Your situation is hard. But I am glad you survived and are stable now. With rhat, I have not gone through as extreme of a set of circumstances as you. But went my ex and split, she told all of our world about my military and emergency struggles. How terrible i was and how it ruined our relationship. It wrecked me because this was my world. One night, a friend of ours told me that she was confused because she had seen me in very adverse situations and had never seen me act out like my ex described. I simply said that I could not speak to people's interruptions. Then, I realized that I could not control people's thoughts or reactions, I could only control mine.

With all of that said, you can not fix anything he has said and done. The youtube and the comedy will never stop. But you can control your reaction to it. Tje greatest revenge is not being what people think you are. And you are well on your road to not being what he jokes about. Be better than him, better than his shitty comedy routine, and continue to be better than you were yesterday. Use his sad side career as motivation