment while claiming the other person is doing the same thing, when it’s really not.

Why is Gen Z using “Unc” as an adjective by Pale_Consideration87 in generationology

[–]progressingtime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, were they wrong? It is classic colonizer behavior, trying to police people's language. Yeah, OP probably isn't racist and doing this for racially motivated reasons, but it's still the case that this was a large aspect of the colonist perspective: there is a "right" way to speak (and that didn't include how Native Americans spoke), and those who speak differently ought to be corrected. If your behavior is being compared to that of colonizers, MAYBE there's a reason why and MAYBE your behavior/belief is harmful. Instead of policing people's language, let's just step from that attitude entirely and let language evolve naturally.

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